Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

It was rude, but not abuse imho.
OP is unreasonable to still be furious about it,
in the moment sure, but hours and hours all the way to the following day?

If the sexes were reversed, we’d be calling the partner still furious at his wife for panicking in ASDA abusive.

Oh, are you one of those who takes everything literally? I’ll make a note for future reference if so.

🤨 literally I said there may be more going on than simple constipation and as a matter of fact constipation is one symptom of many more serious medical conditions that can cause this type of bizarre behaviour.

In addition, the man himself said he panicked and his actions support that. I’m not reaching, I’m going off the evidence,

Unlike you who is assuming “dickish” intent.

😂

So if a parent stuck their fingers up at a teacher (for not being happy with something at school), you wouldn’t say that’s abusing the teacher? Or a policeman?

This is the same OP whose husband didn’t know whether she was the beneficiary of his pension or not, and had advised her to leave the NHS pension. She disappeared from that thread too.

Very odd and I'd be worried about his mental health/capacity. Even my 7 year old would know that isn't appropriate even when stressed or nervous. Maybe ask him to visit his GP to check there isn't anything else going on (that might lower inhibitions/cause impulsiveness).

That is not even remotely similar.Context and intent matters,

I couldn't stay married to a man who acted like a spoiled child.

Abused 😂 having two fingers stuck up at you is hardly being abused. Don’t be such a wet weekend. Probably gave her something to go home and talk about for a change. I worked in retail for a long time and stories like that made my day, a mad customer was always a reason for a laugh. Take the rod out your backside and stick a smile on your face for a change x

Not abuse, no. Just being a cock womble. As OPs have said, I'd be concerned about his mental wellbeing.

@LoremIpsumCici so when he does similar behaviour when drunk can that be excused too. Also if this was a real panic attack wouldn’t he be upset by his behaviour when he had time to calm down and reflect back

So he obviously didn’t actually need the Laxido then if he just “ran off”?

Is there any better way to immediately get “the ick”?! 🤢

That would seriously concern me if it's out of character for him. I'd be thinking there was a brain tumour or something.

And. No. Why would flipping the bird to a teacher be abusing a policeman?

Is there a male equivalent of mumsnet? And do they carry a plethora of posts about women's selfish, childish and downright idiotic behaviour? Or is it just men who do these things? Asking for a friend.

If you stick your fingers up at anyone (unless its clearly a joke between two friends - thinking of teenage boys in the playground here), its abuse.

Im so glad no one in my family would ever treat another person like that. If I went into a shop and was unhappy in anyway with the service, i’d just leave. If it was something really bad, then there’s the option to speak to a manager. No one should ever be sticking their fingers up at anyone in a public facing role.

Are these the options then? Either act the clown or walk around with massive sticks up our arses? Why not just collect the medication you requested and say thanks? There’s always that option.

😁

Why are you asking this when the OP said in the first post "I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away."?

I think you're overreacting.

@EllyRoff has he got his medication yet?

Imagine having such low standards that you dont bat an eyelid at having two fingers stuck up you. I guess how we treat others says alot on our opinion about this. Do you regularly stick two fingers up at others?

You might laugh at it, you dont know that worker did. Regardless of how you feel, retail workers dont deserve that behaviour towards them.

Yes. It's called society. And women could do better than incredulous posts where other women flap about in responses.

When women do behave oddly it tends to be attributed to 'hormones'...