Wedding situation

[Cheesehound]

Possibly outing but AIBU?

I’m going to a wedding soon and I’m part of the bridal party. The idea was for me to stay in the same hotel as the bride and groom as we’re not local. The hotel room was to be paid for by me - but it is expensive. We’ve booked to stay at another, cheaper hotel instead, with the plan being I would get to them first thing on the day.

I let them know this and it has really upset them. I have been told to cancel my booking and pay for the room at their hotel otherwise they will lose the deposit and also because they intended on using my room as a place for storage and other guests/children to be in. They have offered to pay the difference so they can still use it.

I had no idea of their intentions for the room. It had been ‘book the room, it’ll be nice for you and DH’. No mention of it needing to be used for anything else. I can afford the room at a push but that will need to go on a credit card and I don’t really want to do that.

AIBU? I just feel a bit, I don’t know, used? Give my head a wobble people, please.

I’d ring and cancel the room if it’s in your name. And then message her and tell her it’s sorted.

All this room stuff aside, how did you end up being part of this woman’s bridal party? You don’t seem particularly fond of her at all!

You’re joking!?! What are they after then!?

I’m not going into our history but obviously I don’t seem fond of her right now because of the situation!

The hotel may have given them special room rates based on a block booking, so the deposit terms would be different.

Still not the OP's problem though.

No, it’s the Bride’s problem, which explains why she might be upset!

Its worth asking the hotel if that is the case. Because I think the Bride is trying it on so that she does'nt lose use of your room and strong arm you into taking it, because in her head its become a set arrangement and she doesn't want to have to find an alternative that might cost her.

In all the weddings we've been to which involved a hotel, you have to be really quick to get a room and there are always people who have left it to the last minute who can't get a nearby room and miss out.

Last year my relative left it until a month before a wedding to book a room and ALL the rooms in a 10 mile radius (except for one extortionate one) were taken. They didn't have a car and ended up booking a campsite near the venue. Admittedly, that was summer in the Cotswolds and the hotel said it was "Wedding Season."

So I think if she's getting married in wedding season at what sounds like a reasonably nice hotel, they won't have much trouble filling the room.

And would 1 room dropping out of a block booking really justify the bride having to pay up a few hundred pounds, when she's already spending thousands on the reception and rooms? Surely if the hotel's policy is free cancellation up to Noon on the day, in general - the bride has a very good case that it should also apply to the one room out of her booking that's being dropped.? Added to which she could always ask the hotel if they have a spare room they could use just for a few hours for storage etc.

I really do think the Bride is just saying this. It's not just the storage. Its watching the kids too I think.

Why would you pay for their storage and children and guests?

Just be honest, you booked the hotel you could afford.

I agree, I didn’t mean it was, just that the bride may have agreed to a deposit.