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Repeating himself during sex!

118 replies

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:04

I have a new man. He’s lovely. We have had sex three times now, and that’s been lovely too apart from the fact that he keeps saying the same thing over and over again as we DtD!

He keeps saying (sorry if this is TMI but the whole thing is, and if you’ve got this far…) ‘My dick feels good’. Must have said it literally 50 times each time. It’s almost like a nervous tic. It’s often barely audible, but sometimes it’s normal volume. We’ll be doing it and he’ll say it, and it’s almost like he’s saying it to himself or doesn’t even realise it!

Always that exact phrase. Maybe with an ‘Oh’ or a ‘Yeah’ involved beforehand.

I haven’t mentioned it. It’s not overly problematic and I don’t want him to feel embarrassed. It’s just odd (to me). Obviously I’m pleased his dick feels good! But I don’t need to be repeatedly told.

I feel like I might need to say something, but how can I do this sensitively?? Maybe I should start repeating a phrase of my own, over and over. ‘Have I left the oven on…?’ I really don’t know.

OP posts:
Headabovetheparapets · 04/08/2025 09:42

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:16

This is a good idea!

Any body else hearing the “that’s niace” in Mrs Browns voice??🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
sorry @Dellicious i have no helpful ideas but it would give me the giggles!🤣

Imbusytodaysorry · 04/08/2025 09:43

@Dellicious thats actually a weird one .
Wouldn't it feel more normal if he was saying “you feel good “
How does he know his dick feels good to, as you are the one receiving it not him !

I think he gets off on thinking you love his dick and is telling himself it lol

Leilaandtheloggerheads · 04/08/2025 09:46

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 08:12

No he was referring to himself. As in. ‘I am enjoying the feeling in my penis’.

He makes sure it does feel good for me too. But when he says this phrase he is referring to himself. He’s not boasting.

That was my interpretation, and does sound similar to things guys say but the constant nature of this is a massive turn off!

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 09:48

Imbusytodaysorry · 04/08/2025 09:43

@Dellicious thats actually a weird one .
Wouldn't it feel more normal if he was saying “you feel good “
How does he know his dick feels good to, as you are the one receiving it not him !

I think he gets off on thinking you love his dick and is telling himself it lol

No, sorry if I’ve not been clear. He is telling me that his own dick feels nice to him. Like he is reporting the experience of his own pleasure.
He’s not telling me that I should be appreciative of how his dick makes me feel.

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OriginalSkang · 04/08/2025 09:48

I read on here years ago that a poster eventually had to split up with someone because when they were out and about (not in bed) he kept whispering "Penetration!" in her ear. Presumably thinking it was turning her on! 😂

This reminds me of that 😄

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 09:51

OriginalSkang · 04/08/2025 09:48

I read on here years ago that a poster eventually had to split up with someone because when they were out and about (not in bed) he kept whispering "Penetration!" in her ear. Presumably thinking it was turning her on! 😂

This reminds me of that 😄

Jesus Christ. The horror. There is no circumstance when that word would be a turn on, let alone when out and about!

A friend of mine once reported that a man she’d slept with had told her at one point that ‘my foreskin is fully retracted’. Like he was writing some kind of medical report. I don’t think I stopped laughing for a week.

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Bigpaintinglittlepainting · 04/08/2025 09:52

I could not hack that, I would be completely distracted Grin

Honestly I'd have to say you're putting me off but I can't see how it wouldn't cause upset !

He was just having a nice time !

CalzoneOnLegs · 04/08/2025 09:52

TheGoddessFrigg · 04/08/2025 08:08

This sounds like it is going to be future ICK!

Anyway, shouldn't you be saying this not him? It's a bit conceited.

I was thinking that, needs to be In another thread ! 🤣

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 04/08/2025 10:00

I keep hearing Barry White songs playing, red nylon sheets….
He has clearly been doing this for a while and nobody has told him. Or if they have he’s taken notice.
Previous partners lying there thinking please, Graham, not that again.
Do men actually think women want to hear this.
At least he isn’t calling it ‘Teddy’ like I’ve seen on that ick thread. As in ‘Teddy is tired’ which is hideous.
Can you keep repeating ‘oh I do agree, Graham, my fanny feels fantastic, what a lovely coincidence!’

autienotnaughty · 04/08/2025 10:06

My dick feels good
my vagina also feels good

every time

NimbleDreamer · 04/08/2025 10:11

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 09:11

Oh! This reminds me that i haven’t mentioned the best/worst bit!

