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To think that white British/ American etcmen are just as much a threat to women as migrants?

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malificent7 · 08/08/2025 12:47

I am not excusing grooming, paedophile sex rings and unmonitored immigration at all but I hate all these protests.
I know that my white male ex teacher is a sex offender. Not to mention the Epstein scandal.
Aibu to think that ALL men are a danger to women...not just men of different ethnicities/ religions etc?

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GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:37

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:33

You could apply that to every man arriving in the UK from abroad.

Yes. And we should apply it to every man.

So, again, my point is unless and until there are statistics being recorded on the ethnicity of perpetrators, we cannot say they are more, or in this case, less of a threat.
And if men are coming from countries where rape is not considered rape, then it becomes far more difficult to apply it to those demographics.
Thats the whole point.

The safeguards people rely upon are rendered useless

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 12:39

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:19

Again, that’s irrelevant to the topic at hand?
My responses are regarding to thread subject ‘To think that white British/ American etcmen are just as much a threat to women as migrants?’

And my point is, as no statistics are held on these men, we cannot know.

The countries they are coming from don’t hold the statistics.

This country doesn’t hold the statistics, as ethnicity of perpetrators are not recorded.

Why they’re here, or whether they’re sent back is irrelevant, as is citing laws stating reasons why they can be sent back.

If you could quote me (press the 'quote' on the far left of my post) or @ me (press @ and you'll find a drop box where you can press my username), that would be appreciated.

The thread is about asylum seekers being a danger to women and girls. If an asylum seeker is found to be a danger to the country, they can be refused refugee status. That means they can't settle in the UK.

If asylum seekers or refugees commit sexual offences whilst in the UK, they can lose their refugee status. You keep saying that the law isn't relevant which I find bizarre since surely the point of the thread is about protecting women and girls.

Foreigners who commit an offence with at least a 12 month sentence, can be deported.

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:40

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:37

Yes. And we should apply it to every man.

So, again, my point is unless and until there are statistics being recorded on the ethnicity of perpetrators, we cannot say they are more, or in this case, less of a threat.
And if men are coming from countries where rape is not considered rape, then it becomes far more difficult to apply it to those demographics.
Thats the whole point.

The safeguards people rely upon are rendered useless

Are you saying the UK should deny all men from certain countries entry to the UK?

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:47

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 12:39

If you could quote me (press the 'quote' on the far left of my post) or @ me (press @ and you'll find a drop box where you can press my username), that would be appreciated.

The thread is about asylum seekers being a danger to women and girls. If an asylum seeker is found to be a danger to the country, they can be refused refugee status. That means they can't settle in the UK.

If asylum seekers or refugees commit sexual offences whilst in the UK, they can lose their refugee status. You keep saying that the law isn't relevant which I find bizarre since surely the point of the thread is about protecting women and girls.

Foreigners who commit an offence with at least a 12 month sentence, can be deported.

What you quoted wasn’t a response to you, but happy to oblige.

No, the thread topic is whether they are ‘less’ of a risk than white British or American men.

Them potentially losing refugee status is irrelevant to whether they’re are more or less of a risk.

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:48

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:40

Are you saying the UK should deny all men from certain countries entry to the UK?

I said, clearly and more than once, you cannot say they are less of a risk

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 12:49

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 12:39

If you could quote me (press the 'quote' on the far left of my post) or @ me (press @ and you'll find a drop box where you can press my username), that would be appreciated.

The thread is about asylum seekers being a danger to women and girls. If an asylum seeker is found to be a danger to the country, they can be refused refugee status. That means they can't settle in the UK.

If asylum seekers or refugees commit sexual offences whilst in the UK, they can lose their refugee status. You keep saying that the law isn't relevant which I find bizarre since surely the point of the thread is about protecting women and girls.

Foreigners who commit an offence with at least a 12 month sentence, can be deported.

The point of other systems is to assess before entry.

It’s better to know if a man has committed a serious crime before arriving, and we don’t now that.

If we have to wait until after it’s not helping the victim of that crime. It’s already happened.

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:51

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:48

I said, clearly and more than once, you cannot say they are less of a risk

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And you cannot say they are more of a risk either.

Yet posters do use it as a reason why the UK should ban refugees from certain countries seeking asylum.

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:53

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 12:49

The point of other systems is to assess before entry.

It’s better to know if a man has committed a serious crime before arriving, and we don’t now that.

If we have to wait until after it’s not helping the victim of that crime. It’s already happened.

You are proposing safe and legal routes, I think the UK government should do that too.

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 12:54

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:53

You are proposing safe and legal routes, I think the UK government should do that too.

You’ll need a way to manage demand. How would you?

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:55

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:51

And you cannot say they are more of a risk either.

Yet posters do use it as a reason why the UK should ban refugees from certain countries seeking asylum.

‘So, again, my point is unless and until there are statistics being recorded on the ethnicity of perpetrators, we cannot say they are more, or in this case, less of a threat.’

