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To be glad schools are finally hitting back

463 replies

Teachingquestion · 22/07/2025 12:05

Over the last couple of days I've seen more stories about schools introducing new rules and sending students home who won't comply.
I'm in a really tricky school about to do the same (when we start back) and the staff are so relieved. Teachers on here : are you glad to see it?

OP posts:
mathanxiety · 22/07/2025 14:06

randomlemonsheep · 22/07/2025 13:27

either you have a uniform or you don't. If it's something you disagree with, pick another school.

I am happy with the best performing school in the area which funnily enough has a very strict uniform policy. I don't know or care if it's linked, but it's clearly working. Teens are not wild about their uniform, but being a uniform, they're all in the same boat so they just get on with it during school hours.

I am lucky enough to have only experienced workplace with a conservative dress code, and where people don't confuse the office with a beach club. Works well too!

There are so many work places where appearance does matter, as it should.

The usual.muddled and incoherent argument in favour of school uniform here, I see.

Witchcraftandhokum · 22/07/2025 14:06

We've introduced new rules and we're just starting to see a turnaround in behaviour, calmer classrooms and happier staff, then ofsted told us our suspensions are too high. 🤔

SammyScrounge · 22/07/2025 14:07

Nasrine · 22/07/2025 12:14

The biggest risk factor for really terrible outcomes for children - becoming the victims and perpetrators of serious crime - is being excluded from school.

If you want to celebrate school exclusion, fine. But people should be aware that when it's happening on a large scale, there may well be social consequences.

There can be catastrophic consequences if violent knife toting pupils are not excluded.

Internaut · 22/07/2025 14:08

Postre · 22/07/2025 12:37

None of the 'little' or 'annoying" rules being trotted out are actually inherently stupid. Even if they seem small and insignificant, it's powerful for the culture for everybody to do what they've been asked and staff insisting on this are teaching children a valuable lesson. They don't get to argue or opt out of what is the norm just because they have a preference. They're supposed to all be treated equally and play their part.

What a nonsensical approach. It is not powerful for any culture to have those on whom it is imposed constantly butting up against illogical and stupid rules. All that happens in that situation is they end up despising the idiots who make the rules and people prepared to enforce them.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 22/07/2025 14:10

Yet another goady one post wonder op
stirs up the froth and vanishes

housethatbuiltme · 22/07/2025 14:10

Depends on the validity of rules.

A lot of 'academy' rules are not only stupid but actually abusive control and don't address issues they cause them. You wouldn't get away with treating adults that way.

There is a reason virtually no one sends their kid to the local academy here and those that get stuck their (short end of the stick of catchment) end up removing their kids usually. The 'school' (more like detainment center) is far too busy enforcing insanely controlling uniform rules to stamp out any ounce of harmless autonomy rather than focusing on the key point of education or the behavior and the rampant out of control bullying (that has result in many police involved assault investigations).

The old comp (despite its low ofsted report many kids seem happy there) and local religious schools (which are excellent, great grades and little to no issues) don't have as many insane rules but overall better ones and are just much better environments with better behaviors overall.

SammyScrounge · 22/07/2025 14:10

Badbadbunny · 22/07/2025 12:44

Nail on the head. But it's easier for teachers to lazily discipline for minor uniform breaches than it is for them to deal with bullying. As usual, they take the easy option!

There are no lazy.disciplines in the classroom.

IsleofDen · 22/07/2025 14:11

I might be wrong, but most of the draconian rules seem to be a result of the need to keep 30 young people under control at all times.

The obvious answer is that 30 in a class is too many for a teacher to engage.

Instead of telling governments and LEAs that they are being unrealistic, schools look for ways to make the kids easier to manage in large groups.

I've noticed this attitude towards SEN kids too; instead of holding their hands up and saying "We can't meet need," they tell parents and LEAs that they can, fail to uphold the EHCP, and restart the cycle (with less trust between all parties).

It's not a failure to say that the expectations of you are excessive and can't be met. More SLTs should be doing exactly this; change can only happen once a problem is honestly presented.

Internaut · 22/07/2025 14:12

I hope none of these schools are sending pupils home without following Department for Education guidance around exclusions. Otherwise they themselves would be breaking the rules, which would hardly be setting a good example.

CaptainFuture · 22/07/2025 14:12

luckylavender · 22/07/2025 13:59

So teachers should just put up with everything?

It's another one of the like pp upthread 'we're entitled to do what we want, act like we want....or we will make you suffer the consequences which if I recall the poster said wad to 'respond with violence and aggression' for being expected to follow school rules?

Tootiredforthis23 · 22/07/2025 14:12

ARichtGoodDram · 22/07/2025 12:49

Interestingly the high school here are taking on the uniform policy the primaries have adopted over the last few years.

From September it will be -

black or navy trousers, shorts or skirt. They must be high waisted enough and long enough to cover underwear.

