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Double booked feel guilty

181 replies

TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 20:58

I have double booked myself . I said I’d have my friends kids for her, but now I have booked a
holiday. I feel so guilty
i cant change the holiday :( but didn’t want to let my friend down
any tips please ? Am I a terrible friend?

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Mikis · 03/08/2025 20:59

Yes it was not a nice thing to do - you knew you had your friends kids and you did it anyway

helloquitty · 03/08/2025 20:59

what was the reason for you having her kids? And when is the holiday?
don’t feel bad, just tell her of your mistake

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 03/08/2025 21:00

Why did you book the holiday if you knew you had plans?

Teeheehee1579 · 03/08/2025 21:00

Well you’ll just have to fess up and give her enough time to organise something else - there isn’t really any other advice anyone can give is there? I’d just say it was the only time you could all go or something

Spies · 03/08/2025 21:01

How on earth do you just randomly book a holiday without checking your prior plans. If there's no way of cancelling the holiday which would be the best option given you made plans to your friend first then you need to let your friend know asap although I can't see how it won't impact your friendship going forward.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 03/08/2025 21:05

Had you forgotten you had agreed to have her kids on those dates or did you book the holiday knowing it was going to mean letting her down?

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TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:06

Spies · 03/08/2025 21:01

How on earth do you just randomly book a holiday without checking your prior plans. If there's no way of cancelling the holiday which would be the best option given you made plans to your friend first then you need to let your friend know asap although I can't see how it won't impact your friendship going forward.

My battery went and my calendar is on my phone . Will it affect my friendship ?

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TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:06

SomeOfTheTrouble · 03/08/2025 21:05

Had you forgotten you had agreed to have her kids on those dates or did you book the holiday knowing it was going to mean letting her down?

I had forgot about having her kids

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Spies · 03/08/2025 21:07

TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:06

My battery went and my calendar is on my phone . Will it affect my friendship ?

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Of course it will affect your friendship. To be honest it sounds like a crap excuse. Surely you wouldn't book if you hadn't checked your availability...

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 03/08/2025 21:08

When is this happening?
You need to tell her ASAP so she has time to find someone else to take her kids.

HappiestSleeping · 03/08/2025 21:08

The priority is the one you committed to first. Looks like you won't be going on holiday. Either that, or take friend's child / children with you.

TheNightingalesStarling · 03/08/2025 21:10

How long were you supposed to be having the kids for?

fthisfthatfeverything · 03/08/2025 21:10

Tell her your hubby booked it and didn’t know you’d arranged to look after her little one

fthisfthatfeverything · 03/08/2025 21:11

HappiestSleeping · 03/08/2025 21:08

The priority is the one you committed to first. Looks like you won't be going on holiday. Either that, or take friend's child / children with you.

Wise up!!

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TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:13

TheNightingalesStarling · 03/08/2025 21:10

How long were you supposed to be having the kids for?

2 days

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Whaleandsnail6 · 03/08/2025 21:14

How long till the holiday/babysittimg duties?

If its tomorrow then you are massively unreasonable since you are likely leaving her in the lurch. If its 6 months from now, then it's not too bad.

You have to tell her as soon as you can.. it's likely that she will be annoyed as you are letting her down but thats the situation

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TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:15

Whaleandsnail6 · 03/08/2025 21:14

How long till the holiday/babysittimg duties?

If its tomorrow then you are massively unreasonable since you are likely leaving her in the lurch. If its 6 months from now, then it's not too bad.

You have to tell her as soon as you can.. it's likely that she will be annoyed as you are letting her down but thats the situation

the 20th of August . Meant to be having them for 2 days

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Whaleandsnail6 · 03/08/2025 21:18

TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:15

the 20th of August . Meant to be having them for 2 days

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Well given you are not going to cancel your holiday, you're just going to have to tell her asap since its very short notice to give her time to sort something else.

Don't keep putting it off cos you are scared of her reaction. Thats unfair.

ScrambledEggs12 · 03/08/2025 21:18

Don't you check your calendar when booking a holiday?

SomeOfTheTrouble · 03/08/2025 21:20

TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:15

the 20th of August . Meant to be having them for 2 days

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Did you not check your calendar at the time of deciding which dates you were going to book a holiday for?

londongirl12 · 03/08/2025 21:22

Yes if you were my friend I would be pissed off with you. But you need to tell her NOW!!!

Notmyreality · 03/08/2025 21:25

Jesus what a lot of drama from everyone. Apologise, say you made a mistake and enjoy your holiday.

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TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:26

londongirl12 · 03/08/2025 21:22

Yes if you were my friend I would be pissed off with you. But you need to tell her NOW!!!

Have done

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Spies · 03/08/2025 21:30

TheOpalFox · 03/08/2025 21:26

Have done

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I hope you at least rang her rather than just sent a text.

I still can't understand how you booked the holiday without checking your diary though.

AvidJadeShaker · 03/08/2025 21:34

Apologise and offer to pay for 2 days childcare.