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Bonnie blue 1000 men and me

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tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:05

I watched last night (don’t ask me why) I wish I didn’t. Woke up feeling dirty. Pure greed is where her motivation comes from. ‘Bonnie’ aka Tia boasted throughout she is a multi millionaire, where she started making £50k/month and went up to £2m/month before OF shut her account down. Now she’s back to making £600k/month on her new site, selling her body. The men queing up for her 1000 men stunt were just arriving from the street, no one had vetted them and the ones who were on show looked far too old for her and frankly, disgusting in old tracksuit bottoms and huge beer bellies. I’m so concerned by the internet. The young women on the show were ‘Only Fans creators’ and were 18-21, seemed nervous, shy and about to film a porn scene with Bonnie, completely for free but by Bonnie tagging them they would be earning money through new subscribers. These young girls, like Bonnie were stating it’s better than sitting behind a desk.

AIBU to wake up feeling anxious, disgusted, concerned with the damage and short cut to money Only Fans is creating for young women.

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ObelixtheGaul · 08/08/2025 19:22

tangerinemagic · 31/07/2025 09:40

I wouldn’t have assumed just money and greed, no. The extent she goes to my first guess would have been psychological trauma or low self worth.

Actually she is really quite arrogant and could have stopped at £50/month after her spring break stunt but her 1000 men in a day earned her £1million alone and went on to earn her £2million per month thereafter.

The greediness of wanting more and more fame and money is hard to understand. The way she kept saying she was a multi millionaire shows that she is swept up in her own ego and thinks she’s a star because she has a fair few on the payroll running around after her. Including her mum.

But that's what people who value money above all else do, isn't it? It's the sort of single-minded approach we see in some high - powered business types.

Both money and fame can become addictions for some with certain personalities. If you crave it, but perhaps lack the talent or intellect to get it in other ways, you might find a more distasteful route. Like the druggie robbing for a fix.

She wanted something. She found a way to get it. It's an awful way, but it may have been her only way. She wanted it so badly, she isn't counting the cost to herself. And the truth is, this is actually something we see all the time.

What we don't usually see is what happens when your desire outstrips your ability and opportunity. People have the ability and opportunity to make big money and achieve fame still don't count the cost to their personal lives and health, often. It's just that what the Hollywood star does isn't quite as blatantly damaging or repulsive. It can be just as destructive, though, in different ways.

It's not always about trauma, though it can be. Some people just crave notoriety. Again, not always true, but sometimes a background of poverty can result in an unnatural obsession with acquiring immense wealth.

Now imagine wanting these things so bad it hurts but not being Elon Musk level clever or talented enough to make it as a Hollywood starlet. An idea forms. "If I do this, I get that. Ok, not how I'd imagined it, but it's better than being a nobody in an office."

I don't get it because that isn't how I think. But I can imagine how somebody might think like that, because plenty of people with fame and fortune do think like that. They've just been able to get there in a better way. Who knows what they might have done if they couldn't.

Ihateboris · 08/08/2025 19:27

Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 18:11

on that one i disagree, rightly or wrongly looks do play a part.

Nah, it's the extremity of the porn that BB does that makes her money, nothing at all to do with looks. There are literally hundreds of good looking generic mainstream porn stars but they'll make no where near as much money in such a short amount of time as BB, simply because they are not prepared to do what BB is doing.

CbeeGeeBee · 08/08/2025 21:02

She’s going to regret all this so bad when she’s 40. As someone said earlier, where are the people saying “Are you ok…”. Watched it with my DH and he was more disgusted than I was (and neither of us are prudes).

Brendahollowayreconsider · 08/08/2025 21:40

If she lives to 40

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 08/08/2025 23:42

Swirlythingy2025 · 08/08/2025 13:37

in terms of those thinking she wont get a partner, for those that know the actress riley reid has now settled and has a family

Sasha Grey I'm sure has retired from film and married .

But what is on the internet stays on the internet .

If Bonnie Blue ever married again and had children their lives would be abysmal .

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 00:12

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 08/08/2025 23:42

Sasha Grey I'm sure has retired from film and married .

But what is on the internet stays on the internet .

If Bonnie Blue ever married again and had children their lives would be abysmal .

people say that yet history says not true

navybeans · 09/08/2025 00:43

It's just degenerate, I don't really care about her, her viewers or her punters but the whole thing says nothing good about the men who use her, pay for her content, her or society in general. I see so much dehumanization in society these days, a disregard for any sense of human life being sacred for want of a better word. We're just products now, or units of productivity and when we're dead why even bother with a funeral just have a no fuss cremation. If you're disabled or sick why not just opt for assisted dying? If you feel unhappy in yourself why not inject lymph node blocking filler into your face, or botulism toxin or why not hack your bits off and and have new bits added! Are we all just avatars now and not even real people? Next will be upload your self to the mainframe and live forever except you won't because a set of data points isn't a human being. We are headed to a really dark place these days.

