Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

Would he stick 2 fingers up to a pharmacist who was helping him with medication information?

This is hilarious. Hahahahaha. Your husband is doolally, btw.

Are you for real! A grown man, sticking his 2 fingers up and running off, just because he was concerned he wouldn’t get the right medication.
Very bizarre behaviour, as is yours, you think the world needs more people like this🥴

Very inappropriate behavior. Is this normal for him or new?
Don't mean to alarm you but sometimes neurological conditions such as brain tumours can make people suddenly start behaving out of character.

How utterly bizarre of him! This is so not normal OP. Really…is he having a mental health crisis?

Yuck.You’re right, with there’s no excuse though.

This is a new level of bizarre 🤣🤣🤣🤣

You are not understanding that this behaviour is rude

Err no. I understand perfectly well that some people find it rude, perhaps even the vast majority of people. That doesn't mean I also have to find it rude, or at least, rude enough to the point whereby it offends me.

If it offends you, then yes, object, protest, etc.

My cat is like this also.

Then he goes in his tray, flings open the sitting room door, and does wall-of-death for about ten minutes before finally calming down.

@XDownwiththissortofthingX Why do you want more people to behave in ways that you understand to be offensive and abusive, to most people? Can you understand that your amusement does not supersede others basic right to do their job without being sworn at?

Yet again, I have never said I want more people to be offensive and abusive.

Random, spontaneous, and even bizarre behaviour, yes, all for it. That does not also have to be abusive or offensive.

As the behaviour wasn’t directed at you it doesn’t really matter that you wouldn’t have been offended.
To say that more people should behave like that and also recognising that most people would be offended doesn’t really make sense.

I would actually get him to see a doctor to rule out any neuro/mental health issue. This is actually really concerning.

Why does it "not make sense"?

I find it mildly amusing, hence why I'm not bothered by it.

If the person it's directed at finds it offensive, then it's up to them to deal with that and take it to some sort of conclusion. It's not my responsibility, so what I think of the behaviour is neither here nor there. It happened to someone else, not me, it's not for me to tell the person it happened to how to react or that their feelings are right or wrong, but conversely, the fact I find it amusing has no bearing on the event or the aftermath whatsoever either, so I'm really struggling to understand why it's apparently such an issue that I'd have a wee giggle if the same thing happened to me.

Also, if this was my DH, I'd share the same concerns about health, and after I'd apologised to the staff member, I'd probably admonish him as well, but I'd definitely be doing so half-heartedly and while trying to suppress a fit of the giggles.

The problem is that the relationship between the customer and the staff working in retail is unequal. The customers feel that they can be as rude and abusive as they like but the member of staff has to remain polite at all times. If a member of staff retaliated in a similar fashion, I'm sure that they would be subject to disciplinary procedures.

OP's DH hadn't received poor service so there was absolutely no reason for him not to thank her politely for checking but say he preferred to go elsewhere to try and find somewhere that stocks Laxido.

Two fingers? Not just the middle finger?

Excellent. Proper old-school British rudeness. None of this imported American rubbish. He's sustaining the use of a vulgar gesture that boasts a long and celebrated history in this sceptred isle, and if he plays his cards right he could probably get a grant from the Arts Council. I hope you were filming - this could go viral.

I mean, some might say his action was reprehensible, but it could also be seen as an important cultural flashpoint, like my dad refusing to refer to a Marathon as Snickers.

Not all peculiar behaviour is whacky fun guy behaviour.
his behaviour was just odd and inappropriate.

.

@WalkDontWalk

I like the cut of your dad's jib.

Quite.

This poster does not seem to recognise that this post is not about them, and keeps centering themselves in all responses.

You sound vile.Just because you think it’s funny, for someone to randomly stick their fingers up to someone, who was just trying to do their job and help them, everyone should be ok with it.
The world definitely, doesn’t need more people like 🤡 you in it.

Are you ok? So you do this kind of thing yourself to people who haven’t done anything wrong? Why, what motivates you? Do your friends (?) find you odd?

He sounds like a naughty schoolboy who was put up for a dare. I‘d be monitoring his mental health.

The pharmacist did not deserve the middle finger. Why couldn’t he just leave if he changed his mind?

We’re all falling for this then are we?

On drugs for sure… the hardcore ones that make you jittery