Those who don't decorate but wear designer

[OceanStorm]

AIBU to think those who choose to not properly decorate their homes but wear designer clothes/beauty treatments have their priorities wrong? Is it a class thing?

What an unhinged thread topic hahahaha

OP thinks their priorities are right and can’t understand why other people have different priorities 😂
you’ve obviously made your mind up already so what’s the point in this??!

im not a homebody at all. I love being out and going to different places. There’s no point for me to spend £££s on a home I’m barely spending time in. If I had to choose one or the other, I’d rather spend on a dress that brings me joy and makes me feel confident to wear when I’m out, than buy a kitchen or a painting for my wall

When I bought my first house I furnished it with second hand furniture. My bed frame was an old Victorian cast iron and brass one from a local auction. I also bought a beautiful Edwardian bedroom set including marble topped wash stand. My bedroom was straight out of the interior design magazines of the day. True cottage style to go with the style of house. I treated myself to a luxury set of white cotton bed linen to go with it. I would lovingly wash and starch the linen once a week. Until my DH moved in, then I bought dark coloured replacements and gave up ironing sheets.

My DH is much more practical, the settees we bought when we moved into our current house had to be long enough for DH to lie flat on ( he’s 6’2”). The rest of our furniture has a practical purpose and a lot has been inherited. I would have loved more of my parents furniture but it was too big for our house. I do have a lot of bookcases, all filled with books.

I can’t understand minimalist houses where they have bookcases with just two or three ornaments on them and not a book in sight.

A middle class thing?

I think that they like houses where it’s obvious that their friends mum isn’t going to bring out the carpet cleaner or hoover if you drop biscuit crumbs or leave footprints in the carpet pile. I always feel a little unnerved by immaculate houses.
DS’s friends will happily drape themselves around our furniture. It’s usually covered in big fleeces ( dog hair), they are all country lads so used to furniture that is worn or well protected.
They also all take off their shoes, not because they’re asked to but because it’s just what you do in the country. It’s practical rather than as a result of being precious. It’s a waste of time cleaning our hard floors at the moment it’s been so dry that there is a permanent layer of dust everywhere. When it starts to rain I’ll hoover.

This was my mother's favourite Alan Clarke? saying.

You would never know what the inside of my
house is like, as I would hope when my friends come round my house, they are coming to see me, and not rate my painting and ‘decorative furnishings.’ 🙄 Who is actually letting you in their home? Do you always judge your friends and family like this?

@OceanStorm Just because I don’t judge, it doesn’t me I don’t feel judged!! That’s why it affects me! You looking down on the likes of me really doesn’t feel good! I do have feelings! Genuinely, what difference does it make to your life if people don’t decorate to your tastes, but wear designer clothes?
The question should be, why does it affect you?! Is that seriously all you took from my post? Did it nt make you think?
If you feel uncomfortable in their ‘not to your taste’ (un)decorated homes, refuse their invitation. How can you be so shallow?

I bought mine from a second hand shop - is that curating?

"Curating". Up there with "sourced" for pretension.

@OceanStorm
i do both. I curate my home (thats my job) and clothes (not necessarily designers).

but you come across as incredibly arrogant.

as long as the home is clean, i dont care about the decor at all. And the way they dress. Again as long as it s clean.

it s about making real connection with real people.

i hope you re not my friend because I i ow you d be judging me 🤣 and if you are I hope you are genuinely liking my family otherwise move over and dont bother.

you re so judgmental i dont know where to start!

Only if you have a dado rail
All coming back into fashion actually..

I don't do either of those things OP, I've got other concerns. Classify me if you must.

"Absolute Wanker"

HTH 😁

I really don't see fake lashes, talon nails, etc counting as "designer".

The mantra when I was a child in the '60s was: "So long as it's clean and paid for!"

Yes, it is a class thing. Actual posh people can afford to decorate using very high quality materials which wear very well, and have solid furniture that lasts forever, so their stuff will be dated. Refreshing your home decor frequently is viewed in some circles as being a bit Hyacinth Bucket.
Refer to Alan Clark's comment about Michael Hesseltine being an arriviste who "Has to buy his own furniture" or The late Princess of Wales' brother saying that his stepmother's renovation of Althorp had "the wedding cake vulgarity of a five-star hotel in Monaco.".
But buying designer clobber is also viewed as an investment, since some people think you get better quality clothes if you pay more for them, though I don't think this is always the case, personally.

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne

Totally off topic but I'm intrigued by your username. Is it a reference to Iron Age Hillforts by any chance?

@Thingyfanding

I have both dado and picture rails - original features in my house

It is not!

I have two cats, and my elderly neighbour, who is from the East Coast of Scotland, calls them The Broon One and The White One.

So not only do you look down at people that don't decorate , sorry curate, there homes to your standard you also look down on people that rent from council or HA.
. How about those that rent privately or have been lucky enough to inherited a house , where are they on your snobbery scale ?

Sounds petit bourgeois

Details? :-) find any state secrets?

@SomeOfTheTrouble bet there were some rooms that were a struggle just like everyone's house, but guests don't get to see those!

Blimey, someone is very obviously bored 😂

Sorry ladies this isn't exactly what curating means. Not to diss an argos or second hand sofa, that is all perfectly fine, but curating it is not! :-)

If you wanted to truly curate a room, I guess, at a push, you would research each piece of furniture, the designer, when and where it was made, you would move through the room with a definite plan of how to best display the design classics of the time in relation to each other, there would be at the very least tentacles of unity between pieces, same age but different countries, same designer but from different eras of their career, the art and 3D pieces, lampshades, door handles and such like would all link to the common idea, hence bringing a sense of completeness and education of a particular design or age to the room and being able to impress, I guess, your guests, or show a passion and hopefully they leave with a deeper understanding of the influence of your chosen pieces on that particular time, reflecting social and commercial developments of that time and place.

Painting a new build's living room walls, buying a sofa and throwing in some pretty cushions is not curating. You might get away with it if you are using modern, designers, acknowledge in their field, reflecting society today with pieces that will stand the test of time, but this is very difficult, as it's not an exact science to know which pieces will come to reflect the 21st 20s.