Bonnie blue 1000 men and me

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I watched last night (don’t ask me why) I wish I didn’t. Woke up feeling dirty. Pure greed is where her motivation comes from. ‘Bonnie’ aka Tia boasted throughout she is a multi millionaire, where she started making £50k/month and went up to £2m/month before OF shut her account down. Now she’s back to making £600k/month on her new site, selling her body. The men queing up for her 1000 men stunt were just arriving from the street, no one had vetted them and the ones who were on show looked far too old for her and frankly, disgusting in old tracksuit bottoms and huge beer bellies. I’m so concerned by the internet. The young women on the show were ‘Only Fans creators’ and were 18-21, seemed nervous, shy and about to film a porn scene with Bonnie, completely for free but by Bonnie tagging them they would be earning money through new subscribers. These young girls, like Bonnie were stating it’s better than sitting behind a desk.

AIBU to wake up feeling anxious, disgusted, concerned with the damage and short cut to money Only Fans is creating for young women.

YANBU. It honestly makes me feel society has fallen apart and we just haven't noticed yet.

Totally agree. Also the monotone/emotionless voice. She reminds me of Katie Price who I also think is on the spectrum.

No, sorry, still don’t believe it. She really looks like she’s in her 30’s and just spends money on cosmetic stuff. Younger women have a freshness and youth about their facial features that even the most heinous of jobs doesn’t mask. If any job aged a woman it would be prostitution. So I expect she is a bit older than she claims and is doubly aged by her choice of income stream.

Maybe she does look older and obviously I can't give you documented proof but there are 100s if not 1000a of people who were at school with her, worked with her pre her BB persona and I understand public records of her activities as a child ( the dancing that's covered in the documentary) even her husband who knows she's the age she says she is

Actually saying, are marriage certificates available, that would prove it

Why are you so sure as someone who doesn't know her that she's lying when all the people who do know her even me at 3rd hand know how old she is?

It's such a weird notion

I’m not saying it is BB fault or other women who find themselves in this awful predicament a lot of whom are trafficked or have poor backgrounds and are trying to survive in this world.

I actually think BB and Lily P need psychiatric treatment because what they are doing is a form of self harm. There is no need for them to do what they are doing. They were not trafficked and they are not on the breadline so why do it? They would have had comfortable lives without doing all this.

What impact is this abuse / self harm having on their bodies? The impact on their physical health and their mental health will show up eventually. If either of them die by suicide as predicted upthread then I wonder how their families, or the men who pay for ‘services’ would feel. The men wouldn’t give a shit and would find someone else to pay for sex.

BB and Lily P will never lead normal lives. I don’t know if either of them are going to want marriage or kids in the future but who is going to want to marry them? Someone decent? I doubt it! If they have daughters, will they support them to continue the ‘family’ business by encouraging them to self harm by selling their bodies? If they have sons, will they support their sons to abuse women’s bodies and treat them like objects?

None of this would be happening if men didn’t pay for BB service. It’s on them. It’s not like she would be participating in any of this for free.

BB and Lily P are not the only ones doing this. They are just taking it to the extreme on a much larger scale. Sex workers and men who pay for it are everywhere. They just don’t advertise it in the same way as BB or Lily P.

I watched it for all of 5 mins yesterday and said the same to my DH, she doesn’t look 26, she definitely looks older.

It’s strange because objectively she doesn’t have lines or noticeable signs of aging, but she looks like someone early to mid 30’s who’s had fillers. Maybe she is 26 after all but has had these fillers and the like and that is what’s ageing her (ironic eh!) but I agree, she definitely doesn’t look 26!

Or they could just absolutely love attention and push themselves to the limits to get it! That’s not generally how ASD presents.

Some people are so focused on money that they would literally do anything.

I said the same,she looks a very well preserved 30-35+ woman not 25.

Her mum looks over 60 too so unless she had her at 45...either way,if they are telling the truth re her age,they both look like they've had hard paper rounds 😲😂

Yes hyper fixation is a trait of ASD.

"No, sorry, still don’t believe it. She really looks like she’s in her 30’s and just spends money on cosmetic stuff"

She was born in 1999. I checked on Ancestry.

Unless you are looking at primary source documents then you or I don’t know.

Ancestry isn’t reliable for dates, they say this themselves, esp when much relies upon self reporting:

• Self-Reported Information:
• Census records, marriage records, and even death certificates often relied on what individuals told the enumerator or registrar, which could be inaccurate.

• Intentional Misreporting:
• People sometimes intentionally misrepresented their age for various reasons, such as social appearances, financial gain, or to avoid social stigma.

I don’t know her age (nor care really), she just looks way older than mid twenties. Perhaps she is whatever she says she is - she just looks older.

