Sad about wedding

[Anonymous2029]

I’m getting married next week, a registry office. My partner lost his wife 6 years

We have to get married for various legal reasons. I adore my partner and I want to be his wife but I’m feeling so sad about the day (or rather the 10 minute ceremony)

i just feel so sad that his first wife isn’t here and she’s not getting to raise her child. We are having the simplest of vows, no rings. I don’t have a dress, not even a normal dress - I don’t really know what to wear, I was planning on jeans and tshirt.

Our parents are coming because we need witnesses but that’s all.

Ive not planned any music or anything. Everytime I think about the day I just feel overwhelmingly sad and want to just get it over with.

Will I regret it being so sad and simple? I just can’t shake the feeling and get excited

Beautiful dress, and well done for reframing the day 💕. https://www.johnlewis.com/monsoon-kids-floral-print-flutter-sleeve-dress-lilac/p113402652 This would be beautiful for the 8 year old and is on offer and available for Monday click and collect. When is the wedding?

It’s very sad his wife passed but this is YOUR life. FFS celebrate your wedding day, of course it doesn’t have to cost lots or be a big do, but, god please try to love the day and be happy!!!! You we we ‘have’ to get married, why? Are u not marrying the love of your life, for love? Is your husband to be always sad and mentioning his ex wife and not keen on having a lovely wedding day with you??

I see you’re marrying for the child, respect to you ❤️ but please enjoy it for you

That dress is fabulous. I agree that dresses in the lilac purple colour would be lovely or cream dresses with contrasting sashes.

I’m struck by the ‘legal reasons’ aspect of this. Your feelings for a young women who couldn’t be around for her children does you credit. But this day is about your future as a wife, not history.

What will you regret? The lack of ceremony or the lack of occasion?

I too wondered why you “……… have to get married for various legal reasons…. “ @Anonymous2029

So glad you are going to make it special for yourself. That dress is absolutely stunning.

How lucky he is to have found you, as is your step daughter.
Your union is going to be so blessed.

I hope the wedding day went perfectly for you.
Wishing you many happy years together. X