On holiday and I don’t know if I’m unreasonable!

[SunnyBlueSeal]

I’m really hoping for some perspective here. We are currently in Spain with my friends for a holiday. It’s us ( myself, DH and DC 14,16 ) and my friends ( Kate, Neil, DC 14,17) obviously names are changed. Kate was my friend for a few years through the activities. They invited us for a holiday with them. We booked two different villas about 5min walk from each other and right on the beach. Since we got here, Kate and my DH are spending more and more time together. This is our full third day here, and so far today, they met running at 7am and booked a spontaneous paddle boarding for themselves at 10am. We were all on the beach later and went for a lunch. I went back to the villa to get some plasters and they both turned up. My DH said he is changing his top as he and Kate will walk to the town to get a few bits. All of the DC are spending their time on the beach learning windsurfing with the local club so I don’t need DH to help with childcare. Kate’s husband Neil has a work project to do so he spends about 5 hours a day working in their villa. I’m starting to feel like a 3rd wheel to my friend and my DH. I’m getting grumpy when I’m around them and I don’t want to push him away but I don’t know how to get out of this mood. And another thing which got me thinking is at the dinner, Kate asked for a sparkling water and my DH said he wants some too. He never drank fucking sparkling water but when I pulled him on it, he said it’s because I only drink a still water so he did too. So for years you were drinking still water because of me? Have a sparkling water if you want! Something is feeling odd and I can’t put my finger on it

I've just caught up with the posts, phew. Kate is a complete bitch to behave in this insensitive and pushy manner. She'd be dead to me once this break is over. Your DH is another matter, insensitive, rude and seemingly sly, but only you know what he's really like. Get her out of your life and take stock once you are home. Others have suggested to deal with her harshly, whilst on holiday now, but you've the young ones to consider. Definitely no more partner swapping for cosy jaunts on this holiday. Maybe talk to Neil? She might have form? Your selfish DH should be supporting you as you are limited in the physical activity you can do just now too.

I hate women like this , hubby needs to wind his neck in too

Hey, thank you all for the advice but right now, it doesn’t matter. My stomach was doing a weird gurgling noise and I thought it’s just a wind but it wasn’t🫣. My DH is changing the sheets atm whilst we are laughing about it. Yes we will have to have a talk about the situation with my friend but somehow the ‘shitty’ situation with my stomach brought us closer together

I’d be losing my shit

The OP has. Quite literally.

To coin a phrase, he's had his head turned. He's loving the attention, lapping it up. Probably not shagging but definitely an emotional affair, even if it's only for the duration of the holiday. You're right OP - that he got angry when you spoke to him about it tells you all you need to know.

What's your relationship like generally?

there has never been a better cross post.

What a load of nonsense. Well done though. @SunnyBlueSeal

What's your husband like usually?
What is Kate like usually? What is the group dynamic usually like if you meet up as couples, or families?

Because to be honest, it sounds like Kate is making a play for your husband, and, it sounds like your husband is, at best, enjoying his ego being stroked, and encouraging that attention, and at worst, engaging in an affair, or at very least, an emotional affair.

Has Neil picked up on any of thi s, at all, to your knowledge?

OP, they sound like a pair of cunts, and I hope you fuck them both off when you get home!

What a load of nonsense. You’ve just shit the bed and you’ve updated Mumsnet. @SunnyBlueSeal nice one. Lovely story.

Take care there. Glad you're back together.

Kate might be a brazen hussy but it’s @SunnyBlueSeal’s husband who is doing the damage to his marriage. He chose to go to lunch with Kate and DC without including Sunny, he chose to go to town with Kate instead of seeing what Sunny wanted to do as he’d spent a couple of hours without her. This is all on him.

I fully believed this until I saw the shit update.

What incredible timing for that comment! 😂

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Them both to mean your 'D'H and Kate

Lol!

Also OP, I appreciate the kind of help your DH is providing!

Sorry you lost your shit in the wrong way!

I already did!

Almost as if it was planned..

I guess she got bored with the story hence the shit.

That's a bad one. Sounds like the actions of someone who doesn't want you there.

Does the hotel offer 'jumping the shark' as one of their watersports?

That would give me the ick. Your hubby would off read you the riot act if you was doing same with her hubby.

This is one of many reasons I don’t holiday with “friends” 👍

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