White or royal blue shirt, tshirt or polo shirt. Tie is available to wear with a shirt if wished.

Black, navy or royal blue jumper, cardigan or hoodie. Logo versions available but not compulsory.

Black shoes or trainers.

Some parents are very unhappy about it, but the primaries have said they have found much less clashing between staff and pupils over uniform. Much less time wasted on it. Also pupils much more comfortable and less disruptive.

The high school head was previously very very into uniform so the discussions with the other HT's must have been very eye opening for him to go down this line.

This is exactly what I think secondary schools should do. I taught in secondary for 10 years and wasted so much learning time with all the ridiculous checks of uniform. And being forced by a ridiculous policy to give a child a detention at the start of the lesson for no blazer does not set a good learning environment for the next hour, plus they’ve already got a detention so why bother behaving.

I’m all for schools having a uniform policy (it does reduce bullying for children who can’t afford all the names clothing) but I think it should definitely mirror a primary uniform policy, it’s comfier for the kids and cheaper for the parents meaning they’re more likely to comply. Most workplaces are heading for a more smart casual workwear policy anyway, so the old argument of setting children up for the workplace doesn’t really stand anymore.

WutheringTights · 22/07/2025 14:13

cwmflahwbml · 22/07/2025 12:45

I don't agree with children being put into detention for not having a pencil. It is an excessive punishment. Warnings and/or demerit marks, ok, and a detention when a certain number have been acrued but not, straight into detention.
They can borrow a pencil from a friend and try to do better the next time.

My kids’ school gives ten minute lunchtime detentions for not being properly equipped. Seems fair to me. At the start of the year I bought a big box of stationery and told them where it is. Also encouraged them to always have a couple of spares. If they can’t organise the stuff they need to learn then a 10 minute detention seems fair enough.

Littlefish · 22/07/2025 14:13

spoonbillstretford · 22/07/2025 12:39

I've seen a few stories about academy trusts being investigated for their behaviour policies leading to parents having to move schools or educate them at home.

https://www.itv.com/news/meridian/2025-07-21/strict-behaviour-policy-behind-exodus-of-500-pupils-from-school

The vast majority of schools operate like this now, so there is little or no parental choice other than home education. It's a massive national scandal IMO and schools are not fit for purpose.

Edited

I read this article this morning.

As usual, pupils with SEND are being unreasonably affected by draconian behaviour policies, and therefore, leaving.

I supported a family to take a school to a disability discrimination tribunal due to school policies and practices which discriminated against the child due to their SEND. We won! However, the child still left the school and it’s highly likely that nothing had changed at the school, in spite of the ruling by the tribunal panel.

randomlemonsheep · 22/07/2025 14:15

My locals schools have very strict uniform policies.

But they are also so strict on anti-bullying that normal kids messing around between themselves is not allowed either when it's too physical. Fine, I am not complaining, I get where they come from, and the kids can wait until after school.

The point was that it's not one or the other, uniform or bullying, many schools manage both!

brunettemic · 22/07/2025 14:16

Fuzzypinetree · 22/07/2025 12:15

That depends on the rules, surely? If they are stupid rules that just make my life and that of everyone around me more miserable and annoying...then, no..I wouldn't be relieved. I'd roll my eyes and think, "for fuck's sake...chill"

I remember one school where we had to check all of the kids before leaving the classroom to head to their next lesson.

  • Shirt tucked in?
  • Top button done up?
  • Tie done properly?
  • House lanyard round their neck?
  • House lanyard and tie underneath their jumper?
  • Are they wearing a jumper? (If not, tell them to put on their jumper.)
  • Do they have their pencil case and planner?
  • Is their equipment in their pencil case?

Honestly,...life's too short for this. I don't care. I really do not care. As long as they aren't showing up half naked and are dressed for the weather and the fact that they are in school, I don't care about sodding top buttons.

Edited

I’m not a teacher but DH is and whilst I think he’d sort of agree with you he also says regularly that when his school clamps down on uniform it has a huge overall impact on the school because there’s no little boundaries to test so the bigger ones don’t get pushed.

bellamorgan · 22/07/2025 14:16

randomlemonsheep · 22/07/2025 13:54

Link benefits with kids behaviour points at school
see how quickly things improve!

edit read that wrong haha. I thought you meant benefits for children as in rewards.

But you also have a point in some cases

.. prior to edit below.
One of mine school does this. Build 1,000 points or something and you get a Dominos delivered to school for lunch for you and friends to share. Other smaller prizes along the way as well.

AlertEagle · 22/07/2025 14:16

Nomdejeur · 22/07/2025 13:21

And when they do it every day?

sending them home is not a proper solution to the issue.

Internaut · 22/07/2025 14:17

Ofsted is going to be assessing schools in part on their adherence to equality laws. I suspect that is going to be really problematic for some academy schools that insist on mindless rigid adherence to rules, especially around uniform.

