Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

That woman's mother might have died this week. He husband might be having an affair. Her child might have been diagnosed with cancer. She may have and, mental health issues or be ill herself. She might have crippling anxiety and have dragged herself into work.

Then she has to cope with a men abusing her at work and your response is meh?

You need to work on yourself

Really?

Chinny reckon.

ASDA seems to bring out the worst in people. T-Rexig, flicking V’s and running away… must be something in the air vents.

Like the OPs husband this post is absolutely full of shit.

But earlier you said we need more people like her husband and good for him?

Yes, people prepared to act impulsively, let their hair down, and do random things they can't necessarily explain.

So you don't seem to think that sort of behaviour towards staff is unacceptable

Of course abusing staff is unacceptable, I've never suggested otherwise, merely that if you work in retail for long enough you get inured to abusive members of the public, and that what OP's DH did would be a source of bemusement rather than upset in the grander scheme of things.

See what @sweeneytoddsrazor posted. Pretty much the same sentiment from another experienced retail worker.

Sure you might find it 'amusing' to see infantile behaviour others dont. Nor does it mean people have sticks up their arses. Who in this scenario had a stick up their arse?

Nobody. But having dealt with the general public, a large proportion of them do. Typically the sort who march into the premises, purple with rage, ranting and raving, hurling abuse, and STILL expect you to assist them. If those folk with the gigantic sticks up their arses merely V'd and ran away, it would be a blessing.

Yes - imagine a world where MORE people are rude to retail staff and people working in the Pharmacy section were unhelpful and behaved like clowns

Very true. You don’t get this sort of behaviour in Booths.

I’m with you on this 😂 I thought it was hilarious!

Some of these comments 💀

Hmmm. Lots of old (were old 😁), very rude people in ours.

So weird and rude. That poor woman, doing her job and trying to be helpful and some twat insults and mocks her. If he decided he didn't want to try a different brand he could just have said thanks for checking but I'll pass.

Did he go off round Asda pretending to be a TRex and is your name Sharon?

I’m also autistic. You just have an infantile sense of humour. Being autistic has nothing to do with it.

If he's not a 13 year old, then he needs help op, that's not a normal way to behave. If he was really that panicked about having a normal interaction with her, he'd have just walked off. The swearing is totally weird.

And yes, to my knowledge movicol and laxido are the sane thing - my DC has prescription for long term constipation issues and they changed it from one to the other because they were sane thing but knew was cheaper. So more fool him for missing out on getting what he needs.

Yes, or the comment is purposely provocative.

It does when it's a response to the question "are you right in the head".

@OneAmberGoose why did you think it was hilarious. Someone had spent time trying to find out if this medication was suitable and then got abused and also they had wasted their time, which could have been spent serving another customer.

Are you rude to retail staff too and think it is amusing? Are you rude to other people for your amusement? If you have DC have you taught them to treat retail staff like this?

Or Fortnum and Masons 🤣🤣🤣

That sounds sensible so now I'm even more puzzled that you think it was funny for OP's DH to be unacceptably rude to the member of staff who was trying to help him by checking with the pharmacist.

TBH, the staff member probably just though he was an absolute childish twat and she would be right but OP is not being unreasonable to find his behaviour rude, juvenile and really embarrassing.

And while he is amused, another person has been offended and quite possibly upset? Im all for not taking life too seriously but you dont do it at the expense of others. Thats not autism, that's is being a cunt on purpose.

They're shit these days actually, it probably wouldn't surprise me.

I hope the staff member reported him. He should be banned from the store. Shop workers have more than enough idiots to deal with so I think you are right to be completely mortified by him.

I would ask him to go back to the store and apologise to that staff member. If im sworn at in my job (healthcare), we are told by our managers we have every right to refuse to book medical appointments for that person. Your husband doesn’t deserve the right to go in that store if he’s rude to staff.

If this is very out of character (as it’s so bizarre) and he’s never done anything like it before, i’d be looking at his mental health situation.

You need to work on yourself

Quite possibly. I've never claimed to be the finished article.

Unfortunately I'm also bone idle and have no interest in self-improvement. 😐

No. You might want to act the infantile idiot and/or apparently appreciate it so much in others but just because you're that sort doesn't mean the rest of us have to like it or go along with it.

The rest of us would like a bit of normality, not the weird, clownish, idiotic and downright rude behaviours some people apparently find so endearing.