Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

What is the reason you are staying with someone you so dislike (and you clearly make him miserable too) rather than friends, other relatives, Airbnb, or just putting up with no bathroom/kitchen?

I think OP is muggin us off

Either go buy one like your dads if you feel like it, or use your own bone china cup.
It is his house and you are unreasonable and hostile towards him...sometimes people need to let it go.
At least you are allowed to stay there.

I wouldn't stay with a person I disliked so much.

Have you any friends with a couch you could sleep on?

I feel like I do recognise the username as someone who recently started an equally unpleasant thread at midnight a while back. I don’t know how to search though.

All irrelevant. Go harbour your resentment elsewhere.

Wow. Why are you staying with your parents if you get on so badly with your dad? You're supposed to be gracious, as a guest in someone's house.

Also, treat yourself to a £3 mug from somewhere - it'll be worth it for the blood pressure drop you'll all experience.

You don’t like him but are happy to use him when you need somewhere to live

I wish someone would punish me, by letting me eat icecream.

Gosh your father sounds awful! He's letting you stay while your house is renovated, he bought your favourite ice creams, he didn't break up the family when you were younger (despite you making it sound like your mother had an affair?) and he asks you not to use 'his' mug. You poor thing.

I go to the extreme. There's a fork I hate. I give it to whichever child has wound me up the most that day 🤣 they have no idea but this gives me great pleasure!

Having personal mugs is normal.

And sensible people have favoured mugs for particular drinks.
Fine china for fruit teas.
Chunkier mugs for heartier drinks like hot chocolate.

DH made me a drink in the wrong mug of mine recently, but being the reasonable person that I am, I poured it into the right mug and our marriage continued

He was a tad baffled, but he's odd like that

That's a really nasty thing to do. I never post on these kinds of threads, but that is so unkind. He was trying to offer any olive branch. Really cruel, and trying to make us laugh about it us an attempt to make us complicit in tour bullying your father.
Horrific.

Okay no. My mum did not have an affair. My mum and dad separated. My mum spent a year alone, raising me, did my dad visit much- nope. My mum then began seeing someone. Sadly it didn’t work. My parents then came back together. Then me and my dad didn’t see eye to eye. Most of my teen years were spent in disagreement with him. I have tried. I have tried many times. But now I’m in ky late 20s and I’m exhausted. I bicker because if I’m honest it would take too long to provide him with the list of reasons we don’t get along.

Tbh your response to him of calling him pathetic and then not speaking to him was pretty childish.

The fact that you later say that you don’t use your mum’s mug, but will use his because you have no respect him. And your only reason is that him and your mum got back together but you and sister didn’t approve. Well just like your car boot is not his business, their relationship is none of your business either. You are harbouring childish resentment and taking it out on your father.

You are also completely out of order staying in someone’s house and treating them with such disdain. Don’t stay there if you can’t be polite. It’s his home. Picking fights over a mug makes you look bad, not him. Just use another fucking mug and be polite when someone is a doing you a favour.

Yeah haha I’m the bully. Never mind his bullying towards me. He’s called me a bitch before. Chances are most people on the thread will agree though😂

I really don’t know why you’re staying with him when you sound so passionate in your dislike of him. And buying you ice cream - wow what a monster. Honestly you sound about 12 years old

Yup. Stop being a bitch if you don't want to be called a bitch.

He needs to kick you out.

As you have such a low opinion of him, why didn't you go and stay with a friend ?

Oh, I suppose you'd need to have friends to be able to do that.

In this thread you have given two examples of his behaviour. The mug and the icecream. No more examples so as no one is psychic, we can only go on those 2 examples. In both examples you are spiteful, nasty and cruel. He on the other hand has a favourite mug, which is normal, and bought you your favourite icecream. So, yes, if the cap fits.

Wow.

Just wow.

Try neutrally asking a few people if that is a normal thing to do.
It really isn't the Dad who is being childish here.

Perhaps take notice that 98% of people voting, think YABU.

You don't have to stay there, hotels do exist

You don't have to stay there. Get an Airbnb while your bathroom's done, then you can move back into yours. You can make do with a fridge and air fryer/microwave anywhere you can plug them in. Get out of there if he's so pathetic.

Just out of curiosity, why do you care about which mug you use?

I think the mug issue is a bit of a red herring.
Unless your dad had abused you in some way, it seems really disrespectful to keep saying /calling him pathetic. It’s such a derogatory term for someone’s dad.

Talk about an over reaction!

It's in no way unusual to have a favourite or 'own' mug and your Dad has every right to ask you not to use it in his own home.

Having a little paddy and ignoring him for the remainder of the visit is what's pathetic, IMO.

Because she either doesn't have any or none who'd be willing to house her with her attitude