Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

Being autistic doesn’t mean you have to be wilfully obnoxious.

Are you ok?

As far as I'm aware, yes, thanks for asking.

So you do this kind of thing yourself to people who haven’t done anything wrong?

No. If I am acting up it's only ever with a group of close friends who do the same and share the same puerile sense of humour.

Why, what motivates you?

Laughs, in the main.

Do your friends (?) find you odd?

Quite possibly, but then I think they are a bunch of weirdos as well, so I guess we're even?

Well at least you’ve admitted it’s puerile.

Well since other users keep directly quoting me, and asking me questions about me, and about my posts, who the hell else am I supposed to "centre" in my replies? The late Queen Mother?

I did that right at the very beginning of the thread, to be fair.

It’s not hilarious. Having a grown man, a total stranger, behave so obnoxiously towards you when you haven’t done anything wrong can be extremely upsetting.

The low standards of some people’s behaviour and wilful lack of social skills is depressing.

Yeah, that's the first thing I was gonna say. Is he on the spectrum?Or have a mental health condition?

What the actual fuck. Talk about a man who can’t process or control his emotions.

Adults behaving in a puerile way when they know they’re doing it isn’t fun it’s sad and pathetic. I suspect yours has an element of attention seeking considering your awareness of it.

OP’s DH behaved in an odd and not mentally stable way. I would be concerned and would need to have a calm talk with him about his reaction.

@XDownwiththissortofthingX You have been writing paragraphs about yourself throughout the thread. Self awareness is obviously not your forte.

Their self absorption is though.

I'm autistic and have an infantile sense of humour. I have also worked in retail, and this isn't remotely funny.

You know that humour is subjective, right?

It could very well be that. UTIs can have really weird effects on people.

Are you okay?! OP I think your DH is secretly on mumsnet…..

I find asking if he's on the spectrum insulting to people who are, including myself.

In response to questions asked in direct quotes.

Am I not permitted to reply to direct questions?

If I'm writing paragraphs, that's because one of my autistic traits is extreme pedantry, so it doesn't sit with me to think that I'm not adequately or clearly explaining myself, hence why the explanations tend to go to lengths.

Clearly. Very subjective in your case.

You’re right it is subjective. You no doubt think you’re hilarious. I suspect many others don’t find you at all funny if your idea of hilarity is swearing at strangers.

Oh, godEverybody's offended an insulted these days.

My partners on the spectrum and he blows up at people in the street and on public transport Because he expects everybody to know, telepathically, what triggers his autism.

Go off and be offended.I really don't care autistic people aren't all the same.

I don't understand why people say I find that offensive. So what be offended I don't care

World is still turning though you're offended, madam.

your idea of hilarity is swearing at strangers

Bollocks 😛

A certain poster on here is not doing you any favours then.

Seriously, you’re not funny.

Seriously, I don't care about your opinion.

I am trying to understand where you’re coming from. Are you saying that you find this kind of behaviour hilarious and not offensive? And the humour of it outweighs any potential offence because you have a thick skin. So you would like a world where people behaved in an immature way like this as you would find it funny. And you would like others not to get upset or offended by being sworn at as you don’t see it as a big deal?

That does not however mean that you would go around doing the same as this man?

Have I got this right?