Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

Really, you’re being utterly ridiculous, autism aside, you seriously think abusing people is funny. You are a thoroughly nasty piece of work.

It appears woodland calm also has problems lol

Pardon?

I'm not attempting to "intellectualise" anything. Bizarre behaviour interests and amuses me, hence why I'm all for more of it. It isn't any more profound than that.

For the umpteenth time, no, I do not think people abusing people is funny.

Sometimes when people completely lose the run of themselves to the point whereby they end up in a havering, spluttering mess, yes, it is actually funny.

This is really, really odd. If my DH did this I'd think he was having some kind of mental breakdown.

Bizarre behavior is usually the result of a medical issue. The last time I saw a family member act unusually, it was a brain tumor. There is nothing funny about it.

I work with the public… behaviour like this is a smack in the face to us, as we’re not allowed to retaliate. We frequently get sworn at, touched inappropriately and all sorts of nonsense by people like your husband. We have to suck it up.

what on earth possessed him to do that? Is he 14 and showing off to his mates?

Id have him back there with some flowers and an apology.
Wether I could be around him again, I don’t know - bizarre behaviour.

I'm not married, and I certainly don't have a husband 😜

I'd have demanded he went back with a huge bunch of flowers and apology from said shop at the time....you described a thoughtless, uncaring adult ...

OP- You said he has a UTI! I hope he is getting medical treatment for that, because UTI's aren't as common in men and can be a sign of underlying medical issues.

100% this.

If you’ve ever worked in some sort of serving job, you’ll know that this sort of childish nonsense is a thorough pain in the ass. You are a customer not the Court Jester. You make our job way more difficult than it needs to be. If we object, out comes the “autism cards”
You are not funny.
You are a bloody nuisance.

Bizarre behaviour interests me too but rudeness doesn’t amuse me.

Apologies if I inadvertently married you off!
I was answering the OP but tagged the wrong person.

Having worked in retail, I'm entirely in agreement with you.

I doesn't mean I can't then also laugh at some of the bizarre things customers get up to, or the ridiculous expectations and demands they still insist upon repeating even after they've been abusive.

Again, this is clearly a matter of personal tolerance for this sort of thing, and as a few other retail workers have intimated, for some of us what OP's husband did would barely register beyond provoking bemusement.

Oh dear!

I’d be absolutely mortified if my child went round sticking their Vs up at workers.

It’s not cute or funny, it’s being a rude little shit and my child would be told off for it.

Would you actually be ok with your child doing this?

If so, you are an awful parent.
As you think it’s funny for a grown adult to do this, then I assume you think it’s acceptable for kids to do this too.

I’d be concerned about his mental state.

It’s not funny or amusing at all.

I know. She was just trying to be helpful.

But that is exactly what you are doing. You are not understanding that this behaviour is rude.

Now you have had it explained to you that being sworn out with fingers like this, is a rude thing to do, do you understand that most people would find that offensive and we do not need more people like that in the world? It’s not nice to upset people who are just doing their job. Do you see that now?

I also hate when people use the autism excuse to be rude or badly behaved because most autistic people are not like that and it tars everyone with the same brush.

If you’re a twat, then it’s because you’re a twat and nothing to do with your autism.

This. I mean, it's not just rude is it? It's weird in an adult man. Really weird. Like something a five year old would do just after they learn giving a finger is rude.

If your dh is prone to totally bizarre and strange outbursts in entirely normal situations then it's obviously not going to be a surprise.
If this was my dh though we'd be going for a GP appointment because I'd be worrying there was something significantly wrong with him.

On a serious note OP, if this behaviour persists, perhaps he should go to the doctors. Disinhibited behaviour can v occasionally indicate brain pathology.

My dad is like a caged lunatic when he needs a shit, totally and utterly unreasonable - maybe it's that? No excuse thou!

Sorry, my mistake.

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