Not to disclose the ingredients?

[Sparklingred]

My friend just got back from abroad and brought us some biscuits. They were super tasty and really buttery. DP ended up eating most of them.

When I wanted to bin the packet, I noticed they had lard in them. DP doesn’t eat pork for religious reasons. He’s not super religious otherwise, but that’s the one thing he sticks to.

Now I don’t know whether to tell him. I feel bad keeping it from him, but he’s already eaten them, and I’m worried he might get upset or blame my friend. She definitely didn’t mean any harm. She’s not the type to check ingredients, and honestly, we didn’t expect biscuits to have lard either.

YABU - tell him
YANBU - don’t tell him

This

He's obviously just playing around with the religious stuff. Any devout believer would check the ingredients in food they hadn't eaten before.

Yes, he can't be devout if he eats stuff without checking ingredients first.

Got to be the most bizarre response on the thread!

and they are ridiculously delicious!

This. It could have been beef lard.
Either way I’d not tell him.

@caramac04 ,there is no such thing as beef lard. Lard is pig fat.
Lard - Wikipedia

Also it's his dietary choice, so his role to check ingredients, not yours. If he's eaten pork lard, then it's on him, not you or your friend. Especially as he seems to have made an active choice NOT to read ingredients lists.

Edited. I thought Lard was usually beef, too, but apparently not. I was confusing lard and dripping.

Beef fat is called tallow . Lard is from pigs .

Absolutely don’t tell him. He’ll simply never ever know and nothing at all will happen.

Dripping isn't even the same as lard - dripping is what's left in the pan after you've roasted a joint - it's very tasty spread on toast!
Lard is rendered pork fat, tallow is rendered from sheep or cow fat.

Lots of people don't even know what lard is these days, I wouldn't bother to tell him just bin the wrapper.

As long as you aren’t actively feeding him something he has told you he can’t eat, it’s on him. It’s a choice he’s made, it’s not a life threatening allergy and he’s an adult who has complete autonomy. If he’s slap dash about his restrictions, that’s up to him.

my vegetarian brother ordered a ‘chick pea burger’ once. When it came I wasn’t at the table and by the time I came back he was half way through what was clearly a chicken burger. He asked could I try a bit and see what it was, but I declined and did not get involved. The drama is too much. He was completely unharmed and had a lovely evening, unlike the vomiting and upset that would have followed if he had realised it was chicken.
I tell myself that as I didn’t try it, it COULD have been a chick pea burger, but I am 99.9% sure it was chicken and the order was misheard.

@Sparklingred just tell him, for goodness sake! it isnt going to make any difference now, is it??

Also, I don’t think he’d say anything about my friend, but I worry he might think she did it on purpose or was insensitive to his dietary choices
Why all this worry and hand-wringing about this. If he thinks she did it on purpose he's an asshole.
If he's that bothered about not eating pork he should have checked the label and he could have said to friend, "Such a nice thought friend, unfortunately there's lard in the biscuits which contains pork and I don't eat that for religious reasons, but not to worry, OP can enjoy them all by herself"
He's obviously not bothered though, because he didn't check the label himself

Maybe it’s just me overthinking it. I think it’s more that I don’t want him to associate her with this event because I don’t know how affected he’d be if he knew he had ingested pork

You are overthinking this. It's bonkers. Again, he doesn't eat pork so it's up to him to read labels and check there are no pork products in the food. If you're cooking for him then obviously you'd avoid pork products too. But a random friend?

I don’t think he’d blame anyone, but I imagine he’d be quite disgusted, like I’d feel if I found out I’d inadvertently eaten dog

For the third time: there's no one to blame but himself. Friend brings biscuits. He doesn't eat pork. He checks the label. He sees there are pork products in the biscuits. He doesn't eat the biscuits. The end.

But he didn't check so I'd question how bothered he actually is about not eating pork.

It’s his own fault

he didn’t check the ingredients

But no I wouldnt tell him. What’s the point.

never going to prob see /eat the same biscuits again

Why tell him then?!

It's depressing that a lot of people think that lard comes from beef.

It’s probably because lard is generally little used in the home kitchen anymore.

If he doesn’t know then it’s not haram. Technically it’s his responsibility to check ingredients for pork. Don’t tell him. If he ever wants to buy them again check the back and act surprised.

Yes. You are probably right. I never use it. I CBA to make pastry as we rarely eat it so I buy ready made.

it will let him see how stupid he is being!! wont eat lard??

I wouldn’t tell him - what good would it do?

But I don’t think it’s a huge deal if you do - he should have checked the ingredients before eating - it wasn’t on you to check.

Bit sad for you that he ate most of them when they were a present from your friend!

Edit - I’m veggie but would just shrug over something eaten by accident

Some religions forbid it.