Bonnie blue 1000 men and me

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I watched last night (don’t ask me why) I wish I didn’t. Woke up feeling dirty. Pure greed is where her motivation comes from. ‘Bonnie’ aka Tia boasted throughout she is a multi millionaire, where she started making £50k/month and went up to £2m/month before OF shut her account down. Now she’s back to making £600k/month on her new site, selling her body. The men queing up for her 1000 men stunt were just arriving from the street, no one had vetted them and the ones who were on show looked far too old for her and frankly, disgusting in old tracksuit bottoms and huge beer bellies. I’m so concerned by the internet. The young women on the show were ‘Only Fans creators’ and were 18-21, seemed nervous, shy and about to film a porn scene with Bonnie, completely for free but by Bonnie tagging them they would be earning money through new subscribers. These young girls, like Bonnie were stating it’s better than sitting behind a desk.

AIBU to wake up feeling anxious, disgusted, concerned with the damage and short cut to money Only Fans is creating for young women.

What about the girls in Amsterdam in the windows? The many brothels run by violent pimps? These women you feel sorry for, right? Or do you also find them disgusting?

But when a woman makes that choice for herself and completely owns and controls it then she’s a vile? So do you have a problem with the number of people she’s slept with or just that she’s profited from it and has full control over her life? A business woman.

@cosietea I suppose it’s how you’re brought up and the values that are instilled. I was brought up in a very moving family, wonderful parents who just adored us. Obviously most parents love their children but I don’t believe having sex with 1000s of men for attention and posting it for all to see is something most people that have been brought up in a healthy environment would do. We all have a past in certainly not perfect but it’s almost self sabotaging disguised in sheep clothing. She’s still only so young so I imagine that when she’s in her 60s she will more than likely regret her actions (even though she wouldn’t even know this yet herself)

I don’t know…she’s 25, fit and hot and probably thinks she’s infalllible. Maybe she doesn’t really have any emotional attachment to what she’s doing. She struck me as hard and transactional. All a bit sad.

I’m more intrigued to understand how she’s making money, if not through OF. Personal appearances, probably, but I don’t think she’s making as much as she claims.

I want to know why you find it low?

I haven’t seen anyone answer why they find this abhorrent, only deflecting the question ( like you have)

I know I’m not helping by responding but can people stop starting threads about this woman.

I hope her fanny falls off so we never have to hear about her again.

Lovely

So I take it you would be happy for your child to do this. You’d just be ‘have fun, will you be wanting dinner after, let me know if it goes on longer than expected’. Not my personal style of parenting but if your children decide they want to do it at least they know you’ll be cheering them on from the sidelines.

One of the ‘crew’ said the smell afterwards was so disgusting it made you want to vomit.

Why should anyone have to answer to you? Who are you exactly to demand answers?

I haven't called her vile or low but I do find the "rearrange my insides" comment and the imagery in the channel 4 documentary of a young woman with bloodshot red eyes (because of jism) to be extreme. Having men come on your face to that degree, whether you have given consent or not, is difficult to reconcile because many of us have daughters her age and your maternal instinct is to protect. I just want to give her a warm, bubble bath, wrap her in a towel, give her a hug and tell her it's going to be okay.
That's not patronising or taking away her agency. It's telling her she does not have to become someone's cum rag to be powerful, even if wealth brings status. The woman might not have academic smarts but she clearly has business smarts/entrepreneurial skills/a strong work ethic. It would have taken longer but she could have been a CEO. I think the cost is too high - someone said upthread she must have lied about number - not necessarily, if participants went again. Physically then - even with lube/numbing cream (read that without wincing) she will have had some discomfort - Grace Qwen had internal lacerations. That isn't a marathon/seeing what your body can endure, at some point that becomes self-harm. What is worse is she did not even reap the rewards from her feat of endurance because OF royally screwed her over. So I see a young woman under half my age, who needs protecting from themselves and the unscrupulous, happy to prey on her or profit from her.

This is a public discussion forum where people post comments and other people either challenge or agree with those comments

I am not demanding to know your answer, but there are many derogatory comments made about her on this thread and I am interested in the reasons why you or anyone else posting find sex work so immoral ( or in particular one where the woman has controlled the narrative )

you don’t have to answer to me or anyone, only you know deep down why you feel the way you do.

