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Would you charge your parents rent in these circumstances?

898 replies

TheSummerof25 · 06/08/2025 20:08

Long story short for the past 8 years my parents have stored (both inside and out) a number of large items/vehicles at our house. One in particular (a huge caravan) blocks our view and I WFH, without it, i have a lovely open aspect and can watch my chickens and the wildlife on my front from my office window. With it, all I can see is the bloody caravan. They know we don’t like it, we’ve reluctantly tolerated it because they’re our parents.

They do help with childcare, but tbh it’s got to the point where they moan so much and have other priorities we don’t bother asking, for example over the summer I’ve just sent them to clubs where they should have been with parents because their apathy was so apparent - it was four days of the summer I’d asked for.

We look after their pets when they go away, we pay a sitter for ours as we know “how busy” my retired parents are. Whereas we just slot it in.

When I bought a house early in my career, I with much lower pay, they lent me £35k for the deposit. I paid it back within 4 years (moved in with now DH and sold my house) but they charged me “rent” proportionally to the value of the house before it sold. DH always thought this was mean. Both parents retired at 55 and have had several inheritances which have mostly funded the stuff dumped at our house - my point they’re comfortable and have reliable income streams.

Now we’re moving, into a house with an income stream to support retirement plans and they have assumed they can continue to store all their junk, but not only that, want an upgrade of dry storage for all items. Storage is used by the business and so there is a loss associated with letting them have that for free. I said they could get planning and build their own barn, but they don’t want the expense. DH has looked and storage for all their items is easily in the region of £350 per month if not more. He said they can store it but they have to pay - like they charged me rent. This move is a huge investment from us and is with a long term view.

I’m reluctant to charge them, but equally don’t think waterproof items which are now stored outside should be prioritised for items we actually need to store for the business. It will create a gap for us. Parents think we could just make it work. Although haven’t enquired how.

YABU - you can’t charge your parents storage
YANBU - they’ve had 8 years free and can put their hands in their pocket.

OP posts:
Eddielizzard · 22/08/2025 23:04

Well done. That's a great message.

IamNotBeingUnreasonable · 23/08/2025 01:16

NO is a complete sentence.
Just put a stop to it now, before you move, they have the finances to do this themselves at their place, just say no and step away from this situation.

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/08/2025 05:05

Great message!

I am impressed you've stayed pretty sane tbh, I'd have told them the chances of the van accidentally catching fire were rising day by day and if it returned once it had left, that chance would hit 100%.

IamNotBeingUnreasonable · 23/08/2025 08:00

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/08/2025 05:05

Great message!

I am impressed you've stayed pretty sane tbh, I'd have told them the chances of the van accidentally catching fire were rising day by day and if it returned once it had left, that chance would hit 100%.

NO.
Always text and email as if it might be used against you in court one day.

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/08/2025 13:20

IamNotBeingUnreasonable · 23/08/2025 08:00

NO.
Always text and email as if it might be used against you in court one day.

Sorry, I meant I'd do something stupid such as... I wasn't recommending it!

I can do sane and restrained up to a point... then as we say up North, 'me 'ead goes' and I say something absolutely stupid and not remotely constructive and indeed, not what you'd want read out in court! (Mind it would have been verbal, even in my most ridiculous moments I'd not put it in writing!)

TheSummerof25 · 24/08/2025 20:32

Well they’ve played a blinder…

They’ve not brought their van back, but they’ve swapped it for their bloody car! They had left it here all weekend anyway, but assumed it would be collected. Obviously never assume. 🙄

OP posts:
unbelieveable22 · 24/08/2025 20:41

OMG @TheSummerof25 . The cheek of them. They have shown you and your husband exactly who they are.
Zero respect for you both and extreme manipulators. They know you are under pressure with the house move yet they continue their game playing. Time to get tough.

MeridianB · 24/08/2025 20:41

They might as well have come to your house and done a huge 💩 outside. Because that’s the game they are playing - trying to show you who is boss, get you back in your box.

Do you have the keys?

TheSummerof25 · 24/08/2025 20:43

MeridianB · 24/08/2025 20:41

They might as well have come to your house and done a huge 💩 outside. Because that’s the game they are playing - trying to show you who is boss, get you back in your box.

Do you have the keys?

No!

OP posts:
Myjobisridiculous · 24/08/2025 20:45

Omg!

Myjobisridiculous · 24/08/2025 20:45

I have no words!

Ambivilentbeing · 24/08/2025 20:48

Why did they leave it at the weekend? Nuts they’ve not come to collect!! Do they not need their car?!?!?

Tortielady · 24/08/2025 20:55

I'm gobsmacked and those who know and love me would tell you how unusual that is. Where do your progenitors (I hesitate to call them parents) get off?

MeridianB · 24/08/2025 21:09

Is there any way you can tow/drag/bump it off your property?

RandomMess · 24/08/2025 21:09

🤬

RandomMess · 24/08/2025 21:10

Do you have a copy of their house keys?

Givenupshopping · 24/08/2025 21:11

So now what are you going to do OP, as you can bet your life if they come to collect the car, they'll come in the motorhome and leave that at yours again. Do they both drive?

Nearly50omg · 24/08/2025 21:13

Get it towed to the local scrapyard! Message the parents and tell them where to find it and that it will also cost them
££ to get it back!

Beammeupscotty2025 · 24/08/2025 21:35

And it continues!

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 24/08/2025 21:44

@TheSummerof25 sorry but is it a motorhome or a caravan??? if it is a caravan, they must have driven two cars to yours then? if it is a motor home, do they usually leave their car at your house???? they are really shitting on you now!

Aspidistree · 24/08/2025 21:45

But... why??

Is it now just a pure, undisguised big "fuck you"?

Radiatorsa · 24/08/2025 22:34

Your poor husband🙄

RedToothBrush · 24/08/2025 23:30

TheSummerof25 · 24/08/2025 20:32

Well they’ve played a blinder…

They’ve not brought their van back, but they’ve swapped it for their bloody car! They had left it here all weekend anyway, but assumed it would be collected. Obviously never assume. 🙄

An abandoned vehicle you do not recognise or know anything about hasbeen abanoned on your property

outerspacepotato · 24/08/2025 23:34

They showed you.

They followed your instructions to the letter by not leaving their van.

Time to tow that car and take a really long timeout. Every little thing of theirs in your house, trash it.

I'm sorry but your parents just took a dump on you and your partner and unless you have a nuclear response, you're just going to get more of the same. They disrespected you and your husband in the worst way and it's time to give them a piece of what they're dishing out.

It's looks like at least one of your parents is a narc. Look up fear, obligation, and guilt once you get that car whacked, er, towed.

KTheGrey · 24/08/2025 23:42

Abandoned vehicle. Get it towed.