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Bonnie blue 1000 men and me

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tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:05

I watched last night (don’t ask me why) I wish I didn’t. Woke up feeling dirty. Pure greed is where her motivation comes from. ‘Bonnie’ aka Tia boasted throughout she is a multi millionaire, where she started making £50k/month and went up to £2m/month before OF shut her account down. Now she’s back to making £600k/month on her new site, selling her body. The men queing up for her 1000 men stunt were just arriving from the street, no one had vetted them and the ones who were on show looked far too old for her and frankly, disgusting in old tracksuit bottoms and huge beer bellies. I’m so concerned by the internet. The young women on the show were ‘Only Fans creators’ and were 18-21, seemed nervous, shy and about to film a porn scene with Bonnie, completely for free but by Bonnie tagging them they would be earning money through new subscribers. These young girls, like Bonnie were stating it’s better than sitting behind a desk.

AIBU to wake up feeling anxious, disgusted, concerned with the damage and short cut to money Only Fans is creating for young women.

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Smallchangebigstep · 31/07/2025 09:26

I was annoyed to actually get an email from Channel 4 promoting this programme. I deleted it without reading it.
And I'm even more irritated by yet another MN thread about this prostitute.
How on earth did you expect to feel after watching it?
Why keep giving her the publicity she thrives on?

Why give her head space?

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tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:27

Fair questions. I am fascinated by human psychology and I was trying to understand what has led her to this. I found my answer. Greed and fame. I suppose it’s a modern day Katie Price, none of us could imagine inflating our chests to the size she did but didn’t stop the curiously of being fascinated as to why she would want to do that to herself.

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Onelifeonly · 31/07/2025 09:32

Most likely there have always been young women who will do anything for fame and fortune. Katie Price is a good example. The Internet had just provided more extreme ways to do this. I doubt most young women are keen to follow in Bonnie's footsteps.

PS I didn't watch the programme.

LoopyLoo1991 · 31/07/2025 09:33

I saw it and it was a bit of a shocker. Porn stars do outrageous and notorious things for fame, attention and money. This has been going on for decades. Now OF and amateur porn is almost mainstream, so Bonnie has to push it to stand out. It's probably very sad on many levels but I'd never condemn her outright for it.
I did some bloody stupid things in my late teens and early 20s, so I'd be hypocritical to say she's a bad person. Some of the stuff she's done is distasteful and I won't say they aren't.

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 31/07/2025 09:35

tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:27

Fair questions. I am fascinated by human psychology and I was trying to understand what has led her to this. I found my answer. Greed and fame. I suppose it’s a modern day Katie Price, none of us could imagine inflating our chests to the size she did but didn’t stop the curiously of being fascinated as to why she would want to do that to herself.

Are you really saying you hadn't worked out why she was doing it before you watched the programme.

I don't even know what she looks like but it seems plain obvious what her motives are

FenderStrat · 31/07/2025 09:40

Smallchangebigstep · 31/07/2025 09:26

I was annoyed to actually get an email from Channel 4 promoting this programme. I deleted it without reading it.
And I'm even more irritated by yet another MN thread about this prostitute.
How on earth did you expect to feel after watching it?
Why keep giving her the publicity she thrives on?

Why give her head space?

And I'm even more irritated by yet another MN thread about this prostitute

Yet you clicked on it and commented, thus helping to promote the very thing that irritates you.

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tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:40

I wouldn’t have assumed just money and greed, no. The extent she goes to my first guess would have been psychological trauma or low self worth.

Actually she is really quite arrogant and could have stopped at £50/month after her spring break stunt but her 1000 men in a day earned her £1million alone and went on to earn her £2million per month thereafter.

The greediness of wanting more and more fame and money is hard to understand. The way she kept saying she was a multi millionaire shows that she is swept up in her own ego and thinks she’s a star because she has a fair few on the payroll running around after her. Including her mum.

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Ponoka7 · 31/07/2025 09:48

There's always a level of an abusive background, mental health issues etc. Katie Price is a complex situation, fuelled by her wanting a family, but not being able to get it, for a variety of reasons. If you object to what they are doing, don't add to their audience. As for young women seeking fame and fortune, Henry viii wouldn't have had a further seven wives and lots of mistresses, if it hasn't always been that way.

goldtrap · 31/07/2025 09:49

I think money, fame, a misplaced sense of 'empowerment' but....also trauma. And being (or not being) accountable. I mean to her family.

