Maintenance Payments Ending

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The spousal and child maintenance payments between me and my ex are due to end in September as per the court order. From Oct all costs of our kids will then be shared evenly between us.

My ex earns at least 3 times the amount I currently do. AIBU to ask if they will be willing to split the costs more than 50/50 in light of this, appreciating this cannot be enforced?

Ofcourse you can ask. Expect ex to say no though...

Given you have been under court order
what makes u think they will respond to your ask ?

How old are your DCs?

Yabu but nobody can stop you asking your ex so all you can do is ask. Worst he can say is no. I expect he will say no though as him paying 50% of their expenses is what's reasonable. Hats off to him if he agrees though.

If you’re in the UK can you just open a claim with CMS?

The big question, and main part of the info missing from your post, is how old are the kids?

If the child maintenance is ending because the kids have come of age, then whatever you spend on them going forward is what you choose to, rather then what you have to. I’m not talking morally, but legally… if he’s paid his dues thus far, and the order has ended, he doesn’t need to give you, or pay for anything.

Do you work full time? How old are the dc? What ‘costs’?

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I wouldn’t expect anything more than 50/50 but even that is a stretch. If your kids are old enough for CMS to be ending then they are not actually kids and he owes you £0

The fact you got spousal is unusual. How long for, and what have you done for you to increase your income.
Are you living outwith your earned means.
He's not saying he won't support his kids any more, just he's not paying for your life style any more?

To clarify I have twins who will be 18 in August.

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I think you’d be lucky to get the response you are after, given that they’ll be adults.

No absolutely not.

What kind of costs are you referring to? Are they going to university?

What costs? There's no need for you to be involved with eachother to be honest. They are 18 and can make individual arrangements with each of their parents if either of them are willing to offer financial assistance.

You can ask for a fair share of their costs for university, you can also apply to the court for help but you need to be prepared to hear no. It’s also possible for their father to pay dc directly for university support

What costs are you expecting him to help with? Are your twins still in education?

My exh paid me maintenance until both left university to avail him of guilt most likely

Of course you can ask. Don’t be out off by people here, only you know the circumstances and your ex.

Apologies for the drip feed. They will be finishing school then onto uni and so will need financial support for living costs.

What are the 18 year old twins plans? University- dad will likely send money directly to the adult dc.
Apprenticeship- apprenticeship wage is minimum £800 per month now , so dc can help fund themselves.
Full time job- again, they can help pay for themselves.

You can’t force him to pay that unfortunately.

How long have you been getting the payments? Do you mean you think he should give the kids more money, or that you think he should still give you money? Who do they live with?

Depending on what their next steps are, your ex will still have to pay maintenance.

But he can choose to pay directly to the DC.

Yabu. Its their choice to go to uni.