To quite like being fat?

[Flumpflimpo]

There was one time that i was 9 stone. This year i am the heaviest i have ever been.

Every week for that last year i have been thinking that i must lose weight, and i have been trying every diet , and thinking about food all the time.

I was so stressed from it all that i decided to give myself and not think about dieting for one month.

I was just thinking this month, I quite emjoy being fat. Im not morbidly obese, i am fat.

I feel nice and warm and cozy

When i was thin, i rememember feeling cold and having low energy a lot.

Has anyone else felt the same?

Good for you OP. I’m normal weight, but i still feel like I could lose weight. Trouble is, I used to diet so much, I was constantly cold, and cross. I was miserable from age 16 to probably 34. It was all down to societal pressures, and a fat phobic mother. What a waste of my time, and my talents, and my 20s!. All focussed on being thin. You carry on, and enjoy the strength you get from being you.

Why?! Fuck off would be the more appropriate response from OP

My BMI is 29.6. About 12 years ago I did weightwatchers and went down to 21.8. I’m currently a stone heavier than I was before I started the Weightwatchers! I’m not happy with my weight but really feel that dieting is not the answer. I have an underactive thyroid Keeping the weight off is th3 difficulty, not losing it. My body is always trying to get back to its natural weight which is around 10.5 stone and puts me in the overweight category. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life worrying about everything that goes on my mouth.

I love this and needed to read this as a recovered anorexic currently battling being chunky but breastfeeding so not really doing anything about it and not really sure I want to

I’m so glad for you ! I hope you continue to be happy with yourself. Ignore the negativity xxx

I said me, not everyone. A lot of people do look good overweight but not me.

He was just honest when asked after the event surely…?
I’d hate it if my husband gave up on his health and pride in appearance and became very overweight /obese from a looks/attractiveness perspective.
i don’t think I’d have any control over feeling like that tbh …

The old saying about you have to choose between your face and your figure

Genuinely only read that shite on MN, along with "I was so guant looking when I was only 9 stone", from overweight women.

Meanwhile there are millions of 9 stone women all over the world who look perfectly healthy in the face and have lovely figures.

I wonder if all the silly 'gaunt' and 'figure/face' excuses will stop soon, with the amount of MNetters on the weight loss jabs.

Op it being ok to be fat in India is no longer the case. Yes they'll call it 'healthy' but it always meant fat and now its not a good thing.

But I was your height and weight and have lost loads of weight on mounjaro. I had no health concerns, I still don't. I had amazing boobs and an arse and now it's gone. Hey ho. You do you x

Do you know , I think they might !

This thread has been positive for many pps. There is too much shame and negativity around weight.

I'm not suggesting obesity should be celebrated but it shouldn't be shameful either.

The mental impact of carrying weight, the judgement is much more severe than the actual extra weight.

No one wakes up thinking "I'm going to be fat in the future" I don't have the hunger hormone, it's a blessing and a curse, my beautiful Dsis has a lot of food noise, she eats healthy but shes always hungry, so much of her time is wasted worrying about her weight. She is very glamorous and dresses well, she looks fabulous.

India is experiencing an obesity epidemic and the rates of heart disease are increasing exponentially.

i know India, very well ( 17 trips over thirty years) so have watched the change from a mainly home cooked, mainly vegetarian diet to the utter onslaught of processed rubbish that people consume now.

Your reference to “severe” western culture - well, I find that baffling.

”to thine own self, be true “

For me, the only advantage of being overweight is that I don't feel the winter weather as much as I used to. Mind you, that could also be due to climate change.

I wouldn't like to go back to being skinny, but I'd love to get my waist back. Alas, I'm very short and seem to need far fewer calories than the average person. I gave up chocolate, crisps and alcohol for Lent and merely stopped putting more weight on.

You’re literally presuming to explaining to this woman whom you have never met how and why she feels happy?

I’ll never get over the confidence of some people.

No, the OP did that herself when she declared she'll be going on a diet in September.

No then i changed my mind and wrote fuck it, i wont be going on a diet in september, fuck society's expectations.

Read the full thread.

