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Those who don't decorate but wear designer

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OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:20

AIBU to think those who choose to not properly decorate their homes but wear designer clothes/beauty treatments have their priorities wrong? Is it a class thing?

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WooleyMunky · 31/07/2025 20:31

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:31

Perception is more important than reality?

Then just do LSD and save on decorating...

CountryCob · 31/07/2025 20:31

Also if we are telling the OP she is a snob need to drop criticism of live laugh love and crushed velvet

Ooothatsagoodone · 31/07/2025 20:32

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:20

AIBU to think those who choose to not properly decorate their homes but wear designer clothes/beauty treatments have their priorities wrong? Is it a class thing?

I like the shit hole houses round my way, that have expensive cars outside! They probably moan about not being able to heat the house in winter too

lifeonmars100 · 31/07/2025 20:32

how have you arrived at this conclusion, extensive research conducted by inspecting multiple persons homes and wardrobes?

Epli · 31/07/2025 20:33

Confabulations · 31/07/2025 20:30

Nobody 'curates' their house. It's not a bloody museum or zoo collection.

I don't have many pet peeves, but using 'curate' to describe something trivial like choosing sofa or creating a spotify playlist is one of them.

XWKD · 31/07/2025 20:34

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:38

You can't see the correlation? To me it shows people who care about how they are perceived by others vs those who care about how they perceive and enjoy their home

You're assuming people don't enjoy their homes unless they're decorated according to your taste. I loathe decorative items.

OffRoad · 31/07/2025 20:34

When we moved into our house many years ago it was a ‘do-er upper’ and although living with the building work for months was hard going, the truly hellish bit for me was the rigmarole of choosing the kitchen and home furnishings and paint colours.If we could’ve afforded an interior designer to just choose it all I’d have been delighted.

I felt sorry for my DH, as he’d be saying ‘cornflower blue or duck egg blue?’ ‘Oak worktop or granite?’ and by the end I was like a petulant teenager…I just don’t fucking care!!!

I don’t care about ornaments, paintings, photos on the wallls, plants. Couldn’t give a monkeys.

We haven’t redecorated significantly since moving in and our house is a bit shabby. No fucks to give.

We go on great holidays, go out to concerts and plays a lot, I love clothes (I’m not a major label/designer handbag type of gal, but I collect designer sunglasses and expensive trainers).

As long as I have a clean, functional space with WiFi, books, tv and my bed, I’m good!

JoshLymanSwagger · 31/07/2025 20:34

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:43

So you're saying I'm from a lower class because I think it's important to maintain your home rather than wear flashy clothes?

I think you have no class because you're being deliberately insulting and argumentitive.
You are allowed your opinion, just like every other contributor to this thread.
Never heard of pluralism?

Bunnycat101 · 31/07/2025 20:35

People can spend their money on what the hell they want though- yours isn’t necessarily the right way.

I think you’d hate me OP. We’re prioritising private school and pensions before the house which desperately needs a new kitchen and quite a massive repaint. Would everyone make those choices? No. Does that matter? No.

Oscarsmom71 · 31/07/2025 20:36

This is a personal choice.
i have always prioritised holidays and experiences over home decor.
Thats mine and husbands choice. Something we both agree on.
When you are too old to do anything you wont remember what your house looked like but you’ll never forget experiences. I’m not remotely materialistic so don’t prioritise my home but it’s clean and I think nice but not perfect. I don’t really care.
I don’t have designer clothes and never have and never will.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 31/07/2025 20:36

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 19:45

@Kirbert2 people who have bought homes have to decorate and most are paying a lot more then council rent

Nobody buys a "home" @OceanStorm

One buys a house.

Or not, as some low-class council tenants like my good self prove........
🤣

Eyesopenwideawake · 31/07/2025 20:36

“People were created to be loved. Things were created to be used. The reason why the world is in chaos is because things are being loved and people are being used.”

Dalai Lama XIV

TheKeatingFive · 31/07/2025 20:36

What a weird thread title 🤨

Confabulations · 31/07/2025 20:36

Epli · 31/07/2025 20:33

I don't have many pet peeves, but using 'curate' to describe something trivial like choosing sofa or creating a spotify playlist is one of them.

Absolutely. Pretentious and unnecessary. Which sums this thread up fairly efficiently too.