The only bit I was interested in, (so may be out of context because I didn't/couldn't watch it all) was when she said she hosted her family for NYE and they all had to be quiet while she filmed her content in another room and they were all joking and saying have you finished yet, and also her mum seemed OK with it.

No one is intervening for her.

No one seems to be saying to her, This isn't OK. Are you OK? This is upsetting. These are not good choices.

Everyone around her seems to be vaildating her and giving her the green light.

It's only busy-bodies/trolls/haters on SM who are big meanies and giving her, like, smh.

I think we should condemn her outright for it tbh, and all the men (some so young! Our next generation!) who participate.

Ponoka7 · 31/07/2025 09:50

"The greediness of wanting more and more fame and money is hard to understand."

Have we figured out why Liam Payne didn't take a break and get his issues sorted? Or any of the millionaires, who have ended their life?

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tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:54

goldtrap · 31/07/2025 09:49

I think money, fame, a misplaced sense of 'empowerment' but....also trauma. And being (or not being) accountable. I mean to her family.

The only bit I was interested in, (so may be out of context because I didn't/couldn't watch it all) was when she said she hosted her family for NYE and they all had to be quiet while she filmed her content in another room and they were all joking and saying have you finished yet, and also her mum seemed OK with it.

No one is intervening for her.

No one seems to be saying to her, This isn't OK. Are you OK? This is upsetting. These are not good choices.

Everyone around her seems to be vaildating her and giving her the green light.

It's only busy-bodies/trolls/haters on SM who are big meanies and giving her, like, smh.

I think we should condemn her outright for it tbh, and all the men (some so young! Our next generation!) who participate.

Yes I agree. My other hypothesis was she is spoilt. Her mum spoke about how talented she was in her childhood as a dancer, it seems from the pictures she entered competitions in full leotard dress and her family poured time and money into her hobbie. It seems Tia can do no wrong and bosses her family around, pays the bills and is not challenged but quite the opposite, supported.

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tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:56

Ponoka7 · 31/07/2025 09:50

"The greediness of wanting more and more fame and money is hard to understand."

Have we figured out why Liam Payne didn't take a break and get his issues sorted? Or any of the millionaires, who have ended their life?

I’m not sure this is a good comparison. Liam auditioned to be in a boy band and became a global superstar. The pressures and money, with no real routine led to drug addiction and ultimately his death. When the boys ran out of steam, they stopped. This woman has more and more stunts lined up, she will make more than them. It’s worrying. My overarching point was aimed at OF and the comments of ‘it’s better than being at a desk’ for easy money……

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Clementina49er · 31/07/2025 10:04

I am old and out of date, but what would worry me most about this is that all these men think it's a great thing to participate in. I really despair about the number of men who think with their penises.

goldtrap · 31/07/2025 10:13

My DD (20) asks my advice all the time. She's like one of those girl-on-phone-to-mom reels on SM: hashtag 'dialamom' or 'momismytherapist'

I can't imagine - can't imagine! - giving her any advice which would be detrimental to her well-being. Oftentimes I keep it neutral - what do you think? How do you feel about that? We figure it out together.

If by some mad chance she was considering something as high-profile and risky as BB, I would not be neutral. I would be doing everything I could to help her find a better path. And that is her accountability. That's her safety-net.

I can't see BB's safety net. She is pretty much free-falling, however much she might think she is in control.

Pedallleur · 31/07/2025 10:20

Clementina49er · 31/07/2025 10:04

I am old and out of date, but what would worry me most about this is that all these men think it's a great thing to participate in. I really despair about the number of men who think with their penises.

she knows her audience! just reinforces what Kathy Burke said about a ham sandwich. if was a family member - wife/sister/daughter I wonder if these men would be so keen about it

LlynTegid · 31/07/2025 10:23

I think you are right OP to be concerned about the influence of porn and the monetisation of it. It is not new of course, page 3 whilst different goes back 50 or more years.

What I hope is that one small impact of the new law is that it will reduce the watching of it. Every bit reduced is worthwhile.

