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Friend blocked me over money

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ByCraftyPinkMentor · 07/08/2025 12:52

Morning All,

I have popped on whatsapp to check in on a friend to find out I have been blocked and also blocked on all social media.

Husband and I have worked for many years on our business which is now in a really good place money wise.

I recently received some unexpected inheritance money. We have three older kids and it wasn't a mega life changing amount but also quite a bit.

Our kids have been really good while we were building the business etc and whist they had basic stuff and driving lessons etc we didn't go on holiday for the last 7 years or so. I know people go without for longer. Anyway...I spoke to my husband and decided that I wanted to take us on four holidays with it, to places each individual kid has expressed a desire to go to and also one for just the two of us. Then I wanted to put another bit away for each of them to have as like a rental deposit or a nicer car as they get older or whatever.

We have done two of them and the other two are booked. I shared this with a few close friends and my surprise for the kids.

In the middle of this a close friend told me she was having issues and was short a grand for some house renovations. I gave it to her as a gift.

Since then she has been having more and more issues and not asking me directly but hinting at me lending her more money.

We were chatting last week and I said we were off on the third one, since then she has been sending me messages about how it must be nice not to let your kids down, how she can't rely on anyone for help with money etc.

I have been supportive but she keeps telling me about her bills in every conversation.

All my inheritance money is accounted for in the kids bank accounts and been paid into these holidays (She doesn't know how much I got). So I think she thinks I have loads spare.

Last conversation we had I said I would love to help but I don't have anything spare now, it's all spent. Now she has blocked me.

OP posts:
Guavafish1 · 07/08/2025 15:41

She is no friend.

my friend has become wealthy… live on a Spanish island, kids in private school and has a maid.

I would never of dreaming of asking for money you her… if I was despite I would ask for a loan and I’d pay it back.

My only question for you… are you boasting about your holidays? I think that would be a bit insensitive if she has experienced money related issues.

Also don’t gift these kinds of people money… she is not a friend btw!

Swirlythingy2025 · 07/08/2025 15:43

ill admit things like this are why if eg i won the lotto etc only me and the bank would know. money does odd things to people

Moveoverdarlin · 07/08/2025 15:52

My rule of thumb is ‘play everything down’. Never tell anyone anything about money. She’s green with envy, it’s obvious. She’s thinking ‘bloody hell, their business is doing well and now she’s had a bloody inheritance! So the four kids are all picking a holiday of their choice!!

It does sound a bit flash OP.

defrazzled · 07/08/2025 15:54

No good turn goes unpunished indeed!

Delphinium20 · 07/08/2025 15:56

I have never, ever borrowed nor loaned money to a friend. One time, I loaned a large amount to a BF of a family member and never got it back (he had a gambling problem). The fact you gifted her $1000 is far more generous than anyone. Friends can help friends get jobs, share financial tips, put biz opportunities in front of them, but loan or give money is never a good idea.

She abused your incredible generosity.

Bobbybobbins · 07/08/2025 16:07

She has not behaved well.

However this is why I never talk specifics with friends about money. We have paid off our mortgage and have had an inheritance but I am always very vague on any details.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 07/08/2025 16:16

Another time I’d keep very quiet about any inheritance!

Radiatorsa · 07/08/2025 16:21

She is not your friend.

Greenwriter76 · 07/08/2025 16:22

Wow. How long have you known her OP?

Tartantotty · 07/08/2025 16:23

Good riddance. Friends do not behave like this woman. I hope you get your £1,000 back but I doubt it. What a mean user.

LancashireButterPie · 07/08/2025 16:23

I can't believe you gave her £1k.
Somewhere along the line, you or your children might need that.

defrazzled · 07/08/2025 16:27

LancashireButterPie · 07/08/2025 16:23

I can't believe you gave her £1k.
Somewhere along the line, you or your children might need that.

I agree, this was my first thought!

ShallIstart · 07/08/2025 16:28

I have some extremely wealthy friends. Like mega rich. I have also been in the shit money wise over the years. I wouldnt dream of hinting for money to them. They earnt their money, or inherited it whatever, its theirs and I am happy for them. I enjoy hearing about their fancy holidays and like knowing they are doing well. We all make our choices whether thats who we marry,our jobs and businesses and then theres luck of the draw and luck in general and luck of family. And good luck to them.

Travelfairy · 07/08/2025 16:28

Thankfully you have discovered now what she is really like. It doesn't matter if you are going on 15 holidays this year, you owe her absolutely nothing! How dare she block you after your kindness 😡 seriously though use your energy for someone who is worth it!