Being overweight should be frowned upon because it leads to so many health issues and premature death.
And I say that as someone who has been overweight. As a pp said ,it takes a monumental effort to keep weight off, but the benefits, both physically and mentally, are enormous.

I just love how cross people are getting over one woman deciding what's best for herself. Do whatever you want op, if it makes other people who have never met you mad, then that's just too bad for them.

As Gary Barlow once said: " Get fat and be happy"

In all seriousness though, I feel.much healthier slimmer but it's probably not as bad as it seems being a bit overweight. I've been a very trim size 10, and 8 stone about 30 years ago, but quite why I'm comparing my 14 year old self to my middle aged mum body isn't something I can answer 😅

Back then, I ate like a horse but played hockey 3 times a week and was incredibly fit. I also didn't have 3 children and wasn't perimenopausal... but I seem healthy now in spite of being 2 stone overweight.

I was pretty unwell after my youngest daughter was born in 2020, and went on a huge low carb diet for a few months to help me through my post natal depression. I was pretty thin, and lost loads of weight, almost to the point where I became underweight and slightly emaciated. I couldn't get comfortable in bed as my hips had no fat on them, and I remember my mum saying I had the wan look of a person lacking in nutrients and who wasn't healthy. It wasn't great and I think I might have been very unwell if I'd not had a good support network with health visitor, Home Start charity help etc

I'm much better now and happy, and love my food too much to get too thin 😋 😄

There's often a long term health difference between being mildly overweight and into the obese category.

Age matters; we naturally accumulate weight with age, particularly into middle age so being significantly overweight at younger ages tends to present weight-related health issues younger and it becomes harder to lose weight with age.

Body composition and shape affect how healthily you store body mass. Two people can be of the same BMI with very different health risks between lots of fat stored around the abdomen, wrapped around the organs and having denser limbs from good muscle mass.

People can be fat on nutritious diets and fit, although excess weight will affect performance and mobility.
I find I notice subtle weight gains easily as my bum jiggles more easily. I don't want to jam a substantial bust into a sports bra. Being a pear shape, I'm susceptible to "chub rub" very easily.
Exercise is easier and more fun when I'm in the healthy range and not tipped into "overweight" despite a decent proportion of muscle mass.

It's good to be confident in your own skin, but there are inconvenient health risks attached to excessive fat, and a BMI of 32 is obese and a long term increased risk- few people have the very high muscle mass of power lifters and rugby players to have that kind of BMI without excessive body fat.

It's fine for OP to be fine with where she's at, but her own posts and raising potential weight loss in September indicate that it's not a genuine, long term happiness. OP isn't obliged to be any particular size.

My concern about my weight gradually going up isn't so much about it being an issue now as where it will be in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years etc if that trend continues. I don't want the inconvenience and expense of replacing clothes I like or the feel of excess weight that doesn't enhance the way my body works, so for me it is worth gently working at maintaining and moderating my intake to avoid harder choices in the future.

I read the full thread.

Including the back peddling when it was pointed out that it didn't make sense to claim to be happy to be overweight, whilst planning to lose weight.

Mumsnet won’t accept that people who are overweight are comfortable in their bodies. The expectation here will be to hate yourself.

I’m glad you feel happy @Flumpflimpo

We cant and should not put off life until we are a certain weight or size. Live for today.

If at some point in the future you change your mind, that’s fine. If not; also fine. Your body, your feelings, your decision.

I’m the same
spent my entire life wanting to be really tiny. I’m 5’2 but muscly and sporty. Look good at 8 stone and size 8, have been as big as 10 stone after kids, I was a chunky kid
then a very stressful time meant no eating at all and I am under 7 stone.

I look dreadful
nothing fits me, face drawn, skin hanging off my arse

I can wear size 4/6 clothes, I didn’t even realise how thin I was until I tried clothes on, everything drops off me

I never look at myself, I don’t cook anymore, I don’t run like I used to

I feel constantly anxious and hate myself

really thin isn’t anything like what I hoped, and I don’t feel healthy at all

Pressure to be thin is only in our culture.

You've obviously not spent much time in East/SE Asia.