CornOfCorpia · 31/07/2025 10:27

She is fecking disgusting specimen of a "human"

Rallentanda · 31/07/2025 10:30

Back in the late 90s or early 2000s there was someone who did a similar stunt: I can't remember her name. There's nothing original in it.

A female friend and I had a long discussion about it. She genuinely thought it was empowering, that the point of it was to show that a woman can use her body exactly as she pleases. I thought, yeah, fine, but none of the guys queuing up gives a shiny shit about her empowerment, and that's where the disgust lies for me. She just gave them a hole, and let them walk off having used her and learned nothing. They didn't care if it was art or not. (Not.)

I remember the argument got quite heated because I knew her husband treated her like a sex toy (from what she had told me against my will I might add) and I wanted her to understand that this kind of sex for show is nothing to aim for.

She just thought I was a prude. I found it very difficult to explain that I wasn't some fifties housewife telling her daughter not to give away her brightest light to the first guy who comes along. I felt it was so self-abusive as to be horrific, and I also didn't love that these men were exploited into doing it, not that they would have cared, most probably.

garlictwist · 31/07/2025 10:31

I also watched this. It was awful. However (and very surprisingly) I found myself sort of agreeing with her when she said that she didn't think she was putting feminism back but rather was taking control of her sexuality. Whilst she has clearly taken this too far, I do believe she is control and more fool the sad men who fall for it. She has become very rich.

The section with the young "creators" (hate that word) was so desperately uncomfortable viewing. It's one thing for her to decide that's how she wants to make money but that really felt like exploitation.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 31/07/2025 10:32

I watched it too OP and also felt really grubby afterwards. I'd heard about her but not seen her before and didn't realise she was so young. The whole barely legal thing was absolutely grim, if a man was rocking up to a uni and wanting all the barely legal girls there would be uproar. There might have been, as I said she's only just appeared on my radar.

I wonder who she had sex with at 13, you don't behave like she does without serious trauma.

ShiftingSand · 31/07/2025 10:37

Clementina49er · 31/07/2025 10:04

I am old and out of date, but what would worry me most about this is that all these men think it's a great thing to participate in. I really despair about the number of men who think with their penises.

This. I’m older too and I keep returning to why all these men think it’s a great idea to take part in her sex marathons (apart from the obvious). Lots of questions like do they tell their partners/future partners that they’ve had a minute of sex with this woman? Are they clean, disease free? Actually, I don’t want to know. We only seem to be focusing on the woman’s motives. I only watched five minutes of it and knew it would be difficult to watch any more but I couldn’t understand why her mother was supporting her, together with other family. It’s wrong on many levels. I hope she invests her cash wisely because she won’t be able to do it long term as she ages and loses her looks.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 31/07/2025 10:38

All those condoms on the floor 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮

Summerhillsquare · 31/07/2025 10:40

I'm starting to think this wretched woman is on Mumsnet there are that many threads about her. All publicity is good as far as she/her pimps are concerned.

ChicGreyZebra · 31/07/2025 10:40

Same here - watched it last night and wished I hadn’t. It was interesting but made me feel grubby.

ShiftingSand · 31/07/2025 10:40

Rallentanda · 31/07/2025 10:30

Back in the late 90s or early 2000s there was someone who did a similar stunt: I can't remember her name. There's nothing original in it.

A female friend and I had a long discussion about it. She genuinely thought it was empowering, that the point of it was to show that a woman can use her body exactly as she pleases. I thought, yeah, fine, but none of the guys queuing up gives a shiny shit about her empowerment, and that's where the disgust lies for me. She just gave them a hole, and let them walk off having used her and learned nothing. They didn't care if it was art or not. (Not.)

I remember the argument got quite heated because I knew her husband treated her like a sex toy (from what she had told me against my will I might add) and I wanted her to understand that this kind of sex for show is nothing to aim for.

She just thought I was a prude. I found it very difficult to explain that I wasn't some fifties housewife telling her daughter not to give away her brightest light to the first guy who comes along. I felt it was so self-abusive as to be horrific, and I also didn't love that these men were exploited into doing it, not that they would have cared, most probably.

I vaguely remember this. Think it was 200 men and it was shown as part of a series about the porn industry. Revolting then but worse now as it’s more accessible.