Nearly50omg · 07/08/2025 16:34

After her behavior I’d frankly send her a letter and ask her to return the £1000 she asked you for. Don’t describe it as a gift or a loan as that complicates things but just state factually that as she clearly sees you as an ATM that you are requesting the £1000 returned back to you as she clearly doesn’t see you as a friend now the ATM is closed to anymore money and put your bank details at and of the page

Member984815 · 07/08/2025 16:34

SkylarFalls · 07/08/2025 15:37

It doesn't say that the friend overtly asked in the last conversation

It just says that the OP said sorry, can't give you money

There could be a whole other side

The OP asks "how are you"
Friend "not good, ... expands on money troubles, as that's what's central to their life right now, and a friend asked ..
OP "sorry can't give you money"

Did the friend overtly ask that time?

Is the friend maybe hurt that they can't complain about the biggest thing going on in their life without the OP making them out to be beggars?

Is it definitely definitely not worth one more conversation to check if the OPs ASSUMPTIONS about why they are blocked, is the real reason why they are blocked?

She's dry begging, I.e. hinting she needs the money and op has it

SchatzMaus · 07/08/2025 16:45

Congratulations! The trash took itself out 😔
Behaviour like your ex-friend’s is repulsive. You don’t need a “friend” like that!

hoohaal · 07/08/2025 16:46

What a cheeky cow.
So nice of you to give her a grand as well.

At least you’ve seen her true colours now. I wonder if she’s jealous or something. Very odd to block a friend who has been kind enough to gift you some money!

tommyhoundmum · 07/08/2025 16:53

ByCraftyPinkMentor · 07/08/2025 12:52

Morning All,

I have popped on whatsapp to check in on a friend to find out I have been blocked and also blocked on all social media.

Husband and I have worked for many years on our business which is now in a really good place money wise.

I recently received some unexpected inheritance money. We have three older kids and it wasn't a mega life changing amount but also quite a bit.

Our kids have been really good while we were building the business etc and whist they had basic stuff and driving lessons etc we didn't go on holiday for the last 7 years or so. I know people go without for longer. Anyway...I spoke to my husband and decided that I wanted to take us on four holidays with it, to places each individual kid has expressed a desire to go to and also one for just the two of us. Then I wanted to put another bit away for each of them to have as like a rental deposit or a nicer car as they get older or whatever.

We have done two of them and the other two are booked. I shared this with a few close friends and my surprise for the kids.

In the middle of this a close friend told me she was having issues and was short a grand for some house renovations. I gave it to her as a gift.

Since then she has been having more and more issues and not asking me directly but hinting at me lending her more money.

We were chatting last week and I said we were off on the third one, since then she has been sending me messages about how it must be nice not to let your kids down, how she can't rely on anyone for help with money etc.

I have been supportive but she keeps telling me about her bills in every conversation.

All my inheritance money is accounted for in the kids bank accounts and been paid into these holidays (She doesn't know how much I got). So I think she thinks I have loads spare.

Last conversation we had I said I would love to help but I don't have anything spare now, it's all spent. Now she has blocked me.

My experience has been once I've lent money, people don't want to know me or invent ways why they don't need to pay me back.

She is not a true friend and is probably envious.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 07/08/2025 16:53

Wow, what a nasty using friend. Shame you lost 1k but at least now you know. I'd write and tell her that she's a user and that she was obviously only staying friends while she thought she could tap you up for more cash.

Tablesandchairs23 · 07/08/2025 17:01

You're said friend is a shitty person. You gave her money and she's blocked you. You've been generous and gifted her money. She's jealous and bitter. You're better of without her.

PrioritisePleasure24 · 07/08/2025 17:03

I don’t see it as op stealth bragging or flashing her cash I think really good friends can share events in their lives and being able to do that with her children should be something she could share with close friends. She hasn’t mentioned amounts but obviously it was a decent amount.

I think you found out more than enough about your friend. You were generous enough to give not loan her cash and that still wasn’t good enough. Friends in the wrong not the op.

Mary28 · 07/08/2025 17:05

Count yourself lucky. Block her back and don't ever check on her again.
Keep her blocked. What a CF.

slightlydistrac · 07/08/2025 17:05

Blimey, who needs a friend like that?

If somebody had given me £1k when I was struggling for money, I'd have been overwhelmed with gratitude and I'd never have asked for, or expected, any more.

beelegal · 07/08/2025 17:09

Cut her out completely from your life, she might come back when she needs money.