To think I never want another man?

[Bourneo]

Ok, so I'm on holiday, a little bit tipsy and had the briefest, most fleeting of thoughts... maybe it's time. Maybe I should dip my toe in the water and try online dating again.... before the blood in veins ran cold and I fully considered the horrors that would bring to my peaceful existence.

So go on, hit me with your pros and cons of dating again.

For context, this is purely light hearted. I have a 10 year old, no childcare, narcissist ex, excellent vibrator, my own house and a good career. Plus a cute dog for company. What could a man add to my life besides stress! ? 🤣

Agree wholeheartedly.

😭😭 ofc! I just meant a man taking you abroad is a lovely experience, just going along without having to make plans

Solo trips are amazing too though, no-one else to worry about

Yep the only thing I really miss is the weight of a kind man lying over me.

Yep the only thing I really miss is the weight of a kind man lying over me. That’s all.

I'm with you. Changed my online dating profile to women only and told my friends I'm only interested in a same sex relationship.

Stay exactly as you are!

I tried the online dating thing some years after my divorce. My last date was several years ago now. At first, it was novel and exciting. But my God, the thought of it now! I simply cannot be arsed.

I actually like my DH, even after 20+ yrs. He is a decent man, good in the sack, kind, considerate, works hard and I enjoy spending time with him, probably more than I do anyone else. If anything happened to him? I wouldn’t ever entertain a man again. We fit together extremely well but I’m financially independent, have a decent support network and am perfectly happy in my own company. I couldn’t be arsed to train another man.

Tbh at your age I would still be craving the personal touch, even if just physically.

Just enjoy what you want out of life but dont give up on experiences, there's a whole world out there to explore!

I don't mean just men, new opportunities, fun, whatever on your own, with friends, a new partner. Just go with the flow and never say never.

🤣🤣🤣 I've eaten now And come to my senses. Let's blame low blood sugar!

Yes, this is similar to my experience. How do some people have more luck?

Oh dear God! Lucky escape!

I’m another who would never be bothered to do it again if I mislaid my current man. We are a good couple but if I lost him I’d be ok for money, I have my kids and I am enough.

Says it all!

TBH I’d like some decent bedroom action (and maybe elsewhere) again before I’m in my dotage, but that’s about it.

YANBU, a lot of them bring nothing but stress. Many are tight and/or lazy now too so don't even give a decent financial contribution.

Absolutely no chance I'll ever do online dating again and at the moment I'm pretty sure I never want to date at all again although who knows what will happen in future but I won't be going looking for it and right now the thought of ever having another relationship just fills me with dread really, I've had quite a few relationships including 3 engagements, I've got 2 children (8 year old and a 10 month old) with different fathers. Every time I get into a relationship I think this time it will be different but it always ends up the same issues over and over, lazy men with bad hygiene, I always end up feeling more like their mother than partner, they always lie, don't stick to their word, etc.. I really can't be bothered with it anymore, feel like I've wasted so much of my life with terrible relationships

I can’t imagine letting a man in again , or having the effort to put into it.
but I’m living with dogs , a 13 year old and work tires me out , I’m happy at home too so I just don’t feel I have the energy for their dramas

Living alone is an ambition of mine! I adore my young adult children and will hopefully always be in their lives, but when they eventually leave home, I look forward to peace and quiet, and my own company. It would have to be a very unusual man indeed to convince me it was worth giving up the dream.

I would prefer to slice my ears off than date. Being in a healthy, happy, supportive, committed partnership is a wonderful thing. But dating? Dating is awful. I don’t know how people do it.

There are no positives to having to consider and entertain someone's son! Being single is the best.

I honestly think beyond a certain age if you meet someone else who is great and adds to life without a load of issues/drama then lovely - but I wouldn’t go out my way to find it and I wouldn’t bank on it either ,

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In my 50’s, single 5 years and can’t imagine ever letting a man into my peaceful life.

I have great friends, a brilliant social life. 3-4 holidays a year plus weekends away. And I get to have my own home with no one else to disturb me. I can’t imagine getting home from work and having to talk to someone or sharing my lovely king bed with a snoring farting bloke!

J did go on dates until a couple of years ago but in my personal experience men my age just wanted instant sex or ta nurse with a purse to cook clean and wipe their arse in their dotage. And it made no difference whether I met them OLD or out and about they all fitted into one of those categories so k just decided it wasn’t worth the hassle. I’ll have drinks and dinner with my mates rather than a random man. And as for sex although it would be nice to have some bloody good sex now and again , the thought of some half arsed bloke pawing me just isnt that appealing.

Sorry to tell you this, but from bitter experriance women are just as fucked up as men. Not in the same way, but they're not the answer either. (Says a lesbian now 20 years single.)