Ohthatsabitshit · 22/07/2025 14:17

Teachingquestion · 22/07/2025 12:05

Over the last couple of days I've seen more stories about schools introducing new rules and sending students home who won't comply.
I'm in a really tricky school about to do the same (when we start back) and the staff are so relieved. Teachers on here : are you glad to see it?

Is your OP supposed to be so vague it attracts lots of ideas for a journalist?

SanctusInDistress · 22/07/2025 14:18

Fuzzypinetree · 22/07/2025 12:15

That depends on the rules, surely? If they are stupid rules that just make my life and that of everyone around me more miserable and annoying...then, no..I wouldn't be relieved. I'd roll my eyes and think, "for fuck's sake...chill"

I remember one school where we had to check all of the kids before leaving the classroom to head to their next lesson.

  • Shirt tucked in?
  • Top button done up?
  • Tie done properly?
  • House lanyard round their neck?
  • House lanyard and tie underneath their jumper?
  • Are they wearing a jumper? (If not, tell them to put on their jumper.)
  • Do they have their pencil case and planner?
  • Is their equipment in their pencil case?

Honestly,...life's too short for this. I don't care. I really do not care. As long as they aren't showing up half naked and are dressed for the weather and the fact that they are in school, I don't care about sodding top buttons.

Edited

These matter. Being able to follow these ‘small’ rules develops the skills and discipline needed to follow these ‘rules’ to survive the real workplace. Young people who are unable to develop these skills will struggle later on and complain about ‘mental health. Nonsense.

MrsSunshine2b · 22/07/2025 14:19

randomlemonsheep · 22/07/2025 13:53

forgetting equipment IS disruptive! To the teacher, and to the other kids around.

It's just excuses after excuses, and it's other children who are forever penalised. My kids are not that bothered, but they are the ones who find it annoying that it's always the same ones messing around.

and my kids are far from being perfect students 😂

Organisation and memory are skills that develop at different rates.

If a kid forgets how to do a maths problem, would it help to put them in detention or is it obvious that they just need more help and time to remember that skill? Is it not disruptive when a kid is stuck and needs extra help with a problem?

I went all through school being punished for forgetting things, it didn't make me less forgetful it just ruined my self esteem and caused mental health problems.

ASimpleLampoon · 22/07/2025 14:20

cwmflahwbml · 22/07/2025 12:52

That's because there's not enough information in the OP for people to be able to choose one of the options and then the comments discuss what the new rules might be and that's why there's a mismatch.

@Teachingquestion has not bothered ti clarify and is probably just lurking and writing their slow Newsday article 😂

Kidsgotothatschool · 22/07/2025 14:20

spoonbillstretford · 22/07/2025 12:39

I've seen a few stories about academy trusts being investigated for their behaviour policies leading to parents having to move schools or educate them at home.

https://www.itv.com/news/meridian/2025-07-21/strict-behaviour-policy-behind-exodus-of-500-pupils-from-school

The vast majority of schools operate like this now, so there is little or no parental choice other than home education. It's a massive national scandal IMO and schools are not fit for purpose.

Edited

My kids go to this school and I’ve been on the parents page and seen the Facebook threads.

There are huge numbers of happy but quiet parents, unlike the ones who complain, laughing at some of the stories on the fb threads which are absolute nonsense. Myself included. My kids are taught in quiet calm classrooms because the ‘sweating the small stuff’ does improve low level disruption which is exhausting for staff and children and minimises learning.

My kids are not angels and have had detentions for some of the silly stuff but it’s 15 minutes and we just tell them to follow the rules next time. It’s not rocket science.

I’m all for it!

Internaut · 22/07/2025 14:20

Nomdejeur · 22/07/2025 13:21

And when they do it every day?

Think hard about whether this is a battle that is even worth fighting. All over the world children are educated successfully without ever having to wear uniform. Just abolish the rule, or at least massively relax it.

Rocketpants50 · 22/07/2025 14:21

Am all for zero tolerance on behaviour but some of the rules brought in by our local high school are just awful.

  • they all have to use the same pen- not great if you are left handed and it now smudges your work
  • lining up in full uniform - no coat in torrential rain, cold weather or 30 degree heat.
-girls have been told to wear pads incase their periods start during class time as if they do and need to go to the toilet they will get a detention, if they fail to go a day in isolation.
  • silence at all times in corridors and then in some classes are silent and they have to sit and listen- no note taking. Very victorian stance.
  • detentions for not looking at teacher the whole time, not putting pen down quick enough ...

Am just not sure how all these crazy rules prepare children for the real world or benefit them. Though I am very much for children having struct behaviour boundaries. Interestingly many of the children who have struggled with the rules are those which behave anyway - but it has created an environment of fear, that they feel they are going to slip up and be punished.