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Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:09

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

OP posts:
Anyonecanachieve · 23/07/2025 18:59

Gowlett · 22/07/2025 23:12

It’s his house. His mug. You’re out of order.
However, there’s clearly more going on here…

This.

Very much more going on.

ensayers · 23/07/2025 19:01

I think you're deliberately trying to rile him up.
There's probably 20 mugs in my cupboard, and 18 of them are for guests. Stay off my two mugs, everyone knows which they are. Friendly warning the first time. Second time I'll pour your tea down the sink.
It started when I worked in an office, and everybody had their own. I still use the same one, it's been 20 years. It can't be replaced. Hands off!

Nanatobethatsme46 · 23/07/2025 19:03

How old are you? His house his rules. Dont like it (or him clearly) then dont stay in his house

Twinkletoes127 · 23/07/2025 19:08

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:39

Yep. It’s not the mug. Just him. It’s like, it’s a small thing. It’s a mug, you could just let me use it and go about your business. But nope. He went shopping the other day and got me these ice creams I wanted for ages so I told him to eat them all himself and that I’m no longer interested🤣

I knew it, this is just a bait post. Go and have a meaningful conversation with someone outside. A neighbour or maybe shopkeeper. You seem bored and frustrated

Laura95167 · 23/07/2025 19:12

Hes not the problem.

Its one mug. His mug. In his house.

Hes let you visit, for free I assume, gave you access to the other mugs.

My dad is annoying too, which this comment may be, but honestly a. Having the disrespect to ignore him in his house and b. Being so petty youd let a mug preference impact you having a conversation and loving relationship with you dad beggars belief.

Again. Hes not the problem

Absentmindedsmile · 23/07/2025 19:16

Would that a mug misuse was all we had to worry about! In a way it’s good because it means you’ve got nothing of a greater concern to worry about. Unless of course Mug Gate represents so much more.. Which, I expect it does.

Mummyof2andthatsenough · 23/07/2025 19:23

I think you are angry over a lot more than just a mug tbh. This animosity defo runs deeper.

YB1985 · 23/07/2025 19:25

I have my mug in my house and another in my parents house, where everyone has their own mug. and each mug is actually reffered to as "so n so's" mug

NeedANapAgain · 23/07/2025 19:25

Dear eight-pound, six-ounce, newborn infant Jesus, don't even know a word yet,

Thank you for blessing my DH and with five now-grown children, and an extra special thank you that none of them were ever as petulant and childish as ThePerkyCoralPoet.

Amen.

Caulkhead25 · 23/07/2025 19:33

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:55

I had to stay here whole my kitchen and bathrooms are being renovated. I’m out as soon as it’s done.

Your parents were doing you a favour; they didn't have to let you stay. Plenty of people have major work done on their house and still live in it. When I moved in to my first house, for the first three days it didn't have windows, just metal security grates. You're coming across as very entitled. It's your parents' house, so if your Dad asks you not to use his favourite mug, you should respect that instead of throwing your toys out of the pram.

Mandylee · 23/07/2025 21:56

Gowlett · 22/07/2025 23:12

It’s his house. His mug. You’re out of order.
However, there’s clearly more going on here…

Yeah, you need to pull your head in 4 sure, you may not have boundaries, but he does, it's called mutual respect & acceptance. Pretty sure he has accepted you & all your ways??..no big deal, just acceptance 😉 👍

LookingAtMyBhunas · 23/07/2025 22:05

This is one of the weirdest threads I've ever read on here.

Surely it's a reverse??

Butchyrestingface · 23/07/2025 23:57

LookingAtMyBhunas · 23/07/2025 22:05

This is one of the weirdest threads I've ever read on here.

Surely it's a reverse??

This is one of the weirdest threads I've ever read on here.

You obviously haven't seen any of the OP's other burnt offerings.