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 00:55

navybeans · 09/08/2025 00:43

It's just degenerate, I don't really care about her, her viewers or her punters but the whole thing says nothing good about the men who use her, pay for her content, her or society in general. I see so much dehumanization in society these days, a disregard for any sense of human life being sacred for want of a better word. We're just products now, or units of productivity and when we're dead why even bother with a funeral just have a no fuss cremation. If you're disabled or sick why not just opt for assisted dying? If you feel unhappy in yourself why not inject lymph node blocking filler into your face, or botulism toxin or why not hack your bits off and and have new bits added! Are we all just avatars now and not even real people? Next will be upload your self to the mainframe and live forever except you won't because a set of data points isn't a human being. We are headed to a really dark place these days.

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thats partly societys own fault for letting themselves be conditioned that way

Brendahollowayreconsider · 09/08/2025 00:56

The internet hasn't been good for society unfortunately the genie Is well and truly out of the bottle.

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 01:00

Brendahollowayreconsider · 09/08/2025 00:56

The internet hasn't been good for society unfortunately the genie Is well and truly out of the bottle.

see people blame the internet but personally society was just as much depraved before the internet, all the erotic litature books, eg nexus, black lace, then porn mags, then pay per view tv channels etc all various mediums for the sex trade etc not to mention the swinging 60's

Brendahollowayreconsider · 09/08/2025 01:06

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 01:00

see people blame the internet but personally society was just as much depraved before the internet, all the erotic litature books, eg nexus, black lace, then porn mags, then pay per view tv channels etc all various mediums for the sex trade etc not to mention the swinging 60's

That's as maybe but the depravity knows no bounds a couple of clicks and a credit card you could watch live streamed castration, monkeys being tortured, killed and viewers voting on methods to be used.
Disinformation on a grand scale.
Extreme organisations reaching a wider audience than what was previously possible.

Nagginthenag · 09/08/2025 10:35

'While i wouldn't necessarily choose the path that she has taken, I find it abhorent that people are judging her so harshly for having chosen a career that will have given her financial security for life solely because it is sex work.'

Well, there's sex work, and then there's' sex work'. I think most women engaged in sex work would have given it up as soon as they made their first mil. Women don't generally get involved in sex work for shits and giggles, it's usually due to desperation and/or addiction issues, and most would give it up in a heartbeat if they had another income source.

What this odious woman is doing is harming our daughters, by giving men a view of sex completely at odds with what a normal loving relationship looks like (and yes, the men are odious too), and encouraging young women to follow her path - make lots of money; what downsides could there possibly be?

AutumnLover1989 · 09/08/2025 10:38

Nagginthenag · 09/08/2025 10:35

'While i wouldn't necessarily choose the path that she has taken, I find it abhorent that people are judging her so harshly for having chosen a career that will have given her financial security for life solely because it is sex work.'

Well, there's sex work, and then there's' sex work'. I think most women engaged in sex work would have given it up as soon as they made their first mil. Women don't generally get involved in sex work for shits and giggles, it's usually due to desperation and/or addiction issues, and most would give it up in a heartbeat if they had another income source.

What this odious woman is doing is harming our daughters, by giving men a view of sex completely at odds with what a normal loving relationship looks like (and yes, the men are odious too), and encouraging young women to follow her path - make lots of money; what downsides could there possibly be?

Your post is very confusing 😲

Ihateboris · 09/08/2025 10:46

Nagginthenag · 09/08/2025 10:35

'While i wouldn't necessarily choose the path that she has taken, I find it abhorent that people are judging her so harshly for having chosen a career that will have given her financial security for life solely because it is sex work.'

Well, there's sex work, and then there's' sex work'. I think most women engaged in sex work would have given it up as soon as they made their first mil. Women don't generally get involved in sex work for shits and giggles, it's usually due to desperation and/or addiction issues, and most would give it up in a heartbeat if they had another income source.

What this odious woman is doing is harming our daughters, by giving men a view of sex completely at odds with what a normal loving relationship looks like (and yes, the men are odious too), and encouraging young women to follow her path - make lots of money; what downsides could there possibly be?

What a brilliant post. Agree with every word, especially the point about influencing young girls.

navybeans · 09/08/2025 16:47

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 00:55

thats partly societys own fault for letting themselves be conditioned that way

Thats kind of my point.