There is so much to talk about and dislike about this situation and BB, but yet people still feel the need to go after how somebody looks and their age.

Not just you, it’s most women. Thankfully the BB’s of this world are not the majority.

I think it’s a good thing that people are shocked and disgusted by her, we shouldn’t normalise this, despite some posters thinking we should be fine with it.

Well when she comes out with the stuff she does re the wives and partners of these grim "men",I think it's fair game. Don't you?

re: age

That prostitution has hit this high-end publicly accepted situation where TV channels show it to regular audiences I find hideously worrying having daughters myself. Her sell is built around her looks. Her appearance is what sells. Therefore the age someone looks is hardly outrageous to talk about. Esp when her themes are around having sex with teen boys. Vaguely disturbing too. Maybe she is 25. Or 26. That’s kind of sad too in its own way.

"Unless you are looking at primary source documents then you or I don’t know."

You can search BMD registers by quarter on Ancestry. Won't give you a dob but which quarter of which year. She's got a relatively unusual name so pretty easy to verify her rough age, if you wanted to.

We all need money to survive and we would all want more of it if possible, but people have boundaries as to what they would/wouldn’t.

Hyper fixation generally referred to special interests/hobbies in the ASD community and something that is almost innate. It brings them calmness and makes them more settled, but this isn’t a special interest, it’s greed. She wants as much money as possible and she’ll stoop below the belt to get the lifestyle she wants.

I don’t mean to sound argumentative, I do know what you mean in general terms and others have also suggested she has ASD, but I just think that almost takes away any personal responsibility from her as a person and gives her an excuse for the disgusting behaviour.

I'm sure there will still be deluded posters who will come on absolutely certain that she's 35 plus. Some people won't let facts stand in the way of a conspiracy theory or believe in how clever they are

There is quite a few of us that think she looks older than 26 though and given the circumstances and what she’s prepared to do, so it would hardly be surprising to find out she’d been telling a few porky pies about being younger!

You can’t blame folk for questioning it

Yeah I’ve never looked up her age in any official documents. But to state an observation that she looks older is hardly being delusional or conspiracy minded. It’s just an observation. I’m happy to be wrong. It doesn’t matter either way what I think her age looks to be. She is still a prostitute selling her wares with Channel 4 happy to promote her. That in its self is sad and an indictment of our strange times.

I honestly don't think her looks have anything to do with it. Anyone of us on here could become as infamous and rich as her, if we were prepared to shag loads of dirty old men. She is nothing special to look at.

I believe she’s right when she says she’s a product of our society. We have a serious porn epidemic that we aren’t addressing, where we are telling women that their worth is in the extreme acts can provide for males. Strangulation is considered normal, for example, with young women’s magazines publishing lessons in how to do it ‘safely’ (there is no safely, that’s part of why people are drawn to it).

At the same time, we have social media screaming at women and men that the only worthwhile thing about a female is her looks. Put the two together and you have a recipe for disaster with young girls whose brains are not yet fully formed, clearly thinking their self worth is in what they can provide for males.

On the opposite side, we have created a society where males are actively discouraged from having emotions or being honest, decent humans. They are taught they must want to use and abuse women or they are not real men. This is where incels have been created from.

As you can see in many threads on this forum, extremely violent porn (and porn generally) has become normalised. Every single person who watches porn has helped create people like Bonnie Blue - someone who clearly sees exactly what society is saying is worthwhile, and panders to that. She’s able to say how little worth women have because that’s exactly what society has decided. Third wave feminism is ridiculous - suggesting ‘sex work’ is empowering, that being a series of holes and little else is ‘empowering.’

Do I think BB is unwell or autistic? No. I think she is a sociopath, and has found a clear gap in the market. Why is everyone so fascinated by her? Because she is the embodiment of all of the things that we don’t talk about outloud but have been led to believe is okay. How can someone possibly take the moral high ground about her when they are turning away from their husbands/wives and watching porn promoting the exact things she does.

BB says she is teaching barely legal guys what women want. In one sense (not the literal sense), she is right. Society tells young women they want to please their porn-addled boyfriends, regardless of what they want. Women and men are so utterly removed from connection, intimacy, and the importance of genuine relationships now.

BB is the result.

Her whole world is about how she looks, she is promoting something to be better than sitting behind a desk but only if you look the way she does presumably. Given that is the (tragic) case, you aren't really going to stop people commenting on her looks.

The worst thing is she says the more women get annoyed or dislike her, the more her name gets brought up in homes, the more husbands and sons will search for her online. She’s happy and aims to piss women off and says so on her docu because we’re not ‘her target audience’. So I guess I’m leaving the convo at this point if this type of thread genuinely pushes her up.