Green7691 · 24/07/2025 04:35

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 22/07/2025 23:14

You wouldn't be drinking out of any mug in my house if you talked to me that way.

I have favourite mugs, my son has favourite mugs, it's a pretty normal thing.
We don't use each others favourite mugs and we don't give them to guests.

Your right, we are all allowed a favorite mug or cup........

InWalksBarberalla · 24/07/2025 06:05

This poster is clearly thinking we are all mugs.
I'm 100% sure this poster is also PerkyOchrePeer who on another batshit thread is saying she's had a friend for other 40 years.

SnowyPetals · 24/07/2025 07:34

InWalksBarberalla · 24/07/2025 06:05

This poster is clearly thinking we are all mugs.
I'm 100% sure this poster is also PerkyOchrePeer who on another batshit thread is saying she's had a friend for other 40 years.

Oh God is that thread still going? I hid it because it was just going round and round in circles (and yes, very similar to this one).

Damnloginpopup · 24/07/2025 07:41

Fucking hell. I've read it all now.

Brefugee · 24/07/2025 08:43

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 23/07/2025 00:11

I have adhd so there’s a very very high chance he does too.

one of my DC (doesn't live with us) has ADHD and i possibly do to.

Instead of behaving like a toddler, they takes time to think about the things they say and does when they're with me, and i do the same when around them. We recognise when things are going pear shaped and take appropriate action (one of which was them moving out). And if something does blow up, we discuss it later and refine our tactics for getting along.

The difference is that we love and respect each other. If they had your attitude? they would be out on their ear, renovations or not.

BunnyLake · 24/07/2025 08:55

Melonmango70 · 23/07/2025 17:50

I don't understand the ice cream thing. Why were you so belligerent and ungrateful? If you've got nothing nice to say about your dad, then say nothing. If you know you're at best tolerating each other, just get on with it. Why did you feel the need to tell your dad to not bother with trying to "pretend or have fake conversations"? You didn't have to do that, you could have just got on with things like the adult you are supposed to be. Incidentally, I have one mug for tea, one for coffee and one for soup, and they are for my exclusive use. Nothing wrong with that!

Because OP is coming across as immature and honestly doesn't seem very bright. The ice cream thing was just dumb, why deprive yourself of the ice cream you’d been really wanting just because it happened to be your dad and not your mum who bought it (and why wouldn’t you just buy it yourself if you’d been wanting it that much). There must be more than two cups in the house as well. OP sounds a bit of a dick to be honest.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 24/07/2025 08:56

He's correct. Don't drink out of his mug.

BunnyLake · 24/07/2025 09:03

InWalksBarberalla · 24/07/2025 06:05

This poster is clearly thinking we are all mugs.
I'm 100% sure this poster is also PerkyOchrePeer who on another batshit thread is saying she's had a friend for other 40 years.

I’ve just looked it up and agree 100% it’s the same person. So the OP here is actually over 40 year’s old? Or are they just, as you say, batshit? (Well that’s not really an ‘or’ it’s more an ‘and’).

BunnyLake · 24/07/2025 09:07

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:41

Late 20s actually.

You have a ‘friend’ of over forty years on that other thread that absolutely sounds like you and even has a very similar username.

saltandvinegarchipsticks · 24/07/2025 11:28

BunnyLake · 24/07/2025 09:03

I’ve just looked it up and agree 100% it’s the same person. So the OP here is actually over 40 year’s old? Or are they just, as you say, batshit? (Well that’s not really an ‘or’ it’s more an ‘and’).

I think it’s very obvious what’s going on here…

Throwmoneyatit · 24/07/2025 11:35

I'd love to ask your dad how he feels about having a 20 something year old dick of a daughter who will never grow up and will always be an entitled brat.

columnatedruinsdomino · 24/07/2025 12:37

Agree that PerkyOchrePeer is batshit as well but their posts are littered with typos and spelling mistakes. Op is very clever to disguise her posting spag even if the content is the same!

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