Beyond fed up of DH’s dispute with neighbour

[JesssfirsttimeMum]

This has been going on for months now and it kicked off again earlier.

One of our neighbours on the opposite side of the street keeps parking his van opposite our drive. This can make it challenging for us to get on and off as it’s very tight.

DH raised initially - he said politely, I wasn’t there - and it stopped for a bit but then resumed. I have overheard two heated confrontations where DH goes out to speaks to him as he parks up.

Tonight, there was a right slanging match which became personal. The man appears to live alone and DH said it’s no wonder he’s on his own. He then said something inappropriate along the lines of ‘I’ll let you have a go on my missus if you ask nicely’ and then said he was joking and in his dreams.

Any advice? I’m sick of hearing about it!!

What a pillock. Probably time to dump him for the neighbour.

I would absolutely of walked out and not looked back. What a horrible disrespectful thing to say. Please tell me you've pulled him up on this

If you’re beyond caring, what advice are you looking for?

If my DH had said that hed no longer have a problem with the parking opposite the house because hed no longer live in it !

Is the neighbour hot?

I'd say parking issues with neighbours are the least of your problems if you are married to a man who would speak about you like this

Blimey...he's sticking up for you. Maybe continue to park and unpark awkwardly then.

I’d be kicking my DH out over the comment about me, the parking isn’t the issue.

Absolutely and this is exactly what I have done when in the same situation. Especially as what's good for the van is also OK for you as long as it's not on a dropped kerb.

Apologies, but what is park up?

Oh goodie! With that attitude of just "taking it and not caring", the world is assured that there will be another generation who hears this crap growing up and thinks it's normal.

Seriously, why are you letting anyone treat you like that? Will you be happy when your children are grown and have zero respect for you? For others?

Even if you don't care what he does, you should care about what your children are learning.

Your husband saids a proper ignorant 🐷! He talks about you like a slab of meat and also that road isn't his, if neighbour parks there hard looks should have thought about having plenty of room when you bought the house.

Same.

We have a car and a van, due to the size of the van both cannot fit in our drive. The lady across from us put a polite note through our door saying she struggles to get out her drive if the van is parked across from it.

My husband doesn't park across from it because hes not a prick.

This is an excellent summary 👏🏻

Oh fuck that. If you have a drive that is too tight to get a car out of when someone is legally parked on the road opposite, that's on you. For him to say that about you confirms he's an absolute twat. Your poor neighbour.

As I suspected. He’s such a pig that you simply glossed over this and you start a thread about parking.

I hope you don’t have daughters with him because his comments show you exactly what he thinks of women. And if you’ve sons I also feel sorry if he’s going to infect them with his misogynistic bile.

Your problems are way bigger than parking. What he said will never be ok.

You’ve came here to ask advice about what we think of your husband arguing with a neighbour about park?!!
I think you’ve got more questions to ask about what he said about you!
The parking incident is less of a concern compared to what your husband actually thinks about you, to say something like he did, is so degrading, it doesn’t sound like he’s got any respect for you!

If it’s parked legally and just makes it ‘challenging’ to get on and off the drive, you need to lump it and learn how to park 😂 if it was parked across your drive, that would be a different story!

If he's parking his van legally, then just drop it. Sorry.
Ignore the stress induced gabbage, if possible.

If my husband said that about me I’d be advertising him on every porn site and applying for divorce.

Do you really want this for yourself for the rest of your life? How old are you? That’s potentially another 50 years. If the thought of that makes your heart sink, you can always start preparing to leave. Open a bank account and save for a deposit. If you’re a sahm, think about studying so you can get the best possible income. It might take a while but it means that when you are ready, you don’t have to stay for another two years while you get ready to go.

Exactly! What a disgusting thing to say and what a disgusting way to speak to another person.

So the first thing that enters his mind when he’s angry is letting the neighbours have a go on his Mrs? Weird.

Your H offered to let the neighbour fuck you if he asked nicely. How fucking disrespectful and degrading. Like he can offer you out like your his possession. He isn't a knob. He's a disgusting, misogynistic pig.

Kindly, I think the man with the van is the lesser of your problems.
If my DH said anything of the kind, he’d be one leg out the door as exH.