Pressured into having a baby by older partner

[courtneyk92]

I've been seeing a 45 year old man, I am a 32 year old female. He looks after me so well. I've been dating him since 2023, and just these last few months gotten serious where we've moved in together. He has 3 grown children, all 20+ (had them young). I have a 8 and 6 year old who he adores. He really wants more kids, since he met me he has said "every single day I vision what our children will look like" , "my dream is to have a baby with you", "are you prepared to give me a baby", " I want lots of babies with you" and just begs me for a baby constantly. to the extent he keeps taking the Condom off.. and purposely ... inside me and I keep taking the morning after pill and its making me so sick. I feel so pressured because he gets moody if I say no :( any advice ?

And with the drip feed, 100% leave him, and also consider reporting to the police - non consensual sex of any kind is rape, and you've listed two types already

As others have said OP, removing the condom when you've not consented is rape. Him forcing you to have anal sex when you say no is also rape. Please talk to someone like women's aid or your GP. You don't deserve to be treated like this. He is not a good partner or man.

How can you describe a man who has repeatedly raped you as "looking after you so well."?

Please leave him ASAP. Whether you decide to go to the police about the rape is something to think about when you are safely away from this awful man.

He’s a rapist.
Report him to the police and get him the hell out of your house and away from your young children.

You.need.to.leave.and don't.have sex.with.him.ever.again.

Please report this disgusting man to the police for both anal rape and stealthing rape. He needs to be stopped. Please leave as soon as it is safe for you to do so.

He's either trying to trap you, so he can then better control you or he has a breeding fetish. The fact he's removing the condom during sex without your consent, and is anally penetrating you, even when told no equates to rape. You need to remove yourself and children from this relationship asap. He's not a good person on any level.

He’s hardly looking after you well is he?!?!
ffs!
get away from him ASAP!!!

He's raping you call the police and get him away from your children

YABU to stay in this relationship. Get some therapy.

Does he stop when you say stop?

Did this behaviour start after he moved in with you OP?

How can you say "he looks after you so well" when he is raping you?And hurting you physically?

You need to end this relationship. And report him to the police. He is a dangerous man.

You sound vulnerable, OP. This man is vile. He’s raping you repeatedly. He’s a danger to you and your DCs. You can call the police and get them to take him away.

This is rape.

If you do not want to report him to the police, please get some support from rape crisis organisations.

Personally I’d record a conversation in which he admits doing it and then take it to the police, but it is your choice to report him or not.

But you should be clear on this - the stealthing and forced anal sex are both rape. He is a rapist.

Keep your children safe from this person and yourself.

OMG What have I just read.

Get you and your children away from this rapist,.

He is raping you, you could report it and have him prosecuted

This is rape. Get an IUD, I would say take the pill but he can tamper with them also.

He's moved in with you?

Kick him out.

If he won't go, call the police

This cant be real.
Why would you have a man like that around your children .

Disgusting - I would totally feel unloved and just used as a vessel/baby machine from this behaviour. Very Handmaids Tale - so sorry for you that he’s turned out like this but at least you know now in time to get your life back!

Stealthing is a crime. It’s rape. This happened to me. I wish I’d pursued it. We are now divorced and guess who was left to bring up our child as a lone parent. This man is a controlling freak and you need to get out.

This is appalling. Run for the hills.

Jesus Christ. Was that the only thing you could come up with to say to a woman who is being raped?