Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

he is. When I came I said we don’t have to pretend or do fake conversations.

Op what exactly is your AIBU?
You seem to think you are in the right so I’m really not seeing the point of this thread

Fuck off elsewhere, then you don’t have to do fake conversations.

Yes, but he’s housing you while you’re having renovations done. That’s pretty nice IMO.

Your poor Dad.

You mean your parents let you stay there. They didn't have to and i don't think I'd have let you with your attitude.

That's pretty awful actually walking into someone's house expecting them to do you a favour and dictating the terms.

Why didn't you go to a friend's?

In this example, you are being nasty to him. The fact that you’ve used that as your example of how he’s pathetic and you are wonderful, is interesting.

Oh that's embarrassing for you!

Actually you didn't have to. I'd have told you to go to a hotel if I were your parent.

I think we can guess why...

Why would be pay? And if one of my children spoke to me that way I’d ask them to leave. We all have our special mugs in our house because they are special and can’t be replaced if broken and yes guests have broken my stuff before.

You are VERY lucky your dad will tolerate you behaving like this in his house. A teenager - yes; late twenties - no. If you were my adult child and behaved like this, you would not be welcome in my house until you grow up and would have to find somewhere else during your renovations.

Stoppit you'll make me laugh!! I need to put on a film and step away from the Internet :)

You sound vile. Your poor dad!! You are rude, bratty and entitled and your mother seems to pander to you. You’re lucky you’re staying there at all. Grow the fuck up and be grateful they are having you stay! You don’t HAVE to stay there and they don’t have to tolerate this nonsense from you. Your dad asked you to not use his mug and you had a hissy fit and were rude and ungrateful about ice cream he bought you? Why can’t you stay with a friend or partner? Because only your parents will tolerate this BS I suspect.

I think what you fail to understand is that my parents once upon a time were not together. They separated. Then got back together. I don’t respect my dad so much since then. He didn’t cheat or do anything untoward. They just weren’t 100% with one another. I didn’t agree with my mums choice to take him back. Neither did my sibling. It’s just harboured resentment. The mug is just another thing.

I gatekeep mugs. I even gatekeep a specific fork.

No one else uses them, kids included. I'm awaiting an ADHD assessment and I know it can be common to have favourite things, but the reason I don't allow it is because things get broken/go missing and then I struggle with an alternative.
If it were to break I wouldn't want to be upset at someone over a cup because it's not normal haha! But I would be upset, so I ask they don't use them.

I'm not saying your father is undiagnosed but I'm saying that actually it's ok for people to be precious over their belongings.

This is much deeper than a mug though.

You’re just making yourself look worse with every post now. Surely you can’t be serious.

I have adhd so there’s a very very high chance he does too.

It doesn't upset you enough not to avail yourself of his hospitality though.

I can’t be serious that I resent my father in the time him and my mum weren’t together, because she found someone more aligned to her? then he suddenly started to realise he made a mistake.

My dad has a favourite plate, favourite mug, favourite seat in my house and we all just let him have it. Maybe your dad has other real faults but wanting his own mug isn't one of them.

It's very common among people with ADHD. I am the same. Not that I have favorite things, but more that there are ones I won't use. If there was only one in the house I felt like I could use, I'd gatekeep it.

So when someone does something nice for you, this is how you react? Spoilt and nasty.

I don't see how this can be real, how do you not understand the concept of having your own mug? Oh wait, you do understand it because you have not one but two of your own.

Why does it matter if it's from tesco or asda?
What about sainsbury's or aldi, while we're naming supermarkets.

Maybe your dad thinks you'll purposely damage his mug which if this thread is real, you seem like you would.

Your mother made her choice. 🤷‍♀️