To think private schools are more about parental ego than children’s education?

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Yes, they may get results. But isn’t a huge part of private schooling about parents wanting the status symbol of saying their child goes there? AIBU to think it’s more about ego than learning?

All schools are a lucky dip. All children also are a lucky dip of where they can thrive and what individuals they get in their lives that help support them correctly
boarding schools however … 😱

Well personally I sent DD to private school after removing her from state because her mental health was in pieces and we'd tried everything to get her well mentally. She also has a chronic health condition that the state school was rubbish at accommodating.

After her GCSEs she told me that if we hadn't moved her to her lovely private school she probably wouldn't be here now. She admitted she had attempted an overdose before we moved her ( thankfully she took pills that would never have given her the desired result)

She got GCSE passes she would never have managed at state school and we get to see her alive and well everyday. Win win for us although the back account is still hurting even a year after she left at 16.

But it's lovely to know what people thought about me when they saw me with her in her private school uniform.

Some people would do well not to judge others as things aren't always what they appear to be.

@Elferbowton well done - you are right! My DD is thick as mince ( I prefer to just say she has slow processing but I suppose it's all the same to you) So bloody what. You sound very bitter.

Or maybe they want their children to learn in an environment where it is not considered weird to stay at school beyond 16? Where they are not going to be bullied for being academic? Where someone is going to notice if they are doing nothing at the back of the class? Or as my daughter said to me, not letting them be satisfied with second best?

The same does apply to private health care, it will tick over on the nice little things and put fresh flowers in your room but try getting a heart transplant.
You'll end up back at the local comp, sorry NHS hospital complaining how entitled you are.

It's a factor but probably not the main driving force

The intent is that the DC will get a good education, colour that how you will.
But it is also about opening doors to options that are not always available to the people that go to public schools or your local secondary/comprehensive/academy. The old school tie is still very much alive and well.

I don’t think so OP. I think if state schools were a better standard, there would be less demand for private schools, or at least the ones that just offer an alternative to a really awful local school. Mine go to state.

What about that VAT on private school issue eh? Yey or ney? Now we’ve had a bit of time to appreciate the benefits of it in (non grammar) state schools, they must be cracking on with their renewed funding stream and extra teachers.

Obviously a troll post but LOL. State schools in my area are in the shitter. Have had to move my DD private because of bullying and absolutely toxic culture of underachievement. State schools just don’t have the resources to cope with the appalling behaviour of kids and I feel sorry for the teachers who are mostly doing their best in terrible conditions. It’s a sad state of affairs and all kids deserve far better.

I feel sorry for the teachers who are mostly doing their best in terrible conditions. It’s a sad state of affairs and all kids deserve far better.

Yes.

Valid and I don’t doubt that for many parents, those are the exact reasons. But I still think ego can play a role, even if it’s subconscious. Sometimes it’s about wanting your child seen a certain way by others, not just what they’re learning. Both things can be true.

‘Sometimes it’s about wanting your child seen a certain way by others, not just what they’re learning.‘

I think that’s just you projecting.

😂😂😂😂😂 In my experience I think in certain circles it’d be easier to admit to being child molester than the fact you send your children to private school! Certainly it was something I actively avoided mentioning with new people so definite not to bolster my ego. Just wanted to give my children a consistent educational experience in a smallish school.

My daughter’s autistic and couldn’t cope in a room of 30 kids running around and making noise, she literally sat in a corner with her hands over her ears for 6 months and sobbed not to go every day. She also has virtually no working memory, so needed far more help than her poor teacher who was run of her feet could ever give her.

So we pulled her out and sent her to a small private school with a class of 10, which had a teacher and TA. I would have bloody loved to have saved all the money her education cost us. I have a shit pension, tiny house and no holidays for the better part of 16 years. But please carry on telling me about my ego.

Sorry but I think you’re talking crap. The hate for anyone who sends their child to private school is ridiculous. Parents who send their children to private school do because they want the best for their children and can afford to pay a premium for that.
It doesn’t make them better or worse than someone who sends their children to state school or who pay a premium to live in the best postcode to get that.

Private has smaller classes, it doesn’t take much to realise how that is beneficial to any child.

If I had the money I would go private any day.

Ha ha, this is a new one.

Yes I believe in many cases it’s wanting the prestige, or if you come from a family of privately educated and were privately educated yourself then wanting to continue on the legacy of prestige. I certainly know a good few people for who this is the case.

Yeah I send my DD to private school so I can brag to people that don't, I especially do it so I can brag to random people on the Internet who I will never meet.

I never mention my other kids who go to a struggling state school, I just pretend she's an only child and make them leave the house if she has friends over.

Stupid post, people and their situations are complicated.

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It’s a bloody expensive way to boost your ego! Much cheaper to post on social media about exotic holidays.

We pay the exorbitant fees for our DC to have class sizes small enough that teachers can spend time with them, no one is throwing chairs around and getting a sticker on Friday if they manage two days without doing it, proper focus on sport and person development as well as education.

Are they going to come out any brighter? No.

is it a nicer experience? Massively.

Do we pay the exorbitant fees in order to give them these things, as sadly this is the only way where we live they can have this, or for an ego boost? You decide.

DT’s went to a non uniform private school so you would never know which school they went to. We paid for them to go there - an international school- as the state school didn’t do classes in multiple languages which as a non British trilingual family was important to us.

Both DT’s got all A’s and went onto to get 1st at RG Uni’s. Good value for our money.

Actually I know someone whose child did have SEN, but also qualified for a full bursary at a very well-known public school. It became clear after a year or two that the school were not interested in helping the child's SEN, but the parent flatly refused to move child to state because what would everyone say and/or think. Child was 'managed out' by the public school after GCSEs and refused to attend any further education.

When I hear private school parents say they've sent their kids to private school for the SEN provision, I laugh out loud.