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Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

547 replies

EllyRoff · 09/08/2025 09:01

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

OP posts:
ANiceBigCupOfTea · 09/08/2025 16:49

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 09/08/2025 09:21

If you are in retail and are upset by being sworn at, then you either haven't been in the job very long, or you're not going to last in the job very long. Being sworn at doesn't even register on the scale of the shit you have to put up with when it comes to the general public.

Yep.
It's entitlement, threats and trying to make me feel tiny because the customer isn't getting their way that does my head in.
A bit of foul language doesn't even register with me to be honest.
ETA I don't work in retail though I have in the past but I do work with the general public and have for a long time. You see the best and worst of humanity every day.

Thingyfanding · 09/08/2025 16:50

Sounds like a bellend

HonoraCausa · 09/08/2025 17:21

Your DH’s behaviour was absolutely deranged. Is he having some sort of mental breakdown or does he often behave like a rude child?

Weepixie · 09/08/2025 17:33

Step5678 · 09/08/2025 09:06

How awful. Who knows what kind of day that pharmacist was having then some pig wastes her time and swears at her

I hope he made such an arse of himself she’s still laughing about it because it made her day.

BunnyLake · 09/08/2025 17:37

DeLaRuiz · 09/08/2025 13:26

You contradicted me, in the funniest way! Hahahaha. Op’s story made me laugh, I found it hilarious.

You dogmatically telling me it’s not hilarious, also made laugh.

you can laugh, or not, depending on your mindset and mood. You evidently want me to feel the same as you do. I don’t.

You sound like you’re verging on hysteria 😂

Catpiece · 09/08/2025 17:37

BunnyLake · 09/08/2025 13:56

Weird. Really weird.

So you're ok with weird, obnoxious , rude behaviour even if you’re the recipient of it?

It’s not remotely funny is it. It’s the behaviour of a moron

Catpiece · 09/08/2025 17:38

Thingyfanding · 09/08/2025 16:50

Sounds like a bellend

Big time.

MyLimeGuide · 09/08/2025 17:39

You are married to a Chav.

pippapoo62 · 09/08/2025 17:40

Hmmmmmmmmm as well

MyLimeGuide · 09/08/2025 17:41

Does he wear light grey joggers and a matching sweater 24/7?

GRex · 09/08/2025 17:46

He needs to go to a GP for proper testing. Sudden random behaviour that you know is out of character should have you concerned and looking for the cause rather than annoyed. I wouldn't speculate as there could be various issues, but please ensure a full blood panel and UTI tests.

BunnyLake · 09/08/2025 17:50

Catpiece · 09/08/2025 17:37

It’s not remotely funny is it. It’s the behaviour of a moron

There’s certainly some odd senses of humour on here. I have a good sense of humour but just can’t see the funny in this. OP’s dh could be ill and if not then he has no social graces, and poor emotional regulation, and a woman got sworn at while working. Someone explain the funny!! Yet some have been reduced to ‘hysterics’ by it 🙄

HonoraCausa · 09/08/2025 17:55

Sophiehoney · 09/08/2025 15:36

As the mother of a 12yo, I find this very insulting 😂
I don't know any 12 year olds who would behave like this

Fair point!

BunnyLake · 09/08/2025 18:03

Weepixie · 09/08/2025 17:33

I hope he made such an arse of himself she’s still laughing about it because it made her day.

On a bad day if a grown man stuck his two fingers up at me it would really upset me and put a cloud over my day. On a good day I would think they were either ill or an ignorant fool and I’d just be thankful it’s not me they’re going home to.

Either way I just wouldn’t find it funny. I hate anti social behaviour, it can have a really negative effect on me. I got called a fat cow once by a total stranger (a man) while minding my own business, it made feel really down (not because I was overweight but it felt like such an aggressive gesture by someone I didn't even know), who just happened to pass me by on the street. (I wasn’t even that overweight, maybe a stone but that’s irrelevant). Anyone who thinks such aggressive behaviours towards unsuspecting strangers is funny are probably the types who do it.

thepariscrimefiles · 09/08/2025 18:10

BrendaSmall · 09/08/2025 16:04

You say at the end he swore, you don’t mention that in the beginning of your story!

She said he stuck two fingers up at the member of staff serving him. That gesture means 'fuck off'.

DBD1975 · 09/08/2025 18:13

Starlight7080 · 09/08/2025 09:05

This is so weird. Does he often behave like a 12 year old ? If my dh did this i would think he was having a mini breakdown .

There is no world where this is acceptable. It isn't strange behaviour it is totally bonkers behaviour, this can't be an isolated random incident. OP's husband cannot be a usually pleasant and calm individual who has done this as a one-off.
I can only imagine he is either totally ignorant or on the verge of a breakdown. If it is the former I wouldn't want to live with someone like this, if it is the latter he needs help.

Catpiece · 09/08/2025 18:15

BunnyLake · 09/08/2025 17:50

There’s certainly some odd senses of humour on here. I have a good sense of humour but just can’t see the funny in this. OP’s dh could be ill and if not then he has no social graces, and poor emotional regulation, and a woman got sworn at while working. Someone explain the funny!! Yet some have been reduced to ‘hysterics’ by it 🙄

Not my sense of humour whatsoever. I’d think he’d had some sort of episode.

SeasalterSadie · 09/08/2025 18:19

Are you married to Angry Kid?

BunnyLake · 09/08/2025 18:19

Catpiece · 09/08/2025 18:15

Not my sense of humour whatsoever. I’d think he’d had some sort of episode.

It does sound like it if it’s not the norm. If he isn’t normally like it then I think it could be the UTI.

LillyPJ · 09/08/2025 18:23

Is he 12?

Piccante · 09/08/2025 18:24

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 09/08/2025 09:04

The world needs far more individuals like your DH. Far too many people taking themselves far too seriously. Good on him.

Maybe you need some Laxido too, as you’re also full of …

Beammeupscotty2025 · 09/08/2025 18:30

I’m guessing he does not have a job! Do you?

WellIquitelikesprouts · 09/08/2025 18:31

rubyslippers · 09/08/2025 09:04

How utterly bizarre
is he normally so childish and rude?

That is shocking behaviour. Is there some mental health issue?

Brownieshonour · 09/08/2025 18:47

That’s even worse than doing T rex in Asda.

Eveninggin · 09/08/2025 18:53

Im sorry but that would give me the instant ick and I could never look at him the same way again. It would probably be the end of the relationship for me tbh.