Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

Of course it's an option. I wouldn't likely prompt a mumsnet thread or give anyone something to talk about though, which is almost a part of my point.

The world is already chock full of people just quietly getting on with their day, doing totally mundane things in totally mundane ways. It's the bizarre and the unusual that provide the talking points. A grown man acting bizarrely in an otherwise mundane scenario is, in itself, inherently interesting, which is why I'd far rather see more of the unusual than the mundane, because the mundane isn't interesting at all.

Sticking two fingers up is swearing. Phone your GP and swear at the receptionist and see what happens. There’s a message before you ring ours to say the call will be terminated if staff members are abused.

Not overreacting to suggest he goes and apologises is it really?

Well it's a shame XDownwiththissortofthingX derailed the thread so badly that it probably distracted from some of the serious advice the OP was given, but I did enjoy a nostalgic read back through Sharon's T-rex thread!

Try phoning your GP and stick your fingers up at them down the phone.

What the actual fuck?

The world really doesn't need more men behaving like knobheads and especially to shop workers just doing their job.

I think going to the GP is probably an excellent idea for this chap.

You can run his errands for him when he gets banned from the store.

Store assistant probably feels sorry for you, if anything. I would.

I agree on that and did say in my first reply about mental health (if this is completely out of character). The fact OP posted suggests this isn’t his normal behaviour.

Yes, that has always been my stance.

But more and more, trolling/mildly funny joking online becomes a platform for weirdos and oddballs to try to demand that the rest of us accept/like/celebrate/join in with all kinds of twattish behaviour because apparently it's so 'interesting' and we all should be so much more like them.

No. I reserve the right to 'yuck your yum' - talk about infantile! And no, you shouldn't bring your whole obnoxious self to work!!

**The above in reply to @thebraveryofbeingoutofrange; lost the quote!

There is a massive difference between acting like a clown and being abusive to shop staff who are trying to help you.
OP your DH is a twat. Is he one of those people who thinks he can treat retail staff like shit because he doesn't see them as real people. Amount of abuse I used to get in retail was insane.

Regularly! It’s an underrated form of communication, I reckon I could use it on a few of you lot 😂

I can understand panicking and leaving the shop.
Sometimes our fight or flight kicks in, even in the most minor situations.

But to swear at someone trying to help him is awful and I’d be mortified by his behaviour.

I’d be telling him to go back and apologise but that’s almost reinforcing his childish behaviour because you’re having to act like the parent.

Do you find you have to act like his parent a lot?

To quote your own user name “Down with this sort of thing”
the guy was a total dick. How dare he treat the assistant like that when she was only doing her job. In fact she was going above and beyond to find out specific information for him.

I really hope he is going back to apologise and explain himself. This is really odd behaviour.1

Surely not?!

Yes he does actually! I never thought about that

Yes he got it from boots (I didn’t go in with him!)

Oh stop trying to intellectualise stupidity and antisocial behaviour with the "so little of what might happen does happen" wide eyed wonder. Salvador Dali painted incredible pictures based on his dreams and a new emerging form of art. He didn't make obscene gestures at shop staff and tell himself he was such a maverick.

In that case I think @Lazygardener has a really good point.

Wow you honestly need to keep an eye on him this isn't normal behaviour.

But why would you do that to shop staff?

Yip, seconding this shout.

I have a relative who encounters repeated UTI's and their behaviour becomes completely unmanageable during a flare up, to the point whereby they really aren't themselves. Funnily enough, one of the tell-tale signs is that they become an order of magnitude more verbally abusive, and they are already pretty wild when they are "well".

If it’s out of character I would be concerned.
If it isn’t out of character what are you doing with him?

Personally I would apologise for having such a rude husband so that they know that you aren’t supportive of his behaviour.