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Dr called me rude then got offended when I called him rude back

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amilea · 23/07/2025 19:33

I had a telephone call with a consultant today and he said i interrupted and Overspoke him and he called me rude this is something I struggle with especially with phone conversations as how do you know when the person has finished talking but i accept this is rude so didnt argue it or say anything back. When he had definitely finished talking I said can I speak now please and then within my first sentence he interrupted me so I said you're being rude im talking and my god he went off like a bottle of pop and how insulting it is that I called him rude and how he cant continue being my dr if I think he's rude. At this point im crying and he said I dont want you to get upset but im not going to help you if you insult me. It ended with him referring me to someone else. But why does he think its ok to call me rude but its not ok for me to call him rude, I said the exact thing to him as what he said to me. But just because he's a dr its ok for him to say whatever he wants and not for me.
Aibu to think that where all human and just because he's a dr it doesnt make what I said worse.

OP posts:
Advocodo · 23/07/2025 21:58

amilea · 23/07/2025 19:48

Im not sure i absolutely put my hands up to doing this i find it so hard on the phone to tell when someone's finished and he was talking alot I had stuff to say to.

I feel I interrupt in a conversation as I know I will forget what I am going to say!

Jamesblonde2 · 23/07/2025 21:59

Do you speak the way you write? Lots of talking and lack of punctuation/pause for breath? It can come across as argumentative. Professionals are only human too, with many people to deal with every day.

SillyPlayer · 23/07/2025 21:59

MyUmberSeal · 23/07/2025 19:47

The way the NHS is at the moment, I’d let a consultant call me scuzzy cunt and I’d still nod and say thank you very much.

Best comment ever! 😆😆
Properly made me laugh- you win the Internet for today!! 😆

EmeraldShamrock000 · 23/07/2025 22:02

The thing with trying to get your questions across before you forget them, is your not listening while distracted.

Write your questions out before the appointment.

BrokenWingsCantFly · 23/07/2025 22:21

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ManyATrueWord · 23/07/2025 22:31

Some consultants have no humanity and an ego the size of the USA. Sorry you got one of those. They do not do well when you insist on retaining autonomy

TrainGame · 23/07/2025 22:44

Also OP, many women incorrectly misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder in the past when it’s actually ASD or AuDHD. They didn’t think women could have autism so gave them this label instead.

If you wanted to you could go to your GP and ask to go on a waiting list… might be a long time but it could be a relief to know why things in life might be challenging at times and finally be able to say definitively, this is why. And sort of stop blaming yourself.

Anyonecanachieve · 23/07/2025 23:13

amilea · 23/07/2025 20:42

I have never or would I ever say that to anyone now that is rude and he would have every right to lose his 💩 if I said that

🤣🤣I overheard one of the reception rudely saying ‘the NHS is a free service you know’ to one patient who was asking what time they could expect to be seen as their letter said 9.15 am and it was already 10.15 am - I sat on my hands but I wanted to say it’s not free it costs us the tax payers about £170 billion a year or like £2700 per person per year or something but it definitely not free!!

Solocup · 23/07/2025 23:14

MyUmberSeal · 23/07/2025 19:47

The way the NHS is at the moment, I’d let a consultant call me scuzzy cunt and I’d still nod and say thank you very much.

🤣🤣🤣

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