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To think that, under the threat of "Let the war begin", there should be specific laws against male's entering female private spaces (and vice versa)

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 08/08/2025 14:46

After being told they will not be allowed to enter female toilets, changing rooms, clubs and other private sexed spaces, men have vowed to "fight" or be arrested “multiple times

https://archive.ph/tdkd0

"Let the war begin. Fingers crossed. You need to fight for all of us globally. It’s a war."

I think it is reasonable to have a specific crime for this sort of violation of rights and privacy, rather than Outraging public decency, Voyeurism, Exposure/ indecent exposure.

It seems clear that without firm dealing with, men are going to violate these spaces again and again.

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CohensDiamondTeeth · 11/08/2025 16:58

Tandora · 11/08/2025 16:46

I’ve explained this multiple times in multiple ways. Being trans is a bio-psychological state/ cognitive experience akin to all sorts of cognitive experiences that we wouldn’t think for a second to confuse with a “philosophical belief”.

Mmm word salad for dinner again? Ooh I don't know, I'm still pretty stuffed from the massive word salad you served us earlier.

"bio-psychological state"

This is a great example of how you deliberately ambiguously phrase things. It is meant to convey the larger idea of something extremely profound but really it is just a euphemism for being a live breathing and thinking human being.

None of us are stupid Tandora, although you keep treating us as though we are. We can read and understand simple English language when it isn't deliberately mangled and twisted as you are prone to do to it.

If the quoted phrase above actually means something other than... well a description for the living and conscious state of being in humans, how about you attempt to explain exactly what you mean when you use it.

I am expecting you to come back with either nothing, or more salad - please no, I'll burst if I have another bite! 😂

borntobequiet · 11/08/2025 16:59

Tandora · 11/08/2025 14:54

Being trans is not a philosophical belief.

It’s not reality.

ArabellaScott · 11/08/2025 17:00

Tandora · 11/08/2025 16:41

this Is false. I do not promote “propaganda”, I promote accurate and meticulously reasoned information based on years of specialised scientific study.

Yet to readers it comes across as the opposite. I understand it's difficult to discuss when you seem to be the only person trying to make the arguments you are making, so I don't want to come across as harsh, but your posts generally just don't make sense. They appear to be an exercise in evasion. Confident assertions aren't convincing if they're not backed up with reasoning and/or evidence.

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:01

borntobequiet · 11/08/2025 16:59

It’s not reality.

It's timeywhimey.

Of course it's reality.

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:02

CohensDiamondTeeth · 11/08/2025 16:58

Mmm word salad for dinner again? Ooh I don't know, I'm still pretty stuffed from the massive word salad you served us earlier.

"bio-psychological state"

This is a great example of how you deliberately ambiguously phrase things. It is meant to convey the larger idea of something extremely profound but really it is just a euphemism for being a live breathing and thinking human being.

None of us are stupid Tandora, although you keep treating us as though we are. We can read and understand simple English language when it isn't deliberately mangled and twisted as you are prone to do to it.

If the quoted phrase above actually means something other than... well a description for the living and conscious state of being in humans, how about you attempt to explain exactly what you mean when you use it.

I am expecting you to come back with either nothing, or more salad - please no, I'll burst if I have another bite! 😂

I’m really not trying to be ambiguous , I’m trying to explain it as simply as I can. Those words have meanings.

Every time you hear something unfamiliar - you think you can dismiss it by calling it a “word salad”. I see this a lot on mumsnet .

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:03

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:02

I’m really not trying to be ambiguous , I’m trying to explain it as simply as I can. Those words have meanings.

Every time you hear something unfamiliar - you think you can dismiss it by calling it a “word salad”. I see this a lot on mumsnet .

Yes you are.

borntobequiet · 11/08/2025 17:04

Tandora · 11/08/2025 15:17

Painkillers are often used to treat phantom limb pain:

That does make sense, because how we experience pain is genuinely complex and we don’t entirely know how some painkillers work.

borntobequiet · 11/08/2025 17:05

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ArabellaScott · 11/08/2025 17:06

borntobequiet · 11/08/2025 17:04

That does make sense, because how we experience pain is genuinely complex and we don’t entirely know how some painkillers work.