No - he makes no different a sound at climax than beforehand. Just louder, with a grunt or two. If he hadn’t been saying the exact same thing dozens of times previously, his orgasm sound would be well within the bounds of normal.

But then, ha! The only change comes immediately afterwards when he says ‘My dick felt good’! Moved it to the past tense!

That’s made me laugh thinking about it.

I just wish he’d use a wider vocabulary! Cock. Even ‘it’ or ‘that’.

Nope sorry this would give me too much of an ick. I'd have to end it. You could try talking to him about it and say you find his constant repetitions of "my dick feels/felt good" to be too off putting and see what he says.

Coconutter24 · 04/08/2025 10:12

Silvertulips · 04/08/2025 08:25

It doesn’t sound conceited. He’s not telling OP it feels good for her, he is letting her know that he’s enjoying it

How did you get that??

It gives me the ICK thinking about it!

It’s like talking over a film! Rude and unnecessary!!

I got that by actually reading the thread, it did sound like he was letting her know he was enjoying himself not boasting but like I said I actually read the thread and OP confirmed that in her post

OP said ⬇️

No he was referring to himself. As in. ‘I am enjoying the feeling in my penis’.
He makes sure it does feel good for me too. But when he says this phrase he is referring to himself. He’s not boasting.

BruceAndNosh · 04/08/2025 10:16

YodasHairyButt · 04/08/2025 08:16

Every time he says it, reply to him with the same phrase “that’s nice” or “good for you” or something. I bet he stops and asks why you keep saying that!

I suggest "you're welcome" as a return catchphrase.
Possibly because I frequently use it in a passive aggressive way...

Deadringer · 04/08/2025 10:20

Stick a finger in his bum, see does he change his tune.

TeeBee · 04/08/2025 10:21

I think I'd start saying really loudly 'Yes, you already mentioned that' before he gets his arsed dumped.

Amuseaboosh · 04/08/2025 10:26

This made me chuckle on a Monday morning.

I'd be very tempted to say, 'really, can't say I'm quite there.....'

Sorry OP, rubbish advice from me 😁

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 04/08/2025 10:28

Deadringer · 04/08/2025 10:20

Stick a finger in his bum, see does he change his tune.

OMFG 😂😂😂

Although he might change it to 'your finger feels good' 👉

namechangeGOT · 04/08/2025 10:28

lazyarse123 · 04/08/2025 09:04

A bit off topic but this reminds me of an occasion when dh and I were dtd in the living room not long after dh had tiled the fireplace and I blurted out "oh I didn't know you tiled underneath the mantelpiece" . Apparently that's a bit of a mood killer 😂😂.
Sorry no useful advice.

We were once DTD with the news at 10 on in the background. I cried out ‘fucking hell Richard Whiteley has died’!

namechangeGOT · 04/08/2025 10:29

Deadringer · 04/08/2025 10:20

Stick a finger in his bum, see does he change his tune.

Excellent user name for your suggestion!

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 04/08/2025 10:33

namechangeGOT · 04/08/2025 10:28

We were once DTD with the news at 10 on in the background. I cried out ‘fucking hell Richard Whiteley has died’!

I can’t breathe 😂
You’re not Carol Vordeman are you?

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 04/08/2025 10:48

Perhaps you could shout repeatedly “my Fanny feels equally satisfied!”

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 10:53

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 04/08/2025 10:48

Perhaps you could shout repeatedly “my Fanny feels equally satisfied!”

If I can’t find the right way to bring it up I might actually have to do this. Might also serve to tell him he still has work to do if he changes to ‘My dick felt good’ after he comes but I’m still working in the present tense!

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PigletSanders · 04/08/2025 10:59

Oh my good god. He could be Tom Hardy and if he behaved like that, I’d tell him to get the fuck out of my house.

How on earth did you go back twice more?!

Dellicious · 04/08/2025 11:04

PigletSanders · 04/08/2025 10:59

Oh my good god. He could be Tom Hardy and if he behaved like that, I’d tell him to get the fuck out of my house.

How on earth did you go back twice more?!

Because for a long time prior to him starting to repeatedly tell me his dick felt good, his mouth was otherwise occupied and I enjoyed it a huge amount!

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SummerHouse · 04/08/2025 11:15

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 04/08/2025 10:28

OMFG 😂😂😂

Although he might change it to 'your finger feels good' 👉

More likely he will go with "my bum hole feels good" ⭕