Child coming over the fence to play at 7.35 am

[Wantmorenachosbutcant]

This morning as I was just coming into the kitchen to make coffee and breakfast for Dd, I opened the kitchen door to the garden and Dd was already out there (have told her not to go in the garden unless one of us is up and there in the morning) with her friend climbing over our fence to play (low fence, then climbs onto our garden bench-not dangerous)
Behind our house is her friends grandparents house, the mum had dropped her off at her mums, so she could presumably go early to work and her mum then takes her to a kids club later on, on her way to work (they leave around 9am)
and this friend had come to play
Aibu to think this is far too early?!
I like to sit quietly in the garden with my coffee in summer and just wake up..basically! They were on the trampoline, then I was having to tell her not to climb on the top step of the slide and jump off etc.
They weren’t particularly noisy, but I was aware that some people would still be in bed and so on
As I was washing up, I heard her shouting to her grandma about something and her shouting back that she could just stay for a bit until they had to go to the kids club place.
All the toys were everywhere and by 9 I felt really stressed, plus we were going out and I was trying to get Dd to get ready. I said to her afterwards it’s fine at weekends or a day after kids club/school, but not this early in the mornings again.

Aibu and a grumpy sod spoiling the fun or would this be as annoying to you as it was to me?

Never in a million years would I allow that to happen.

She would have been sent straight back over the fence!

Nobody should assume that. And even if the op was up ‘anyway’ at that God forsaken time, it doesn’t mean she would want randoms there! 🙄

Oh no, that child woukd be back over the fence as soon as i saw her.
No visitors without an invitation or before 10am.

Yep and then moaning about it afterwards to people who can’t do anything about it.

I think OP has posted about this grandma and grandchild a few times before.

Yes at that age you need to deal with it straight away and clearly.

DD you know you are not allowed to play in the garden at this time.

Neighbour child you have to go back to your GP as we’re not able to play this morning. Bye

You need to tell your daughter not to let people play without asking you first as well

True but from the neighbours' perspective, neighbour kid is already playing the the garden at 7.30, encouraging the grandchild to climb over and play, and the mother is allowing them to play.

You are not free childcare. You should have taken Next Door child home and delivered her to grandmother and taken your child back indoors. I know you say its safe to climb over but what if the child did hurt themselves in your garden?

Keep the back door locked?

It's hardly naughty is it? Especially if they haven't been told so.

Exactly. Adults scared to adult.

I'd be furious if one of my kids was going out in the garden (and inviting others over) at 7.30am when no adults were awake/aware and they had been told not to.
That's dangerous behaviour and very naughty.

You need some kind of child-safety lock on the garden door so your daughter can’t just go out early morning into the garden as she pleases when both of you are still in bed. What happens if she goes out early one morning and there’s a strange man or burgler there?
And wtf does the neighbour’s grandchild doing climbing into your garden? You need to talk to her grandparents and mum. WTF?

It's not so much about the noise IMO, it's more that the children are playing out unsupervised when there aren't many adults around. I know it's in your garden, but what if one of them got injured? How old are they? I would have different solutions depending whether they are under or over ten. When my young children went out of the house to see their friends who were knocking for them at 7 in the morning I had to hide the keys and tell their friends not to come round until after 10.

We had a similar problem in a previous house and the answer was a much higher, unclimbable fence. The neighbours were pissed off but I got my peace and quiet back.

How is DD getting key to back door? Can you lock it and put the key up higher?

As a neighbour, I'd not be best pleased at being woken by the thudding and spring screeching of a trampoline at pre-10.am!

From a parental side of things - kids unsupervised in a garden with a trampoline is a recipe for a kid with a broken limb or head injury - and two kids together does dramatically increase that risk!

This often seems to happen when left unchecked. Nip it now! Take her back .say we need to be out by 9.00 .also .GM is having a quiet 5 mins .not on

Yeah this. ^ I would never have let an uninvited child come in, and especially not at bloody half seven in the morning! The gran should be stopping this! You need to tell the gran or parents about this @Wantmorenachosbutcant and say you want it stopping!

Kitchen door is locked and keys put away, but a patio door can go into the garden, this has no lock, it locks by the putting the handle thing up and she can now pull it down to unlock

then get a safety extra lock for it.

There's definitely been the same scenario hasn't there?

Yeet her back over the fence!

I would be telling the child very clearly that it is not ok to climb over the fence and she must never do it again.

And read the riot act to your Dd.

They are KIDS. They do what you ask. You wouldn’t put up with adults climbing into to your garden and making a racket at 7.30!

I reckon it's the grandmother to blame here as she probably wants her morning coffee in peace.

It’s obviously naughty.

The Dd had been told not to open the door and go out before her parents are down,

And any child old enough to climb a garden fence should know you don’t just climb over people’s fences into their gardens uninvited.

They may well still do it (clearly did) so you just say very firmly “go back to your own house please and do not climb over the fence again. Dd, come back inside immediately and in future do as you are told”

I thought the same…but so do I 😂