Child coming over the fence to play at 7.35 am

[Wantmorenachosbutcant]

This morning as I was just coming into the kitchen to make coffee and breakfast for Dd, I opened the kitchen door to the garden and Dd was already out there (have told her not to go in the garden unless one of us is up and there in the morning) with her friend climbing over our fence to play (low fence, then climbs onto our garden bench-not dangerous)
Behind our house is her friends grandparents house, the mum had dropped her off at her mums, so she could presumably go early to work and her mum then takes her to a kids club later on, on her way to work (they leave around 9am)
and this friend had come to play
Aibu to think this is far too early?!
I like to sit quietly in the garden with my coffee in summer and just wake up..basically! They were on the trampoline, then I was having to tell her not to climb on the top step of the slide and jump off etc.
They weren’t particularly noisy, but I was aware that some people would still be in bed and so on
As I was washing up, I heard her shouting to her grandma about something and her shouting back that she could just stay for a bit until they had to go to the kids club place.
All the toys were everywhere and by 9 I felt really stressed, plus we were going out and I was trying to get Dd to get ready. I said to her afterwards it’s fine at weekends or a day after kids club/school, but not this early in the mornings again.

Aibu and a grumpy sod spoiling the fun or would this be as annoying to you as it was to me?

At 7 years old id be fine with it id be happy someone was keeping her amused so that I didn't have to i dont think 7.30 is that early most people are up at that time getting ready for work. I honestly dont see the problem

If it happens that early again take her back. Tell the grandparents sorry it’s too early, you were all asleep and she woke you.

Absolutely the first bit, but bear in mind if it does keep happening that you will need to go to the Gran’s house and say said child is not to do that again.

I would have concerns that the GM was so nonchalant about the childs whereabouts and safety for a start - not saying the OP was a threat but surely adults should be having conversations with other adults and not taking a child’s word for it being ok to go over the fence to play. If this random child is climbing a fence to play, where else is she wandering of to early in the morning when GM is supposed to be caring for her?

I was that kid when I was little!! I’d say sorry it’s too early come back at X time. Or not today we are going out.

Im sure the gm knows shes next door with her friend and if the fences are low will be able to see her. We have low fences and I can see my neighbours garden from my living room no issue

You let your child play on a trampoline at 7.30... your poor neighbours!

I don’t understand why you just let them play

Your DD should have been brought in and told off for going out without permission and the other little girl should have been sent straight back home.

So you would assume that it was ok for your child to go over your fence to play without checking with the neighbours???? Great parenting 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Its no different then when kids are out playing and knock on friends doors. We need to encourage children being outside playing with friends.

7.35 is to early to be trampolining let alone having a friend in the garden. You need 6 foot fences. :)

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For some reason last night message posted again when I was just trying to read the thread!

We used to have a child turn up at our front door at the crack of dawn every morning. She also struggled when we had other children round. It stated ruining my daughter life. I felt like free childcare. It became clear the girl is not neurotypical and needed more support than I could give her. When I tried to raise my concerns with the parents as gently as I could they went ballistic, so I had to say she can no longer visit at all. Very sad really.

Ah.

The refrain of every parent who terfs their child out to be wild and free. Leaving the poor responsible and often unwilling 'village' to actually watch them and make sure they don't do stupid things like die.

Well that’s the key to it 😬. Your daughter is being disobedient and doing something you consider dangerous. I’d be more concerned about that than the other child joining her.

This!!… It’s likely that the grandma had no idea you weren’t happy about the situation

There’s a world of difference between knocking on a door and asking if a child can come out to play and climbing over a fence into someone else’s garden without asking permission of the adult living at that property……as I said previously…….great parenting!!!!

So you think children should be sat in their rooms alone on screens rather then out playing with friends in the fresh air

I'm not sure this is a real situation to be honest and if it is it's baffling. If my DD was playing with a friend at 7.30 in the garden having her just climbed over my fence, DD would be inside straight away with a telling off because she should know better, and neighbors daughter would be sent home and told not to do it again. It's a nonsense situation to sit stressing in your own garden watching two children "have a little play" at that time in the morning.

I understand finding anything in the morning annoying due to lack of caffeine, I can barely speak until I've had my coffee

but I think you're being mean spirited towards this child.

This! I don’t get why you didn’t go and knock on the front door and say “sorry it’s a bit early for us” - does X want to come over at 10? Or similar

So get a lock for it? 🙄

I don’t get this whole thing of your DD being downstairs for that long by herself? Part of being a parent is getting up early with your kids, making them breakfast and spending time with them isn’t it? So I don’t get how she was down there long enough to go outside without you telling her no.

At 7:30?… Yes!

Its the summer holidays