I think this country still carries a lot of cultural and religious baggage where sex outside of marriage was immoral which is still influencing media and opinion today. It challenges power structures that regulate gender roles, threatening the traditional role of a woman. Consensual sex work makes some people uncomfortable as they only want to see sex work through the lens of ‘being a victim’ and the need to ‘save someone’

it also seems to be mostly women who have a problem with her, which is further stigmatisation of women and the not the many men who took part and the many more who wish they could

As for the men taking part - now that would have been more of an eye-opener/a discussion. If not wanting to put their face on camera, well, why not?
Shame has to switch sides.
Their motive, not monetary, taking part in this would have been enlightening.
Should there be guilt or shame? If yes, why? If no, why not?
Were they alone or with mates?
Were they wanting to make history/show off to their mates/have their own five minutes of fame?
Were they confident or did they have low self-esteem? Did they view her as out of their league?
Were they desperate, lonely, horny, looking to lose their virginity, curious, bored, seeing an opportunity, what? And did they really think they had her consent?
Now that - given the amount of porn, choking as a kink defence, gang rape or man and his friend rape, and those prosecuted for the rape of a comatose Giselle - might have been insightful. Were they involuntary celibate, were they high-fiving each other, were they there because it was free and usually they pay? Because if up to a thousand men thought it was fine to take what they thought was on offer with no strings attached, how many would think twice when presented with a drunk or intoxicated female?
I mentioned Marina A upthread because her performance art/social experiment - would strangers cut her, hurt her, touch her given the opportunity - showed that humans are sometimes shameless in their inhumanity.

Online porn has done so much damage to society it's a far cry from the mucky mags of yester year.
The stunts pulled are extreme and this young woman needs saved from herself.
We all have a sexual past but why would you want to go where hundreds have been before you 🤢🤮

I think consensual sex work being framed as body positivity/sex positivity is a fallacy. It is a means to an end and the oldest profession for a reason - you can have your tropes: Billie Piper call-girls, happy hookers with a heart of gold, high end companions looking for sugar daddies - but for many, it's not an easy buck nor a choice and they're seconds away from a bad punter experience, where the police won't be on side.

As long as your kids know you’re more than ok with them being consenting adults in a 1000 strong gangbang then that’s fine, it’s a free country.

For me, it’s not the sex work aspect - the 1000 men stunt was filmed a while back and I was aware of it but not overly bothered. I’d rather have the boring desk job than make millions that way, but that’s just my opinion.
Then following the documentary, I read about her making the comments I referred to upthread about a girl being on her period still having a throat. Plus comments others have referred to where she’s said, in conversation with Andrew Tate, about women being stupid and married women being tantamount to sex workers. These views on women, from a woman are troubling to me and I worry how they will influence and feed into the already rampant misogyny we find online.

Bonnie Blue may well find it empowering controlling the narrative and her own sexuality, but I can’t applaud her espousing hateful views towards other women while she does it. And that concern is not for my sake, it’s for my daughter’s and other girls who are growing up in a world where stuff like this is in the mainstream and not on the fringes.

Completely agree with you. I haven’t read every post here but the majority I read were just very derogatory about the sex part, her body, the smell, and the hope that her genitalia falls off. Disgusting comments from (I’m guessing) other women. Cheap shots

Because having sex as part of a loving and committed relationship, is something that is meaningful and it’s an amazing way to connect to your partner. Doing it with a thousand men for money makes a mockery of it. It’s not something I’d ever aspire to do. I would feel degraded and judged because everyone would know what I’d done. What’s considered private and intimate between two people is available for all and sundry to see and I’d hate it.

This!

What type of mother assists her own daughter to sell herself and profit from it? BB mother has ‘a nice’ lifestyle funded by her daughter.

It’s disturbing to think that youngsters will hear about this from the internet and might opt to have this lifestyle if it makes them multi millionaires. What the fuck has this world come to?

And to think about all those saddos, perverts downright fucking weirdos queuing to have their turn with her for five minutes. 🤮

Hi Andrew

I’ve only seen an article and photos, nothing graphic. She had to be ill, so does her mum.

Physically I don’t know how her body took that level of abuse. The men are even more gross for partaking.

She`s a born honkytonk and thats her choice.
So what if shes on her back most days shes not hurting anyone.
Seems to like what shes doing and made a bank full for herself.
Not something i would do but good luck to her.

I thought she'd be more interesting somehow. She came across and really cold and dull.