Tradesperson has been in the loo 15 mins +

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I’m having a difficult morning and feel totally stressed out. We’re having some work done and this has added to the worry - context being that I’m on edge generally. But AIBU to think it’s odd / unreasonable for a tradesperson to nip to the loo (didn’t ask, but I’d have been absolutely fine with them using it) but not emerge for more than 15 mins. This is the downstairs loo leading into our hallway. Totally get that when you’ve got to go you’ve got to go - but surely you’re bloody quick about it if it’s in someone else’s home and you’ve never met them. At what point do I gently knock? Semi-light hearted, horribly stressed out working mum!

BTW I also have bad bowel issues so I get some of the possible context and causes - but I manage my condition so that flares are sorted at home in the main.

I don't believe this is serious.

I think it's more odd that you're monitoring the length of their bathroom breaks tbh.

Sorry about your rough morning. But if you're generally happy with this guy's work, leave him alone! 😆

Obviously having a shit in your toilet i guess when you gotta go you gotta go.not every one can "manage bowel issues".

You’d find life less stressful if you don’t faff over unimportant things, this is one of them. People need to poo, your home is his workplace, just move on, no need to be fretting monitoring him and timing him and wondering when to knock

I would not spend 15 mins in someone else's loo, especially a downstairs loo unless I was very unwell. Maybe ask if he's alright when he comes out.

Bowel issues are different for everyone. He's unlikely to announce to a stranger that he might be in there a while!

I'd be concerned after an hour. Otherwise let him be.

Please do him the courtesy of pretending not to notice. Its very embarassing when bowel issues hit at an inconvenient time and hes probably more than aware of this already.

You obviously don't know a whole lot about context and causes, as else you'd know that some bowel issues can't be "managed" to make them reliably convenient.

The obvious answer is that his stomach is playing up and he needs some time in the loo, and most likely is unable to rush things.

If he's in there for over 30mins you might want to knock on the door and ask if he's alright, just to make sure you don't have an Elvis situation.

All these lucky people that can "manage" their condition or choose how long they can spend in the loo. The reality is that for most of us with bowel conditions, it's simply not possible. If he's had diahorrea, e.g. maybe he has opened the window wide, cleaning with bleach etc and waiting until he thinks it fit for someone else to use. God, I would hate it if I thought someone was standing outside the loo with a stopwatch.

All these lucky people that can "manage" their condition or choose how long they can spend in the loo. The reality is that for most of us with bowel conditions, it's simply not possible. If he's had diahorrea, e.g. maybe he has opened the window wide, cleaning with bleach etc and waiting until he thinks it fit for someone else to use. God, I would hate it if I thought someone was standing outside the loo with a stopwatch.

I never believe these threads. They come up far too often and so many women are obsessed with the toilet habits of other people. It's weird.

Why are you timing him in the loo?

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I bet he reading The Sun (well looking at the pictures anyway)

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He's probably doing lines off your cistern as well

@TickyandTacky I think loads of people, especially women are weird and neurotic about toilets. I read a thread last night where people were calling others disgusting if they didn't squirt bleach down the loo after every crap. It's not like bleach even cleans or removes limescale.

I think those are the same women who hover and piss all over the seat in public toilets because it's 'dirty' and don't clean it up.

Get a life. He's obviously got a bad stomach or something, it happens to all of us and he's probably mortified.

This is beyond weird op

I’m sat 2 metres from the loo (working in another room) - it’s hard not to notice. He emerged at the 20 minute mark so all is well 😆. Of course I have pretended not to notice and offered him another drink.

I’d say that it’s “women” who are obsessed with toilet habits on MN and not women.

There are a number of reasons someone could be in a bathroom

-contact lens has slipped and need mirror and sink to fix the issue.

• taking medication, insulin injection etc.
• suddenly feeling mentally unwell, needs privacy e.g panic attack
• needs privacy to take unexpected phone call.

People seem to forget workmen are human.

I used to laugh and be a bit snotty about people who didn't ages on the loo. Then, without going in to too much detail, I started chemo...and I don't anymore! I can be stuck for an hour now.

I think you've misunderstood me slightly, I was defending the man.

I don't know why you were obsessing in the first place?