To think most men wouldn’t survive a year living the life of an average woman?

[ThatRealLimeBee]

The daily grind of sexism, safety worries, juggling expectations, emotional labour… Most men have no idea. AIBU to think they’d crumble under the load if they had to swap lives with us for a year?

I think a lot of men don't have the selfless that most mothers display all the time.

The perfect home, perfect Christmas shit that some women insist on, as if they're competing to be crowned 'Best Woman' by someone like Nigel Faragevwould be ignored by most men.

Hang on a min. I have been the main earner for 7 years. I have also carried the mental load at home. Being the main earner is a doddle, compared with remembering all of the family admin, keeping everyone healthy, maintaining house etc.

Men would be bloody angry about the pay gap if they had to live a year as a woman.

Male GPs would be horrified and appalled to discover for themselves what having agonising period pain and horrendous flooding every month is really like.

Once they've suffered that for 6 months, they can switch to having ALL the menopause symptoms in bucketloads for the rest of the year.

I can pretty much guarantee that after that experience, they might be a bit more sympathetic towards 'womens' problems' in future.

I find it so silly and childish when women harp on that men, the half of the species that survived years in trenches, built the cities and towns we live in, manned the factories, fought wars couldn't gasp cope with menstruation!

Another women here who doesn't fear for my safety constantly, feel any more pressure on my appearance than men clearly feel or take any responsibility for hubbys family. The women here are such martyrs!! They do loads of unnecessary stuff, then complain they had to do it all and no one helped them. No one else cares! That's why! Forget the 12 courses of Christmas and get a grip.

In my experience, some of the least sympathetic medical practitioners in respect of periods, childbirth, menopause and endometriosis have been women. Most women don’t experience intense pain, flooding or completely debilitating symptoms and many seem unable to compute that other women might.

But they just wouldnt do half the stuff anyway

Floors would be sticky, children would be dirty and badly fed, school clubs would be forgotten or payment not made, dental appointments missed, everything left to last minute and the blame someone else that chaos ensues.

Yup. Mrs Shackleton did all the ironing on his boat trip.

You've been unlucky in that respect, my GP practices wherever I've lived have been overwhelmingly staffed by male doctors. The best doctor I ever had was female.

I don't have the husband part but I'd quite like to send men into work with regular periods. I'd also like so see them womansplained at, doubted what they say by women, having to work harder for promotions and so on.

I recently realised that I got rid of all the little admin stuff man at work try to assign to women but that I am still doing the mental load for them. Things like: I tell a coworker when I will be off and require cover and he simply responds with 'ok, I will be off after you'. Nothing else. Requires me to ask about dates, what needs doing etc. I'm going to figure out a way to stop this because I am sick of this shit.

A year?

They'd barely last a week!

Agree with this.
Most women I know simply do not want husbands or partners to do things 'cause they would get it wrong'. Always say it a bit jokey but they mean it.
I have a bit of a do it later partner. I'm like 'fine' and go to bed. (and he does it) Others I know would be 'well I'll just do it then "and grump about it.

I have it pretty easy tbh. I opted out of relationships and motherhood (I suggest the constant moaners do the same!) as these were all options available to me. It's perfectly possible to lead a simple stress free life as a woman-if you want a man and family then obviously the type of thing you mention is what you sign up for. I'd much rather be a woman than a man though.

The women's network at my workplace offers confidence coaching to women. One day I will let rip what I think about this and get fired.

My 13yo DD has endured more pain and inconvenience just from her period in the last year than many men do at 30. We had a chat the other day about how most men are terrified of vasectomy because they have never experienced real bodily pain except from injury as children. The men in videos of period cramp simulators tell me all I need to know.

A lot of women have marta syndrom. They do things that don't need to be done.Then moan about doing them.

You're assuming they would do it though. Many just wouldnt do it, so it doesnt get done

My OH doesnt do birthday or christmas cards for family, his own children. I used to do it and then stopped and said he needed to as its his family I dont expect him to do that for my family and friends. He doesnt do it. therefore his own children dont get birthday cards from him and grandchildren. Its just not on his radar

When I was single-handedly raising my children they were clean and we had home-cooked meals around the dinner table every night, they did paid extra-curricular activities, they went to all the medical appointments they needed to, had friends over, and did well at school.

It took a lot of organisation at times and I'd have been screwed without my to-do lists and calendar. But as none of the day to day care seemed to require I have a vagina I managed fine.

Because they received the good girl training as children. The onus is always on girls/women. First we train them to be good girls and once they enter the workforce they are all of a sudden expected to behave like men also or it will massively impact their salaries and careers.

Honestly I wouldn't survive a week living my husbands life - he's a tradie with a physical job, he has a fucked shoulder due to said job so is in constant pain, and he's self-employed so has to be nearly dead before he take a day off. My office job and monthly period is a piece of piss in comparison.

It is for you because that's what you prefer. Another person would suffer because they need to be out and about. Also, nothing stops him from changing his career to something that eases use of his shoulder. Just like women take jobs to work around kids.

I'm a woman and I did a manual job for 30 years.
A quarter of farmers are women.
95% of grooms are women, 70% of the equine workforce are female.
My friend is a painter/decorator and volunteers on the local RNLI crew.
Not so long ago women worked down the mines.

During the war women worked the canals, were land girls and munitions workers doing long hours in factories. Men might have been on the front but if it weren't for women working like demons and looking after home and family at the same time the war might have ended another way.

We're not all wafting about in kitten heels wiping away tears with our ring fingers.

Yes, my husband faffs and stressed endlessly about multiple presents for grown adults.

My parents want charity goats, get charity goats. Something for my niblings. Gifts for our son.

I do lots of stuff around Christmas, but it all boils down to "christmassy versions of stuff I was doing anyway" and I don't see any need for extra stress.

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The men in videos of period cramp simulators tell me all I need to know.

That would be the ones were they crank it up to 11?

I would love to see one were they put both the man and woman on one and then increase it gradually and see who taps out first.

I hate this trope. My husband does far more than his fair share. Most men I know at least share the domestic load, and the ones that don’t are the product of mothers and wives that have enabled them to not be fully formed adults.