SausagesSausagesAndMoreSausages · 31/07/2025 20:38

This thread is brilliant. I think OP is having a laugh.

But in the unlikely case she isn’t: OP, it’s not either / or. My home is a CURATED jumble of inherited and modern furniture, books everywhere and original art on the (white) walls (get me).

I also like spending more money than you’d approve of on clothes, nails, hair, and (shock horror) have occasional botox.

My partner lives on a 1920s houseboat. He doesn’t give a fuck what it looks like inside as long as it functions and is reasonably clean and tidy.

No one “highly educated” would be so hard of thinking. If this is real, your views, and replies, are utterly lacking in class.

Live laugh love…

Barney16 · 31/07/2025 20:38

I garden in Prada (coat) Aside from that being an almost rhyme not sure how I would fit into the decorative/designer conundrum.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 31/07/2025 20:39

TheKeatingFive · 31/07/2025 20:36

What a weird thread title 🤨

It's a weird thread.

Angrymum22 · 31/07/2025 20:39

My house is my home so we rarely have visitors. I live in it and most of my furniture and carpets were quality and expensive when we invested in them. We chose classic well built items and are not inclined to constantly change the interior to keep up with fashion.
I’m pretty much the same with clothes and other stuff. I prefer style over fashion.

We buy cars outright and put subtle personalised plates so you can’t see how old they are, I once had a member of staff mock me for having an old car, despite the fact is was still worth twice what her brand new car was. Again my car is for getting me from A to B and I buy reliable, comfortable and primarily safe cars. The last two have been a bit fancier but only because I could afford them. Previously we bought what we could afford.

I’m a bit old school re credit and will do without until we can afford to buy outright. We do have a ring fenced emergency fund for things like repairs or replacement of essential stuff.

I couldn’t give a shit if people don’t like my taste in interior design. I’m the only one who has to live there, but I do like good clothes and expensive makeup. However, now I’m over 60, I’m pretty invisible so can turn up dressed like a scarecrow and nobody notices.

CandyCane457 · 31/07/2025 20:39

MrBallenIsaFittie · 31/07/2025 20:03

But is the cat curated? Only then can it truly be a home 🤣

Dammit she’s not curated! She was actually a…dare I say it…stray!!!

JLou08 · 31/07/2025 20:40

YABU. People having different priorities to you doesn't mean their priorities are wrong.

notatinydancer · 31/07/2025 20:42

Medlar · 31/07/2025 19:31

An interior mooning garden gnome, for instance. Or china ducks flying diagonally across your wall. Or a standard lamp shaped like a leg in a stiletto and fishnets.

Would a Live Laugh Love sign count?

Oceann · 31/07/2025 20:44

OceanStorm · 31/07/2025 18:31

Perception is more important than reality?

No the reality is that you are wearing a nice top - what’s the perception OP?

Papyrophile · 31/07/2025 20:44

I like my house. It's warm and dry and solidly built. It has a fab view. We've been in it yonks, so some rooms were last redecorated 20 years ago, but I still like the colours. Probably massively unfashionable now but last month we spent almost £10k to replace the heating and hot water systems. No one is going to instagram that. You might like some of the pictures and furniture though.

Houses are to live in.... if your house is not a comfortable place to live, you're getting something wrong.

JoshLymanSwagger · 31/07/2025 20:45

TheKeatingFive · 31/07/2025 20:36

What a weird thread title 🤨

It was curated by OP.

ShallIstart · 31/07/2025 20:46

This is crazy. Personally I think people that over decorate their homes are a bit bonkers. My mum spent every weekend of my youth trailing round home furnishing shops looking at home things, curtain fabrics, ornaments, tiles, pictures etc. And I have zero interest in these things.
If you have enough money you can pay someone to do the design and decorating for you, I have some friends that do this who are wealthy, but they can afford to also buy any clothes they want as well.
But the rest of us, from low to even high earners whonare not super wealthy, just pick amd choose and can't buy everything.
Persinally I would rather spend 2 grand on clothes than 2 grand on furnishings.
I get a lot of stuff off facebook market place for my house.
I would not say class comes into it as you get gentry who live in big houses with dated furnishings. But you also get lower income people that are into home decor and their houses look beautiful.

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