From the cursory google I did, there's no good evidence why anyone should treat PLP with painkillers! Sometimes medics make poor decisions that aren't based on evidence.

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:07

ArabellaScott · 11/08/2025 17:00

Yet to readers it comes across as the opposite. I understand it's difficult to discuss when you seem to be the only person trying to make the arguments you are making, so I don't want to come across as harsh, but your posts generally just don't make sense. They appear to be an exercise in evasion. Confident assertions aren't convincing if they're not backed up with reasoning and/or evidence.

Yet to readers it comes across as the opposite..but your posts generally just don't make sense.

Im not sure the evidence entirely supports that. If that were the case I suspect people wouldn’t spend so long and work so hard at trying to undermine me. When I read posts that are simply incoherent I tend to just ignore them .

I understand that some of what I say might not be perfectly expressed, sound ambiguous or overly complex. It’s actually a really complex topic and not easy to explain in simple/ brief terms. But I do my best and I think on the whole i do a pretty good job at it.

Most of the “feedback” I receive I well understand isn’t a reflection of me, but rather the deeply intrenched beliefs / prejudices that people have already formed on this subject and the resistance to having those contradicted/ challenged.

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:08

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:03

Yes you are.

No im not 🤷🏼‍♀️

spannasaurus · 11/08/2025 17:10

I read an article recently about someone who suffered with phantom limb pain and one of the treatments was to stand in front of a mirror looking at the missing limb when experiencing pain. I think it's an attempt to get the brain to recognise that there is no limb.

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:14

Also @ArabellaScott I really appreciate the softer tone you have taken in this thread, feels like I am speaking to a human for a change which is nice.

I’m starting to realise that understanding on this topic is unlikely to be achieved through intellectual argument- it’s just too confusing for people. I think human connection / empathy is going to be the only way. I’m not going to be the best person to foster that, hence probably a waste of time being here at all . Sigh.

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:19

Some scientific stuff you can read online says the following.

Excessive or Insufficient Detail:
Liars may overcompensate with unnecessary details to try and convince you or, conversely, provide too little detail, making their story suspicious.

And

When truth-telling witnesses describe what they saw and are asked: “Is there anything else?” more details are revealed. But when liars are asked to go beyond their prepared stories, few to no other details are offered.

Researchers quoted in the American Psychological Association (APA) refer to these people as “liars who deceive by omission,” who, when asked to answer questions or provide more details, typically offer less than those telling the truth. This can be quantified through transcripts of phone calls, witness statements, or noticed by an absence of descriptive words in a conversation.

Another way researchers verify the truth is by asking people to tell events backward. Truth-tellers will stick to the same story while offering more details, while liars often get tripped up and create a different story while not adding detail to the original.

On the flip side, researchers from Harvard Business School determined that liars trying to deceive stretch the truth with too many words. Since such a liar may make up things as they go, they may also tend to add excessive detail to convince themselves or others of what they are saying. They may also embellish with words that a person telling the truth wouldn’t think of adding.

Fascinating stuff isn't it?

CohensDiamondTeeth · 11/08/2025 17:19

Tandora · 11/08/2025 16:55

That's not what I..have seen from you. Ever.

That’s because you hold your own strong ideas/ opinions on this subject rooted in ignorance and prejudice , and you don’t like those to be contradicted.

It’s what you see- I understand that. I certainly don’t take it personally or consider it to be any reflection on me.

Edited

Ha ha! Nope!

I actually enjoy learning new things, it's one of the things about life I find most enjoyable, so having my prior knowledge and beliefs challenged is usually welcome.

Of course I am human, so I haven't always responded in an immediately positive way when I have been proved wrong, but I am always open to changing my previously held beliefs if shown evidence that I am wrong, and have changed my position on other matters before after discussion with people.

I am not prejudiced (or bigoted or phobic) at all, along with many GC people I was pretty liberal before the TRAs started crossing boundaries.

