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To think that white British/ American etcmen are just as much a threat to women as migrants?

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malificent7 · 08/08/2025 12:47

I am not excusing grooming, paedophile sex rings and unmonitored immigration at all but I hate all these protests.
I know that my white male ex teacher is a sex offender. Not to mention the Epstein scandal.
Aibu to think that ALL men are a danger to women...not just men of different ethnicities/ religions etc?

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MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 19:03

SpunkyPombear · 08/08/2025 18:58

Absolutely not.

I was touched up in clubs in the 90s/2000s by kosovan men. Nothing was done.

Manchester woman raped by shop keeper and his mates, in the shops, Asian.

Asian grooming gangs

White men of course have done stuff to me that's not consensual but look at the mass groaping in Germany over nye.

White man are due to our child raring. These men don't like you because you aren't Muslim

Only Muslim men sexually harass and assault women?

Somerford · 08/08/2025 19:09

TooBigForMyBoots · 08/08/2025 18:40

There's an interesting statistic regarding Domestic Violence and the Anti-immigration violence we've seen recently in the UK.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/jul/26/two-in-five-arrested-for-last-summers-uk-riots-had-been-reported-for-domestic-abuse

Edited

Of the people who did something worthy of being arrested, 2 in 5 were already known to be scum bags. Not particularly shocking, scum bags will behave like scum bags.

Lots of ordinary people are frequently participating in protests right now though, and this stat won't be used to dismiss their legitimate concerns. According to YouGov, which tends to skew left, 73% of people think immigration has been too high in the past 10 years. The left has well and truly lost this argument.

NumberTheory · 08/08/2025 19:15

If we could get good statistics on the ethnicities of men who physically attack women, I don't know exactly what they'd show. I suspect White British men would fall somewhere in the middle, with some ethnicities more likely to and some less likely to.

But I don't think we talk enough about culture and how that increases the likelihood of different crimes (or other activities). Culture in Britain and the West generally was heading towards greater equality for women and had been for a century. It was largely driven by Northern European cultural momentum. As Britain diversified those cultural pressures began to be diluted and while the momentum continued to build for a while, it eventually became somewhat derailed and other views of women regained some sway with the public.

Which is a long winded way of saying - white men aren't great on this front, that doesn't mean there aren't worse out there or that we should not talk about the way various cultural dimensions (from all the cultures that have an impact in the UK) can lead to normalizing or excusing VAWG.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 19:17

Somerford · 08/08/2025 19:09

Of the people who did something worthy of being arrested, 2 in 5 were already known to be scum bags. Not particularly shocking, scum bags will behave like scum bags.

Lots of ordinary people are frequently participating in protests right now though, and this stat won't be used to dismiss their legitimate concerns. According to YouGov, which tends to skew left, 73% of people think immigration has been too high in the past 10 years. The left has well and truly lost this argument.

Why do you see mass immigration as something the left do? Are you aware that immigration peaked under the Tories?

TooBigForMyBoots · 08/08/2025 19:18

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 18:44

Literally nobody is here to say the rioters are stand up British men. Nobody. This statistic will not surprise anyone and doesn’t change what we are discussing.

We are discussing the threat of male VAWG in the UK wrt immigration.

Should we not discuss the overlap of male VAWG and those men who claim to be using violence to protect women and girls?

EasternStandard · 08/08/2025 19:19

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 19:17

Why do you see mass immigration as something the left do? Are you aware that immigration peaked under the Tories?

Probably because it’s not visas that are being discussed on this thread.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:20

TooBigForMyBoots · 08/08/2025 19:18

We are discussing the threat of male VAWG in the UK wrt immigration.

Should we not discuss the overlap of male VAWG and those men who claim to be using violence to protect women and girls?

Absolutely but as you know, it’s nothing but an excuse for them to be thugs. Same as Antifa - doesn’t mean the Gaza cause isn’t a worthy one, but yobbos always enjoy a riot and a chance to smash up public places.

Somerford · 08/08/2025 19:20

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 19:17

Why do you see mass immigration as something the left do? Are you aware that immigration peaked under the Tories?

