It's not "passed" or "passed away", it's "died"

[SherlockHolmes]

So sick of this euphemism being used everywhere. It's not factual - no one has passed anywhere, they're dead.

I get it if it's someone close to you and you can't bring yourself to actually mention death, but it's being used in news reports etc. Utterly ridiculous.

unalived Is a stupid word too.. say what it is…. Depending on the context, it’s dead or killed. Like why complicate the term. I don’t use the term passed away. I’ll always say died. Im not religious, but I used to hear catholics say this more than anyone. Like someone has passed on to another life… not 100% sure that’s true though.

Mine can feel very much like that, especially in the first year or two, but even now sometimes, many years after he died 😆

I don't even think you know what you're frothing about tbh. You're crying about it being not factual but say it's ok if it's a close relative? It doesn't change it being "not factual" (despite it being a well used phrase for dying but ok..)
What are you actually angry about?

And the crew moaning about the use of unalived, this is, the vast majority of the time, used when refering suicide and social media will ban / delete videos or posts using the correct wording, but again people have to whinge their tits about something

Euphemisms for death bother me too and this thread has prompted me to wonder why. I think in the most part it’s because they are ambiguous and can cause confusion but when I really think about it, it’s probably because the existence of a euphemism usually means something is shameful or embarrassing or needs to be hidden. The culture in the uk isn’t great with death. Bereaved people are often isolated because people feel worried about what to say or do- so they avoid saying or doing anything. It feels like the use of phrases to avoid saying that someone has died sort of feeds that belief that death is a subject to be avoided at all costs. So I think that’s the real issue, it just supports the idea that death is a taboo, which is really unhelpful to people experiencing bereavement.

I think you follow the bereaved in the language you use. I’m in favour of died, but I’d never say that if I gauged the person preferred a different term in their grief.

I hate people using the term passed away, always have

This.

It's perfectly fine and an odd thing to get worked up about tbh.

I think it's ok for someone to say "passed away" about a loved one but it's not ok for health care professionals or news readers to say it as they should use the correct terminology for clarity.

Why do you care so much. Calm down.

You seem nice OP 🙄

Agree

To be fair to OP, she mentioned news reports, and I don't think the TV and radio news should shy away from using the 'correct' word.

Having said that, for a long time, BBC news would announce a famous person's death by saying "Joe Blogs is dead" which even I found pretty bleak. It also felt oddly disrespectful, as it took the action away from the deceased, in my mind. It seems to me much better to say "Joe Blogs has died"

Thankyou for this. It's taken me years to be comfortable to refer to the fact that my lovely dad has died.
If you don't like the fact I may have used the phrase "he passed away" annoying then you can fuck right off. My grief, my way to deal with it.

To me, “passed on” or simply “passed” makes a bit more sense than “passed away” when referring to someone who has passed on to the next life.

Unalived raised an eyebrow at first but now I know the reasons behind it, that seems reasonable too.

I really couldn’t care less. Whatever people are happy with themselves is fine by me. They are all “correct” words or terms in the context of their use.

I think people should use what they feel comfortable with and other people should respect that.
Also, some people consider passing /passed away as the equivalent or passing over as in passing over to the other side if that's what they believe.

I think so. They were quite vile on it too.

Exactly. Should've just said "what she said"😀

I get a mental image of the deceased sitting on the lavatory.

Typical OP has not come back.

❤️ 🫂

"Unalived" is used on social media platforms like TikTok to stop people getting banned from talking about death....

I wasn't addressing the OP, though; that was addressed to people in general - including some participating in/quoted on this thread who have to have the last word and make the death of somebody's loved one all about them.

The same with people who "call a spade a spade" and other common phrases meaning that they couldn't care less about other people's feelings.

I do agree with you about news reports using euphemistic language; but I stand by my comments on the kind of people who will tell a grieving person that they are using the wrong language.

It's a bit like on here when a desperate woman will write something like "My partner of 20 years beats me, screams at me and denies me access to money. I spoke to my MIL about how he treats me, but she just told me that I deserve it and that I should be grateful to have him"... and then somebody feels the urgent need at that moment to point out "Well, if you aren't married, then she isn't actually your MIL!!"

But 'lost' can equally mean either 'cannot be located' or 'is no longer mine/with me/in my life/in my control' - such as when you lose your house or job or a battle.

Obviously, in this case, people mean the latter.