Child coming over the fence to play at 7.35 am

[Wantmorenachosbutcant]

This morning as I was just coming into the kitchen to make coffee and breakfast for Dd, I opened the kitchen door to the garden and Dd was already out there (have told her not to go in the garden unless one of us is up and there in the morning) with her friend climbing over our fence to play (low fence, then climbs onto our garden bench-not dangerous)
Behind our house is her friends grandparents house, the mum had dropped her off at her mums, so she could presumably go early to work and her mum then takes her to a kids club later on, on her way to work (they leave around 9am)
and this friend had come to play
Aibu to think this is far too early?!
I like to sit quietly in the garden with my coffee in summer and just wake up..basically! They were on the trampoline, then I was having to tell her not to climb on the top step of the slide and jump off etc.
They weren’t particularly noisy, but I was aware that some people would still be in bed and so on
As I was washing up, I heard her shouting to her grandma about something and her shouting back that she could just stay for a bit until they had to go to the kids club place.
All the toys were everywhere and by 9 I felt really stressed, plus we were going out and I was trying to get Dd to get ready. I said to her afterwards it’s fine at weekends or a day after kids club/school, but not this early in the mornings again.

Aibu and a grumpy sod spoiling the fun or would this be as annoying to you as it was to me?

You need to add spikes on the top!

😂😂

I would be very annoyed and worried that it would become a habit so I would bring her back home straight away saying that her grandma was probably looking for her.
And I would enthusiastically invite her for later time 🙂

If I were any of your other neighbours I’d be going spare at the noise at that hour.

i’d be popping in and making it very clear that it was NEVER to happen again. If you don’t it’s going to be your new normal

Yes, this is what I don’t want, I mean it’s summer holidays and sometimes i’m not even waking up until then (Dd watches tv downstairs normally)
I just find it odd of the mum/grandma to allow it at that time? I’d find it really strange thinking Dd could go to play there at 7.30

They weren’t making noise really tbf, but mostly because I was shushing them, just really don’t want to start my day doing that!

Yes, I’ve told Dd as have a feeling she encouraged it, which she would if her friend was asking to come and play. If it happens again i’ll have to tell the gran/mum, which i’m not massively keen on doing

Attach this to the fence. It should do the trick.

Oh god 🙈

Maybe contact the parent and say that whilst it's lovely that they can play together someone needs to contact you in advance to check before sending the child over.

Either that or send your daughter over at 6.30 am tomorrow. With a drum.

I mean obviously don't really do that.

I'm always baffled by these threads where people can't bring themselves to talk to/say no to children. How does it happen???

In my house it would be a simple "DD, get back inside you're not allowed in the garden til 9" (and also a real bollocking about going outside when no one is up!)
"Neighbour kid, don't climb over the fence again. And don't call for DD before 10".

The end. Set some boundaries!

Why did you just not send her back?

I would nip this in the bud now and would have taken the daughter straight back home with an 'we will have to arrange a play date at some point, but X arriving over the fence at 7am doesn't work for us'

If you think your daughter has encouraged it, I would tell her off and tell her not to do this and to tell her friend this can't happen again.

Have you posted about this GM fobbing her GC off on you before ?

Having a child climb over your fence at 7.35 am to play with your daughter is unacceptable. The Grandparents of the other child should have stopped their granddaughter. A neighbour of mine, who's house backed onto our garden used to let her son play in the garden from 7 am onwards. He'd shout, scream and be generally noisy, it was bloody awful. Not once did she have the consideration to tell her son off. Thankfully they've moved, so peace has been restored! If this happens again, go with the child back to her grandparents, tell them it's much too early and give them an acceptable time and day of the week. Oh and tell them, their granddaughter needs to knock on the front door, not climb over the fence. You aren't being unreasonable, you just needs to put boundaries in place.

Mad isn't it. Can you imagine sitting in your garden at 8am against your will, stressing about shushing the neighbours grandchild 😂

Jeez I would of sent her straight back, no one would think its ok to send their child into someone elses garden at 7.30am!

You don’t say how old they are but I’d start with a firm word with my own child about going outside before 9 and making it very clear to her that it’s not happening again. And then , yes, a conversation with the grandma - 7:30 is not an acceptable time in anyone’s book.

Kids playing on a trampoline before 9am is a no no

I did send her back, but she’d already arrived, was just there and I’d just woken up. I let them have a short play, sent her back and said not in the morning again

Exactly this

Maybe grandparent assumed you are up and about anyway . Some people are up at 6am . If your DD encouraged her and you didn't send her back gran might have thought you are OK with it .
Just find a polite way to tell the kid to bugger off home .

But why on earth did you reward such naughty behaviour by letting them play?
Your DD needed an immediate telling off and the other kid needed telling immediately to get off the fence and never climb over again.
Then go and have your coffee in peace!