Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

Right, so you're spiteful!

My mum has favourite mugs and she wouldn't even need to tell me not to drink from them I just wouldn't because it's basic respect/kindness? If I didn't realise and she didn't tell me I'd apologise and completely understand.

Of course you are. Because logging on to a message board to have a serious strop about your father asking you not to use his mug is something that rational adults don’t do. By all means log on and have a cleansing fume about your batshit father and his obsessive mug watching that’s fine, share your loopy dad mug story with your best friend about it next time you meet up for a drink, also fine.

But expecting other adults to agree with you and take your side about a petty family quirk is just a tad self obsessed.

Gosh, If I was your dad I wouldn’t have bothered doing a thoughtful thing like that. Has he got other children that are more likeable than you?

Wow, what a bratty and abusive child you're being.
Ignoring your dad just because he asked you not to use his mug.
If you were my child you'd be out of the house if you behaved that way to me.
In my house we all.have our own mugs, glasses and preferred cutlery and nobody uses each other's stuff. We even gave a couple of mugs for regular guests that noone else uses plus mugs for random visitors (ok were all asd in my house and yes i have far too many mugs).
Tell me @ThePerkyCoralPoet do you think that your stinking childish attitude has anything to do with your poor relationship with your father?

He bought you ice cream that you wanted and you said you did not want it any more🤦‍♀️. Wow. I do not know that kind of history you have with your father, but that right there is horrible behaviour by you. Yes, it is best you leave his house.

Yes but she moved out because she too, does not like him🤣

My dad is no paragon of virtue. We are very similar and argue and bicker. There is no way that he is not difficult at points. I can be mean and horrible yes. But this was silly.

Forget about it then, don't go round, don't use his mug. Neither of you like each other, it happens.

You sound an awful lot like your dad. Childish and petty.

Please don’t flatter her. She doesn’t deserve such a compliment.

But that is literally what you’re doing to him. It doesn’t matter that his is from Tesco. It’s his favourite mug and he’s asked you to use ANY other mug. It’s not like he’s asked you to not have a cup of tea/coffee…!

I have a specific mug that I like coffee in. There’s no rhyme or reason…it was only Waitrose, but it comforts me. I had to ask my 16yo son not to nab it early in the mornings he got there before me. I then realised he probably did so BECAUSE it was a loved mug by me, and found one in the same style for him.
Tea mugs I bought many in the styles I love. I prefer to give guests tea in mugs I don’t find inadequate for myself. That being said….in anyone else’s house I’ll drink my tea in any mug I’m given, without thinking I’m being slighted, because I’m a complete psychopath 🤷‍♀️

Is he ND?

This is a really bizarre thread. If you’re actually late 20s, move out. Don’t live with a man you can’t stand.

As you say, it’s only a mug - you didn’t have to drink from it! Lots of people have their own mug. There are certain mugs in this house that my children each have as “theirs” - often ones that were a gift or that they decorated at school when they were younger. One or two only I use (generally ones given to me by them) and lots of communal mugs.

It’s not the end of the world if someone uses the wrong mug, but I would never, for example, give the kids’ mugs to guest.

Just here for the message.

I had to stay here whole my kitchen and bathrooms are being renovated. I’m out as soon as it’s done.

PS - my dad has a thing of certain mugs for certain times of the day, ie “don’t use that now it’s a breakfast mug / a teatime mug” / “that mug is for coffee not tea”.

He almost certainly is ND but it’s quite sweet and I don’t mind because I actually like him!

(and he sort of is right about the mugs - some of them definitely have a breakfast or a teatime aura 😄)

Is SHE? It's not rocket science, a lot of people prefer their own mug.

@nomas you reckon this is a windup 😂

You don’t have to, to be fair. It might be your best option but no one is forcing you.

You sound obnoxious.

Lots of people have special mugs they hate other people using. You are actually deliberately being a complete and utter bitch for no good reason and have the cheek to say your dad is the one being pathetic. And you do not have to stay there - it just suits you to stay there at your parents’ expense while your house is renovated. You dad maybe an arsehole in other respects, but what a nasty way for you to behave.

@ThePerkyCoralPoet

Do you want children of your own?

Your parents don't have to give you house room just because you are having renovations. Grow up.

He can’t be that awful then, can he?

That really has no relevance to the post. I just don’t get on with my dad. My mum and I have a different relationship.