I'm not going to give a timeline of my involvement in this subject, but I don't think I'm ignorant either.

Thank you for showcasing another aspect of your discursive style, when you have no tenable position to defend because your ideology is built on a foundation of quicksand, you can shout that people are too stupid, too prejudiced, too ignorant, bigoted, phobic, closed minded you think too much, understand too well, and won't do what I tell you.

Fill your boots, you'll excuse me for not being bothered.

After all you do our work for us, you're a veteran of Operation Let Them Speak and we appreciate your contribution to the cause

DustyWindowsills · 11/08/2025 17:22

Tandora · 11/08/2025 16:41

this Is false. I do not promote “propaganda”, I promote accurate and meticulously reasoned information based on years of specialised scientific study.

Do you? I must have missed that. 🤔

akkakk · 11/08/2025 17:22

Tandora · 11/08/2025 16:13

The NHs is absolutely not riddled with doctors who deny that trans women were registered male at birth, or May have XY chromosomes or testes etc etc. they can acknowledge these bodily factors while also recognising/ affirming the reality of trans experience and “treating” it in the best way they know how .

really?!

Doctors at the British Medical Association (BMA) have condemned the Supreme Court’s ruling on biological sex, dubbing it “biologically nonsensical” and “scientifically illiterate”.

The union branch representing resident doctors – made up of around 50,000 medics previously known as junior doctors - passed a motion on Saturday criticising the judgement, which ruled that trans women are not legally women under the Equalities Act.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/trans-gender-supreme-court-ruling-bma-doctors-b2741304.html

Doctors condemn Supreme Court ruling on trans women as ‘scientifically illiterate’

The resident doctors’ wing of the BMA argued that a binary divide between sex and gender ‘has no basis in science or medicine while being actively harmful to transgender and gender-diverse people’

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/trans-gender-supreme-court-ruling-bma-doctors-b2741304.html

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:24

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:19

Some scientific stuff you can read online says the following.

Excessive or Insufficient Detail:
Liars may overcompensate with unnecessary details to try and convince you or, conversely, provide too little detail, making their story suspicious.

And

When truth-telling witnesses describe what they saw and are asked: “Is there anything else?” more details are revealed. But when liars are asked to go beyond their prepared stories, few to no other details are offered.

Researchers quoted in the American Psychological Association (APA) refer to these people as “liars who deceive by omission,” who, when asked to answer questions or provide more details, typically offer less than those telling the truth. This can be quantified through transcripts of phone calls, witness statements, or noticed by an absence of descriptive words in a conversation.

Another way researchers verify the truth is by asking people to tell events backward. Truth-tellers will stick to the same story while offering more details, while liars often get tripped up and create a different story while not adding detail to the original.

On the flip side, researchers from Harvard Business School determined that liars trying to deceive stretch the truth with too many words. Since such a liar may make up things as they go, they may also tend to add excessive detail to convince themselves or others of what they are saying. They may also embellish with words that a person telling the truth wouldn’t think of adding.

Fascinating stuff isn't it?

I’m not a liar 🤷🏼‍♀️. Might be advisable to play the ball not the player.

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:25

akkakk · 11/08/2025 17:22

really?!

Doctors at the British Medical Association (BMA) have condemned the Supreme Court’s ruling on biological sex, dubbing it “biologically nonsensical” and “scientifically illiterate”.

The union branch representing resident doctors – made up of around 50,000 medics previously known as junior doctors - passed a motion on Saturday criticising the judgement, which ruled that trans women are not legally women under the Equalities Act.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/trans-gender-supreme-court-ruling-bma-doctors-b2741304.html

Yes this is an excellent statement and compatible with what I have been trying to explain on this and other threads.

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:27

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:24

I’m not a liar 🤷🏼‍♀️. Might be advisable to play the ball not the player.

I would encourage posters to make themselves aware of how to spot the truth online.

There's plenty to Google.

I have already made my point about substance and was given a two line rebuttal compared to the pages of word salad waffle when you were controlling the narrative.

I will let everyone make their own judgement.