The Tories are liberals, there is nothing conservative about The Conservative Party.

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 19:22

If we could get good statistics on the ethnicities of men who physically attack women, I don't know exactly what they'd show. I suspect White British men would fall somewhere in the middle, with some ethnicities more likely to and some less likely to.

I've got some stats to hand, from Germany.
From 2017 to 2021, Afghani and Pakistani men were 16x more likely to be accused of rape than German men. Men from the Maghreb were 11x more likely. Men from other EU countries had the same likelihood, but Romanians and Bulgarians were 3x as likely. East Asians (Chinese, Japanese etc) were less likely than German/other EU men to be accused of rape.

Source - Federal Criminal Police Office (Bundeskriminalamt).

There's also this article from January (paywalled though):
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/world-news/2025/01/18/nearly-two-thirds-convicted-rapists-sweden-migrants/

Headline is "Nearly two thirds of convicted rapists in Sweden are migrants or second generation immigrants".

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:27

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 19:22

If we could get good statistics on the ethnicities of men who physically attack women, I don't know exactly what they'd show. I suspect White British men would fall somewhere in the middle, with some ethnicities more likely to and some less likely to.

I've got some stats to hand, from Germany.
From 2017 to 2021, Afghani and Pakistani men were 16x more likely to be accused of rape than German men. Men from the Maghreb were 11x more likely. Men from other EU countries had the same likelihood, but Romanians and Bulgarians were 3x as likely. East Asians (Chinese, Japanese etc) were less likely than German/other EU men to be accused of rape.

Source - Federal Criminal Police Office (Bundeskriminalamt).

There's also this article from January (paywalled though):
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/world-news/2025/01/18/nearly-two-thirds-convicted-rapists-sweden-migrants/

Headline is "Nearly two thirds of convicted rapists in Sweden are migrants or second generation immigrants".

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Wow.

So a comprehensive review of convictions by central police?

PilatesAndLattes · 08/08/2025 19:28

Yes all men are a threat, but why would you want to increase that threat by allowing thousands of undocumented men into the country?

Greater threat to women and increased pressure on the police to keep everyone safe.

SummerIsNotOverYet · 08/08/2025 19:28

SpaceRaccoon · 08/08/2025 19:22

If we could get good statistics on the ethnicities of men who physically attack women, I don't know exactly what they'd show. I suspect White British men would fall somewhere in the middle, with some ethnicities more likely to and some less likely to.

I've got some stats to hand, from Germany.
From 2017 to 2021, Afghani and Pakistani men were 16x more likely to be accused of rape than German men. Men from the Maghreb were 11x more likely. Men from other EU countries had the same likelihood, but Romanians and Bulgarians were 3x as likely. East Asians (Chinese, Japanese etc) were less likely than German/other EU men to be accused of rape.

Source - Federal Criminal Police Office (Bundeskriminalamt).

There's also this article from January (paywalled though):
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/world-news/2025/01/18/nearly-two-thirds-convicted-rapists-sweden-migrants/

Headline is "Nearly two thirds of convicted rapists in Sweden are migrants or second generation immigrants".

Edited

F*cking great. So we not only have an issue with our home grown paedos and rapists, we import men 16x or 11 times more likely to rape.

Honestly, you couldn't make this up.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:29

SummerIsNotOverYet · 08/08/2025 19:28

F*cking great. So we not only have an issue with our home grown paedos and rapists, we import men 16x or 11 times more likely to rape.

Honestly, you couldn't make this up.

Women have always been the price for settling men’s discontent.

Absentmindedsmile · 08/08/2025 19:34

Not sure if this has been mentioned or not, apologies if so. I hope people do understand that women in some cultures / religions do not report or discuss the violence, sexual or otherwise, that they are subject to behind closed doors. It’s impossible to accurately understand the level of VAWG in some cultures.

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:34

Threads gone quiet since the stats were posted..

ThatCyanCat · 08/08/2025 19:35

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 18:49

I think misogynists hate women irrespective of where they come from.