Nagginthenag · 09/08/2025 18:08

AutumnLover, the first para is quoting Leaderbee at 13.24 yesterday! I don't agree with it 😁

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 18:22

Im conflicted.

In one way i think women should be able to do whatever they want.

In another way i think she is contibuting to a sexual problem - men being able to treat a woman like that, makes men treat women worse in general

And we already have a huge rape problem

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 19:13

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 18:22

Im conflicted.

In one way i think women should be able to do whatever they want.

In another way i think she is contibuting to a sexual problem - men being able to treat a woman like that, makes men treat women worse in general

And we already have a huge rape problem

thats the issue in society, if you do give people freedom to do what bonnie blue does, it then also influences others to do similar, then other people will then presume that is normal behaviours (rightly or wrongly) which then normalises those activities in society etc.

but if society is to be a more for lack of better words prudish type society then we need all forms of media to be limiting any types of deviant sexual behaviours that would not be acceptable in a moralistic society. because tv does influence behaviours not all behaviours but it still has influences otherwise why do companies spend so much on marketing or adverts etc

Ukkake · 09/08/2025 19:22

Ihateboris · 08/08/2025 17:56

Absolutely anyone can make good money in extreme porn. BB's success is nothing at all to do with looks, but everything to do with what she's prepared to do.

I partly disagree. An older fat woman would still get views but nowhere near as much as BB does.

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 19:27

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 19:13

thats the issue in society, if you do give people freedom to do what bonnie blue does, it then also influences others to do similar, then other people will then presume that is normal behaviours (rightly or wrongly) which then normalises those activities in society etc.

but if society is to be a more for lack of better words prudish type society then we need all forms of media to be limiting any types of deviant sexual behaviours that would not be acceptable in a moralistic society. because tv does influence behaviours not all behaviours but it still has influences otherwise why do companies spend so much on marketing or adverts etc

All of society has contibuted to the creation of bonnie blue.

Porn is not illegal. Violent porn is not illegal.

What bonnie blue is not illegal.

We have accepted these things as not being illegal.

So much needs to be done about porn. Stricter controls. It needs to be illegal to show violent acts in porn.

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 19:33

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 19:27

All of society has contibuted to the creation of bonnie blue.

Porn is not illegal. Violent porn is not illegal.

What bonnie blue is not illegal.

We have accepted these things as not being illegal.

So much needs to be done about porn. Stricter controls. It needs to be illegal to show violent acts in porn.

then why do so many people clutch pearls when people like bonnie do what they have done etc ?

but if we want to change that its not just porn its all forms of media that showcase any deviant behaviours around sex , eg orgys in sparticus, or game of thrones etc because then those still influence peoples perspectives, same with companies adverts etc if we want a better society then all tv shows , films etc all needs editing

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 19:36

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 19:33

then why do so many people clutch pearls when people like bonnie do what they have done etc ?

but if we want to change that its not just porn its all forms of media that showcase any deviant behaviours around sex , eg orgys in sparticus, or game of thrones etc because then those still influence peoples perspectives, same with companies adverts etc if we want a better society then all tv shows , films etc all needs editing

People clutch pearls about bonnie blue from their armchairs but they never fucking DO anything about the huge amount of violent porn out there.

Porn is obviously causing so much of the rape, abuse and murder of women in general

Ted bundy said that he started murdering women after watching violent porn.

Yet people accept it. There should be protests on a large scale

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 19:38

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 19:33

then why do so many people clutch pearls when people like bonnie do what they have done etc ?

but if we want to change that its not just porn its all forms of media that showcase any deviant behaviours around sex , eg orgys in sparticus, or game of thrones etc because then those still influence peoples perspectives, same with companies adverts etc if we want a better society then all tv shows , films etc all needs editing

Orgies are fine if they are consensual.

My issue with porn is the huge amount of violence in it.

I havent seen game of thrones in a long time but was there a rape scene in it?

Swirlythingy2025 · 09/08/2025 19:43

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 19:38

Orgies are fine if they are consensual.

My issue with porn is the huge amount of violence in it.

I havent seen game of thrones in a long time but was there a rape scene in it?

aparently there were a few omg scenes.

pamelanoon · 09/08/2025 19:50

Porn is awful

I remember the very first porn i was shown. I was at university and one of the male students showed me a photo on his phone of a woman from a porn site.

She was sitting on a kitchen counter and she had put a kitchen utensil up her vagina. That was what he was looking at and he showed it to me to shock me. I was shocked and he laughed. Horrible experience. It was obviously hurting her in the photo.

The violent porn out there is awful