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:27

CohensDiamondTeeth · 11/08/2025 17:19

Ha ha! Nope!

I actually enjoy learning new things, it's one of the things about life I find most enjoyable, so having my prior knowledge and beliefs challenged is usually welcome.

Of course I am human, so I haven't always responded in an immediately positive way when I have been proved wrong, but I am always open to changing my previously held beliefs if shown evidence that I am wrong, and have changed my position on other matters before after discussion with people.

I am not prejudiced (or bigoted or phobic) at all, along with many GC people I was pretty liberal before the TRAs started crossing boundaries.

I'm not going to give a timeline of my involvement in this subject, but I don't think I'm ignorant either.

Thank you for showcasing another aspect of your discursive style, when you have no tenable position to defend because your ideology is built on a foundation of quicksand, you can shout that people are too stupid, too prejudiced, too ignorant, bigoted, phobic, closed minded you think too much, understand too well, and won't do what I tell you.

Fill your boots, you'll excuse me for not being bothered.

After all you do our work for us, you're a veteran of Operation Let Them Speak and we appreciate your contribution to the cause

I’m not shouting or being rude. I’m simply calling it as it is. I understand you disagree .

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:28

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:27

I would encourage posters to make themselves aware of how to spot the truth online.

There's plenty to Google.

I have already made my point about substance and was given a two line rebuttal compared to the pages of word salad waffle when you were controlling the narrative.

I will let everyone make their own judgement.

I will let everyone make their own judgement

I support this and of course they will.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 11/08/2025 17:28

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:02

I’m really not trying to be ambiguous , I’m trying to explain it as simply as I can. Those words have meanings.

Every time you hear something unfamiliar - you think you can dismiss it by calling it a “word salad”. I see this a lot on mumsnet .

So a nothing reply it is then.

Yes you are trying to be ambiguous.

Yes those words have meanings, and I am able to understand those words.

Actually what I did was ask for you to further explain your meaning of the phrase "bio-psychological state" as shown by this quote from me
"If the quoted phrase above actually means something other than... well a description for the living and conscious state of being in humans, how about you attempt to explain exactly what you mean when you use it."

Are you refusing to further elucidate? Could that refusal and obfuscation be because you can't explain what you mean? Could that be because it's just meaningless fluff? I think so!

RedToothBrush · 11/08/2025 17:31

CohensDiamondTeeth · 11/08/2025 17:28

So a nothing reply it is then.

Yes you are trying to be ambiguous.

Yes those words have meanings, and I am able to understand those words.

Actually what I did was ask for you to further explain your meaning of the phrase "bio-psychological state" as shown by this quote from me
"If the quoted phrase above actually means something other than... well a description for the living and conscious state of being in humans, how about you attempt to explain exactly what you mean when you use it."

Are you refusing to further elucidate? Could that refusal and obfuscation be because you can't explain what you mean? Could that be because it's just meaningless fluff? I think so!

Odd isn't it?

Nothing replies when asked probing questions.

There is no substance. Just waffle.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 11/08/2025 17:31

Tandora · 11/08/2025 17:07

Yet to readers it comes across as the opposite..but your posts generally just don't make sense.

Im not sure the evidence entirely supports that. If that were the case I suspect people wouldn’t spend so long and work so hard at trying to undermine me. When I read posts that are simply incoherent I tend to just ignore them .

I understand that some of what I say might not be perfectly expressed, sound ambiguous or overly complex. It’s actually a really complex topic and not easy to explain in simple/ brief terms. But I do my best and I think on the whole i do a pretty good job at it.

Most of the “feedback” I receive I well understand isn’t a reflection of me, but rather the deeply intrenched beliefs / prejudices that people have already formed on this subject and the resistance to having those contradicted/ challenged.

Edited

Yet to readers it comes across as the opposite..but your posts generally just don't make sense.

Im not sure the evidence entirely supports that. If that were the case I suspect people wouldn’t spend so long and work so hard at trying to undermine me.

No it's because we don't like to see dangerous misinformation and propaganda spread by posters like you.

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