So your answer is "misogynists are misogynists". Groundbreaking stuff.

Do you understand that this kind of evasive dishonesty is costing you support? (I'm still pissed off at you accusing me of saying the far right protects women when literally my first line to you was agreeing that they weaponise it.) As a wise woman once said, to assume that people rejecting left wing bullshit means they love right wing bullshit is to underestimate just how much bullshit there is.

People aren't stupid. You can't do anything about far right media outlets but this is the kind of crap that stops many people from seeing you as a viable alternative and you can do something about this.

Somerford · 08/08/2025 19:35

SummerIsNotOverYet · 08/08/2025 19:28

F*cking great. So we not only have an issue with our home grown paedos and rapists, we import men 16x or 11 times more likely to rape.

Honestly, you couldn't make this up.

The state doesn't just let them in. It borrows billions upon billions of pounds to pay for it, and your great grandchildren will have to pay for it. Whilst those who are alive today are lectured about financial black holes and our industries are pushed to the bring with tax increases.

Mumofnarnia · 08/08/2025 19:37

kendal77 · 08/08/2025 14:54

Can't believe this thread is allowed to stand. Imagine if the OP had made a thread about any other origin

I had come on here to say exactly this! 😂

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 19:38

Somerford · 08/08/2025 19:20

The Tories are liberals, there is nothing conservative about The Conservative Party.

So the Tories are left?

Absentmindedsmile · 08/08/2025 19:40

https://www.dawn.com/news/1927851

‘Government surveys reveal grim realities: the Pakistan Demographic and Health Survey (PDHS) reported that 47 per cent of respondents in 2012–2013 considered wife-beating justifiable — a figure that only slightly declined to 43pc by 2017–2018.

The World Economic Forum’s (WEF) 2023 data paints an even darker picture, showing that 85pc of married women in Pakistan experience physical or sexual violence — far higher than Bangladesh’s 53pc and India’s 29pc.

Islamabad-based gender and governance expert Fauzia Yazdani highlights how religious texts and traditions are often deliberately misinterpreted to justify abuse. Supporting Yazdani’s view, lawyer Bushra notes that women brave enough to seek justice frequently face defence attorneys citing selective Quranic verses to defend their husbands. “It’s not just disturbing — it’s deeply problematic,” Bushra said.’

What sort of attitude towards women and girls, are these women and girls surrounded by??

Does it disappear when these men travel across borders?

Marital rape: Why Shanti’s case is a test for Pakistan’s justice system

This is the story of Shanti: a young bride whose death from marital rape reveals how Pakistan’s women remain unprotected by both society and state, despite the law.

https://www.dawn.com/news/1927851

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 19:40

ThatCyanCat · 08/08/2025 19:35

So your answer is "misogynists are misogynists". Groundbreaking stuff.

Do you understand that this kind of evasive dishonesty is costing you support? (I'm still pissed off at you accusing me of saying the far right protects women when literally my first line to you was agreeing that they weaponise it.) As a wise woman once said, to assume that people rejecting left wing bullshit means they love right wing bullshit is to underestimate just how much bullshit there is.

People aren't stupid. You can't do anything about far right media outlets but this is the kind of crap that stops many people from seeing you as a viable alternative and you can do something about this.

I have no idea what you're talking about. What dishonesty? What viable alternative?

JamesMacGill · 08/08/2025 19:44
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I have no idea what you're talking about

TheNuthatch · 08/08/2025 19:45

Nobody has suggested that the far right are not involved in the protests.

That does not mean that everyone there is far right.

ThatCyanCat · 08/08/2025 19:45

MiloMinderbinder925 · 08/08/2025 19:40

I have no idea what you're talking about. What dishonesty? What viable alternative?

If you're not capable of following the conversation, then you clearly have nothing to contribute to it.

You do understand, though. This is just more evasive dishonesty to avoid giving answers. I'd say I'm disappointed but it's exactly what I expect these days. One reason why I'm politically homeless.

You don't want change. You want to shout at people and perform. You'll be doing that for a long time, so that should make you happy.