Wedding situation

[Cheesehound]

Possibly outing but AIBU?

I’m going to a wedding soon and I’m part of the bridal party. The idea was for me to stay in the same hotel as the bride and groom as we’re not local. The hotel room was to be paid for by me - but it is expensive. We’ve booked to stay at another, cheaper hotel instead, with the plan being I would get to them first thing on the day.

I let them know this and it has really upset them. I have been told to cancel my booking and pay for the room at their hotel otherwise they will lose the deposit and also because they intended on using my room as a place for storage and other guests/children to be in. They have offered to pay the difference so they can still use it.

I had no idea of their intentions for the room. It had been ‘book the room, it’ll be nice for you and DH’. No mention of it needing to be used for anything else. I can afford the room at a push but that will need to go on a credit card and I don’t really want to do that.

AIBU? I just feel a bit, I don’t know, used? Give my head a wobble people, please.

Just tell them that you can't cancel the other room

They are being really cheeky expecting you to book a room for them to use for storage & other guests. Rude as fuck in fact.

How rude. That room should be incorporated into the wedding costs. Please do not go into debt for your friend's champagne tastes and beer money choices.

Just tell them you still can’t afford the room and you have booked one you can afford I would also point out you wouldn’t have been prepared to share a room you have paid for with anyone either. Suggest that perhaps one’s of the parents pay for it and allow people to use it as the bride wishes

No way would I change rooms

Why can’t they book a hotel room for storage or use their room?

Because they're relying on her to pay for it.
They're cheap.

That’s really cheeky of them to assume they could use your room for other guests.

What deposit are they losing? Did they have an obligation to book a certain number of rooms at the hotel?

How long is it until the wedding ? Had you previously said you were going to book it ? Is it possible to find someone else to take the room?

Sounds like it

They've obviously got a reduced rate for taking rooms. Your not complying means they don't meet the number of rooms to comply.
Stick to your guns, it's your money you're spending. If they need another room, let them pay for it.

It's tricky because you're not unreasonable but if they've got the brass neck to do ask this then they're likely the sort of people who will take offence when you don't.

If they've offered to pay the difference I would do it to keep the peace but wouldn't want anyone else using it!

Cheeky fuckers! If they want a room for storage (of what?!) and for Auntie Jean to have a quiet sit down in and cousin Laura’s kid to have a nap in then they need to pay for one.

They're being well out if order, expecting you to stay in their hotel, effectively subsidising their stay, and then planning to use your room throughout the day.
I can just imagine you going up at the end of hhe night to find your room trashed by small kids who've spilt drinks & food, messed up the bed & bathroom, been through all your belongings and, if you're very unlucky, thrown up and then you'll be charged an extra housekeeping fee when you leave the next day.

I'd say sorry it's all booked & non refundable, we're fine with being at a different hotel.

^^

If they want other people to store stuff in your room and for them to make use of it in the day, I'd want them to pay for the whole room not just the difference!

They're unbelievably cheeky. I wouldn't want my (expensive) hotel room being used for storage and as a crèche.

Tell them no thanks.

Cheeky buggers. Why can't they use their room for storage/guests?

Sorry- they want to use a room that YOU are sleeping in for other guests/children to be in? When do they plan on allowing you to go to bed?
More neck than a brass band!!!

Yes, this. They could at least have been open about it from the start and explained that it was to be a storage/shared room.
That doesn't change the fact though that you shouldn't have to do this, much less pay to do this.

I think it’s because kids and whatever they need storing will get in the way of their photos or something. Genuinely I am baffled by this whole thing. When I got married the hotel was paid for and I would never have expected someone to pay £££ for their own room and then have other people use the room up until we leave for the ceremony.

Exactly my point

I believe it’s just for the morning before going to the ceremony, but when I got married I booked a room with my bridal party getting ready in it in mind. I never even saw inside the rooms I’d booked for my bridesmaids, they just came to my room to get ready.