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Repeating himself during sex!

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:04

I have a new man. He’s lovely. We have had sex three times now, and that’s been lovely too apart from the fact that he keeps saying the same thing over and over again as we DtD!

He keeps saying (sorry if this is TMI but the whole thing is, and if you’ve got this far…) ‘My dick feels good’. Must have said it literally 50 times each time. It’s almost like a nervous tic. It’s often barely audible, but sometimes it’s normal volume. We’ll be doing it and he’ll say it, and it’s almost like he’s saying it to himself or doesn’t even realise it!

Always that exact phrase. Maybe with an ‘Oh’ or a ‘Yeah’ involved beforehand.

I haven’t mentioned it. It’s not overly problematic and I don’t want him to feel embarrassed. It’s just odd (to me). Obviously I’m pleased his dick feels good! But I don’t need to be repeatedly told.

I feel like I might need to say something, but how can I do this sensitively?? Maybe I should start repeating a phrase of my own, over and over. ‘Have I left the oven on…?’ I really don’t know.

OP posts:
BusWankers · 04/08/2025 08:05

Why do you need to be sensitive? Just tell him to stop.

If he won't or it weirds you out, then end it.

Newnamenewname123 · 04/08/2025 08:06

Could you veer the chit chat onto other things (how you feel) ask him what he likes, what you'd like him to do to you etc?
Sounds like he's into talking during the act, maybe he just needs some direction

StrawberryCranberry · 04/08/2025 08:06

You need to tell him OP. Now is the time, it will get more awkward the longer you leave it.

TheGoddessFrigg · 04/08/2025 08:08

This sounds like it is going to be future ICK!

Anyway, shouldn't you be saying this not him? It's a bit conceited.

Leilaandtheloggerheads · 04/08/2025 08:08

Oh no 🙈 I don’t mind the odd comment saying it feels good or whatever, but this would knock me a bit sick and totally put me off! Both of you need to enjoy it, as conversations about what you do or don’t like are (or should be) normal.

Overnightfloats · 04/08/2025 08:09

Sorry, this is not helpful. I have a dreadful work day ahead of me and this has distracted me from my misery, so thank you for sharing. Could you try to mirror him back with your own catch phrase and see how that goes? “Ceiling needs painting” would be mine…

Leilaandtheloggerheads · 04/08/2025 08:10

TheGoddessFrigg · 04/08/2025 08:08

This sounds like it is going to be future ICK!

Anyway, shouldn't you be saying this not him? It's a bit conceited.

Oh, did he mean it feels good to you OP? I thought he was meaning it feels good to him (and his dick 🤣)

BCBird · 04/08/2025 08:11

That would make me laff or giggle if he said it once but all the time- wtf - nooooooo.

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:12

Leilaandtheloggerheads · 04/08/2025 08:10

Oh, did he mean it feels good to you OP? I thought he was meaning it feels good to him (and his dick 🤣)

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No he was referring to himself. As in. ‘I am enjoying the feeling in my penis’.

He makes sure it does feel good for me too. But when he says this phrase he is referring to himself. He’s not boasting.

OP posts:
TimeForABreak4 · 04/08/2025 08:12

Oh my god that's just gave me the absolute ick.. I wouldn't have slept with him again after the first time.

YodasHairyButt · 04/08/2025 08:13

I think you have to tell him, even if he’s embarrassed. It’s putting you off and will only get worse.

PInkyStarfish · 04/08/2025 08:13

A short, sharp shock is needed.

Repeat it back to him!

Endofyear · 04/08/2025 08:14

Sorry OP but I think this would make me giggle 😂 if he's caught up in the moment, he might not even realise he's doing it! I would have to say something, maybe ask him to vary his commentary!

YodasHairyButt · 04/08/2025 08:16

Every time he says it, reply to him with the same phrase “that’s nice” or “good for you” or something. I bet he stops and asks why you keep saying that!

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Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:16

YodasHairyButt · 04/08/2025 08:16

Every time he says it, reply to him with the same phrase “that’s nice” or “good for you” or something. I bet he stops and asks why you keep saying that!

This is a good idea!

OP posts:
Coconutter24 · 04/08/2025 08:17

TheGoddessFrigg · 04/08/2025 08:08

This sounds like it is going to be future ICK!

Anyway, shouldn't you be saying this not him? It's a bit conceited.

It doesn’t sound conceited. He’s not telling OP it feels good for her, he is letting her know that he’s enjoying it

ScrambledEggs12 · 04/08/2025 08:20

Is this the only thing he does or could it be part of a tic disorder?

Thelonelydonkey · 04/08/2025 08:23

I wonder if any of his previous partners are on here............

Mochudubh · 04/08/2025 08:24

Next time say "So does mine". That'll give him pause.

Silvertulips · 04/08/2025 08:25

It doesn’t sound conceited. He’s not telling OP it feels good for her, he is letting her know that he’s enjoying it

How did you get that??

It gives me the ICK thinking about it!

It’s like talking over a film! Rude and unnecessary!!

Fiery30 · 04/08/2025 08:26

Perhaps he is enjoying himself too much in the moment, so he doesn't realise how many times he is saying it. Everyone has different forms of expression- whether it is moans or saying specific words/phrases. Bring it up casually and say, it seems like you really enjoyed it by the number of times you said X. Make it lighthearted, so it's not embarrassing for either one of you. If you don't want him to say it that often, you will have to say at some point.

Didimum · 04/08/2025 08:42

Maybe I should start repeating a phrase of my own, over and over. ‘Have I left the oven on…?’ I really don’t know.

😂😂😂

Seriously though, OP, there’s no need to ‘get the ick’ on behalf of others here if you like the guy. It seems like you are mildly perplexed and concerned if ongoing it will continue to be off putting.

Understandably it’s early days but you can’t have a meaningful relationship with someone if you can’t have a conversation with them and they aren’t the right person for you if they respond negatively to something you’ve brought up tactfully. So bring it up tactfully.

anyolddinosaur · 04/08/2025 08:43

Some of the suggested comments, while funny, would suggest you were not totally engaged, while he is at least saying he is enjoying himself.

Maybe he just doesnt know how to talk about sex and you need to teach him some new phrases. Maybe he does want you to say something back, perhaps agreeing with him that it feels good to you also? Could be fishing for compliments?

ReadingSoManyThreads · 04/08/2025 08:44

Mochudubh · 04/08/2025 08:24

Next time say "So does mine". That'll give him pause.

I'm howling 😂😂😂

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