This is literally what you responded to.

Although yes, I would argue it’s inherently more risky coming from any country where the women being raped is the criminal, and not the rapist.
I really don’t see how that’s controversial tbh

I’m sure you’ll disagree though.

DonkeylovesWaffles · 09/08/2025 12:57

YANBU at all!!!

Lifeofthepartay · 09/08/2025 12:57

I think the outrage at the moment in the UK is that the legal defense of some migrants that have commited sex crimes, is that "they didn't know it was not allowed here" and that "there are cultural differences that prevented the perpetrators from understanding their behaviour was unacceptable" which is absolute bollocks.

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:57

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 12:55

‘So, again, my point is unless and until there are statistics being recorded on the ethnicity of perpetrators, we cannot say they are more, or in this case, less of a threat.’

This is literally what you responded to.

Although yes, I would argue it’s inherently more risky coming from any country where the women being raped is the criminal, and not the rapist.
I really don’t see how that’s controversial tbh

I’m sure you’ll disagree though.

Again, why do you think a man flees such a country and seeks safety for himself and his family (wife, daughter, mother, sister) in the UK?

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:59

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 12:54

You’ll need a way to manage demand. How would you?

Manage demand?

Only people who get granted asylum will come to the UK in a safe way.

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 13:00

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:57

Again, why do you think a man flees such a country and seeks safety for himself and his family (wife, daughter, mother, sister) in the UK?

Benefits, free healthcare, free everything?

GoldThumb · 09/08/2025 13:01

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:57

Again, why do you think a man flees such a country and seeks safety for himself and his family (wife, daughter, mother, sister) in the UK?

This point would be relevant if men, women and children were equally represented in boat crossings, but as it stands 76% are single men.

I’m happy to keep discussing the thread title, but these tangential ‘gotchas’ are getting a bit boring now

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 13:02

As for the ‘wives and daughters’ they don’t bring them. 80% crossing are men, and 75% of the small group of children are boys. Can you explain why? Is it that the genetics of men from such countries mean they’re overwhelmingly more likely to have sons? Or is it simply that they’ve left the daughters behind?

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 13:04

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 12:59

Manage demand?

Only people who get granted asylum will come to the UK in a safe way.

Can you describe the system of application? How many do you see applying to your way of entry?

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 13:05

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 13:02

As for the ‘wives and daughters’ they don’t bring them. 80% crossing are men, and 75% of the small group of children are boys. Can you explain why? Is it that the genetics of men from such countries mean they’re overwhelmingly more likely to have sons? Or is it simply that they’ve left the daughters behind?

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Can't you think of why?

Why do you think more men make the dangerous journey than women, come on it is nor hard.

And if you really can't think of reasons, google is your friend.

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 13:06

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 13:02

As for the ‘wives and daughters’ they don’t bring them. 80% crossing are men, and 75% of the small group of children are boys. Can you explain why? Is it that the genetics of men from such countries mean they’re overwhelmingly more likely to have sons? Or is it simply that they’ve left the daughters behind?

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Oh, you edited after I replied

Genetics, care to explain?

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 13:07

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 13:05

Can't you think of why?

Why do you think more men make the dangerous journey than women, come on it is nor hard.

And if you really can't think of reasons, google is your friend.

If their country back home is so dangerous they are forced to make a life threatening journey from France to England then that country is too dangerous to leave their female loved ones unprotected and vulnerable there for years while they get the paperwork done.

We weren’t born yesterday.

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 13:09

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 13:07

If their country back home is so dangerous they are forced to make a life threatening journey from France to England then that country is too dangerous to leave their female loved ones unprotected and vulnerable there for years while they get the paperwork done.

We weren’t born yesterday.

Well, as I said google is your friend if you would like to inform yourself.

JamesMacGill · 09/08/2025 13:10

TopPocketFind · 09/08/2025 13:09

Well, as I said google is your friend if you would like to inform yourself.

I’ve read all the so called ‘reasons’. None of them are good enough to leave your female loved ones in country so dangerous you are forced to flee (and where you do take your kids, very mostly just the boys).

You seem surprised that in terrifyingly misogynistic countries, the men see the women as inherently worth less. It should be totally obvious.

xanthomelana · 09/08/2025 13:14

MidnightPatrol · 08/08/2025 14:26

I am slightly curious about the enthusiastic importing of men from countries where women are seen as second class citizens.

Not from a sex offences view, but just a broader perceptions of women in society.

Me too. I don’t understand why people on MN are so keen to support men from countries where women are mistreated on a daily basis. In some countries women can’t have an education, can’t vote, can’t work and even can’t be part of society but people see no problem with the views men from these countries have of women and how much they despise western women.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/08/2025 13:15

EasternStandard · 09/08/2025 12:49

The point of other systems is to assess before entry.

It’s better to know if a man has committed a serious crime before arriving, and we don’t now that.

If we have to wait until after it’s not helping the victim of that crime. It’s already happened.

Edited.

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