SIL furious niece cut her knee.

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So I was baby sitting DN 13 months for the first time. We were playing in the garden, she has started toddling about so only walking a few steps at a time. She was playing with my DD 3 years and she's tripped and scraped her knee. Just a normal little scrape, didn't even cry and laughed her head off when we put a special princess plaster on.

Well SIL collected her and is furious. She says I should have watched her more closely as she isn't walking properly yet and this is the first time she had been injured and it was when I was watching her so maybe I shouldn't babysit again. She is also upset that I didn't ring her when it happened.

Now for me it's not a big deal so I didn't even think to ring, that being said I have a 3 year old who is permanently covered in scrapes and bruises so maybe my opinion is a bit skewed.

Was I really unreasonable? I am gutted that she thinks I wasnt supervising properly.

Your SIL has PFB syndrome. She'll learn. You did nothing wrong.

She's a dick and I wouldn't be doing her any more babysitting favours.

I would make sure to never offer or agree to babysit again.

Im guessing this is her pfb? She will soon run out of babysitters acting like this.

She’s being absolutely mental, presuming you weren’t indoors or something watching her from the window! She’s being bloody ungrateful too, imagine having a go at someone for something so normal when they’ve done you a favour! Poor you, you aren’t being unreasonable at all.

Your SIL will die of cringe when she looks back at this in years ahead. PFB syndrome makes us lunatics.

Plus, if she really manages to supervise her DC so closely that they never trip over in her care, then she's actually going to stunt their development.

Bonkers. I like how she is going to punish you by not letting you provide her with childcare. 😁

SIL is batshit. On the plus side, you won't be saddled with further babysitting duties. Win!

Oh dear SIL is in for a long traumatic few years then!
She will learn that this is just the beginning.... hopefully she won't damage her daughter by restricting her adventures as she investigates the world.
There are walls to be walked on, trees to climb, puddles to splash and worms to dig up!!!
Love the princess plasters!

Agree your SIL is being ridiculous. I wouldn’t look after her child again. Out of interest is this your brother’s partner or husband’s sister?

First born by any chance?

Don't babysit for her again until she gets a grip. She'll soon learn.

Toddlers fall your sil does sound overly anxious though and this will drag on and on, contact her say kids fall you are sorry she fell on "your watch" and you understand if she doesnt want you babysitting again, i mean she is overreacting but if you acknowledge her then leave it, she will calm down.

She says I should have watched her more closely as she isn't walking properly yet and this is the first time she had been injured and it was when I was watching her so maybe I shouldn't babysit again.

OK then - Don't babysit again. Bullet dodged.

Ur sil is an actual twat and need to get a grip of herself. She owes you huge apology btw.

Toddlers are pretty wobbly hence the name.

You did nothing wrong. Your SIL is overreacting, but it can be hard to see our 'baby' hurt/damaged - she might not be used to the endless falling over, hitting head routine - but it is entirely normal for toddlers who have a large heavy head and developing mobility skills to fall over a lot.

Hopefully she will apologise to you once she realises that she went OTT.

If she doesn't then do not put yourself in a position where you are berated by her as though you were a servant failing at their duties - you are an aunt who is very kindly offering to provide care for her child, and she should absolutely be grateful for this at all times.

Haha I love how you've now lost the privilege of babysitting her child. 🙄 She sounds insufferable!

I remember watching Supernanny years ago and a pfb mum wouldn’t let go of her child and was incredibly anxious that he’d hurt himself on the play equipment at a toddler park. It was very interesting to see SN telling the mum to praise and back off allowing the child some independence rather than literally hovering over him.

In the field yesterday walking the dogs and a toddler fell over twice in the kiddie park: mum just hoicked him up, dusted off his hands, told him he was ok and sent him on. I could see him wondering if he should cry but mum made out she wasn’t bothered so nor was he. Your sil is setting up her child to be potentially upset over minor stuff.

What on earth is PFB? There isn’t even anything on google for that?

And didn’t you say oh don’t worry I won’t be babysitting again.

Yanbu
Kids fall over. So do adults.

I wouldn't be offering free childcare again until she apologises.

She's in for a rude awakening if her child goes into any kind of childcare setting.

Christ you were doing her a favour OP. Stuff like this happens, does she hover over the poor kid 24/7 when she's toddling about?

She's going to be so embarrassed when she looks back on this in years to come, cringe.

No more babysitting and God help the staff when she starts playgroup or nursery.

Precious First Born

Can I just ask what PFB is please? See it a lot on here but it’s one of the abbreviations I haven’t worked out. Sorry if it’s slap in the face obvious lol