Not to disclose the ingredients?

[Sparklingred]

My friend just got back from abroad and brought us some biscuits. They were super tasty and really buttery. DP ended up eating most of them.

When I wanted to bin the packet, I noticed they had lard in them. DP doesn’t eat pork for religious reasons. He’s not super religious otherwise, but that’s the one thing he sticks to.

Now I don’t know whether to tell him. I feel bad keeping it from him, but he’s already eaten them, and I’m worried he might get upset or blame my friend. She definitely didn’t mean any harm. She’s not the type to check ingredients, and honestly, we didn’t expect biscuits to have lard either.

YABU - tell him
YANBU - don’t tell him

but I worry he might think she did it on purpose or was insensitive to his dietary choices.

You don't think much of him do you?

Chances are like him, she didn't read the ingredients.

Just to counteract my previous message. I did think why tell him.. but I think that @ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine has a good point.

I find it odd that you think he'd jump to the conclusion that your friend did it deliberately.

@Sparklingred were the biscuits from Thailand OP?

Ignorance is bliss

They were from Spain.

@raininginlanzarote , Lard is pig fat. It isn't from beef.
Gelatine can be from pork or beef.

Don't tell him. If you had told him he'd have no right to be annoyed at her. If he didn't look at the ingredients then why would she?

Is there anything religious he would need to do to clense himself/atone? If not then I'd definitely say nothing.

I agree.

Why are you treating him like a child OP.

Its really cringey to read about it, it must be way worse in person.

It’s a preference not an actual dietary requirement and he didn’t bother to check. There is no need to bring it up.

people who actually NEED to worry about these things are constantly checking labels and asking questions.

What he doesn't know can't hurt him.

As a 30 year+ vegetarian, take it from me - dont tell him. No good can come of that and it will only make him feel bad. There's no biscuits left so no chance to consume any more. Bury that information in your own head and move on.

Most animal fat in bakery products will be beef anyway.
in this case, i would definitely assume its beef and not tell him - nothing he can do now (and it likely was beef!)

If the cookies were from Spain they are likely to be pork lard - its very commonly used there in cookies etc

No point in telling him now. It'll just cause him to be annoyed at you and your friend.
Next time just check the ingredients yourself. I'd be inclined not to though, if he really is that bothered then he'd check them himself.

How could he possibly think she was insensitive for giving them to him when he didn’t care enough to read the packet before eating! If he’s not going to read packaging he absolutely cannot expect others to. If she’s aware of him not eating it, then I assume she had exactly the same thought process as him, which was to assume that biscuits would be fine and therefore no need to check.

Why bother upsetting him?

Tallow and suet are beef so something labelled lard has very high chance it’s pork

I wouldn’t even mention it, if he was that concerned he should have read the label.

And back in the real world where adults do sometimes get upset…

So he doesn’t bother read label
and you don’t know that lard isn’t always pork

Not exactly… committed to the cause! 😆

Why would he think that?

Is there some backstory?

Saying that, he could have read the packaging instead of assuming considering it is food from another country.

Plus, it being your friend, I would think the biscuits were bought for you not for both of you unless she said otherwise but again, reading is fundamental and he could have read the packaging himself.

Why are you and your friend responsible for maintaining his dietary choices?
Surely he is used to reading labels?

However, I would assume beef lard too. Maybe he did read the packet?

From a quick google search, lard is pork in Spain.