Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

You sound really unpleasant.

I don't think they're the same poster. I've read lots of posts by @ThePerkyCoralPoet and they all tally with what's here (more or less). I think PerkyOchrePeer is a different poster, but who knows who anyone else is online.

OP seems to have a lot of threads about not getting on with others and being rude to strangers.

Not sure whethershe is the same poster as Perky OchrePeer but they're odd too.

You sound extremely childish and spiteful. There is nothing you have said that makes your dad sound horrible in your posts.

I am surprised your parents agreed to let you stay.

There are certain mugs I dont like other people using, they are welcome in my house, can eat all my food, sleep in my bed but certain mugs are out of bounds 😂

I don't see the point of this thread. You're adamant that you're right but I don't think you're going to get validation of your behaviour here. So are you going to ignore all those who are calling you out?
The mug business is presumably the tip of an iceberg. You can choose to try and sort things out with him or maybe not see him any more because what's the point of staying somewhere and not talking to the person you're staying with. Miserable for all involved.
Before you decide to go low/no contact though, remember that he's getting older and there will come a point when it's too late to do things differently.

My dad had his own mug. He also had his own chair and the second he came in you scarpered from it 😁 He was a gentle soul but his chair was not for anyone else if he was in the room.

Late 20s? You have a shit load of growing up to do. You're acting like a spoilt angry brat. And it's clearly not about a mug is it? Some advice, use a different mug and move on. You sound as pathetic as you try and paint him to be. You clearly can't be told you're wrong and you're aggressive and unpleasant. I bet he doesn't like you as much as you don't like him. You're even. Time to grow up, he owes you nothing.

All this talk of everybody having their own special mug that nobody else should use has greatly surprised me. In our household we just have mugs that everybody uses as necessary.

What a depressing thought. I have quite an attachment to my special mugs. 🤣 I also keep the same one running all day - couldn’t do that if all our mugs looked identical, as I wouldn’t know who’d last drunk what from which mug and would want to wash it up properly before using it again. We’d either end up with an awful lot of mugs to wash up at the end of the day, or spend our time constantly washing up mugs for re-use.

I wonder how this was framed as there's a world of difference between "please don't use my hello kitty mug it's very special to me my now deceased bff bought it for our last Christmas gift exchange" and "put that down it's mine and mine only" or even "babe I only drink green tea your milky black crap leaves a taste in my mug so I keep this one just for my super special healthy stuff". We do all 3 of these tbh but I now wonder how the audience receives them.

You sound as bad as each other, on a mission to score petty points in a ridiculous game. It's your mum I feel sorry for, she's the one being placed as the referee between you.

I have a fave mug, everyone knows and no one else uses it. I'd be a bit miffed if they did, more because they disregarded something important to me, than them actually using it. I also have 'my' seat on the sofa. Sometimes someone else sits there, but often they're happy to move if I come into the room (I don't ask, or etc annoyed or anything).

I'm mildly autistic and have issues with change, and sensory stuff. My mug is the perfect shape and weight, and was also a gift from a friend. Recently we went on holiday and I found the cutlery borderline painful to use - I know what I like and it can have a surprisingly large impact on my day/happiness if things like that are extremely displeasing

I love my family, but they are all under very strict instructions not to touch my mug. I don't there's anything wrong with claiming something as your own and not wanting others to use it!
It doesn't mean I need to grow up, it just means I want something for myself.
You're the one who is being unreasonable about this, not your dad.

My favourite mug is now in it's third year, I think - and from time to time I fret about what will happen when/if it gets broken, because it is perfect. It holds over a pint of coffee (just about enough), and dh gave it to me for Christmas one year.

Occasionally I look on eBay to see if I can find another one like it, but I have never seen one. And when I search for giant mugs or massive mugs or even 700ml mugs, it keeps offering me ones that hold a paltry 500ml or even less - and that is not enough coffee to keep me sane(ish). I have a slightly smaller mug that I do quite like, and if the Worst happens, I will make do with it, but I will mourn my current mug.

Actually - I have just looked on eBay, and found an exact replacement for my mug - it's in the USA, and would cost me over £12 plus over £18 for postage - and now I am massively conflicted. Over £30 is way too much to pay for one mug, but it's MY mug. What should I doooooooo??

Buy the mug. Life’s too short. You’re paying for peace of mind. Whichever one works for you but I say, if it makes you happy it’s worth the cost.

You are right, @UnbotheredQueen! I’ll do it, and say MN led me astray. 😉😂

A good mug is worth the money. Drinking out of a mug you love is a great way to start or end your day and is one of life's little simple pleasures. It's comforting as part of your routine and a small reflection of your personality as well, in its look/size/theme.

Of course, now I have found and bought a replacement for my mug, the original will outlast me on this Earth! Sod’s Law.

DH has a mug we bought in Yosemite which he loves so thought about buying him a spare for his birthday. It is $16.99 on the website but they want $95 postage!

We don't have favourite mugs at home, however there are only certain mugs that I allow to be taken outside into the outbuildings/garden etc.

I do have my own mug at my mums house though - no, I wouldn't be happy if someone else used it, but thankfully I know my mum would never let anyone else use it anyway.

YABU.