To feel traumatised that ex wanted to give me 'one last nice week'

[LorettaYoung]

By this I mean we spent an amazing week together ahead of the break up and a month later during the break up I queried how we'd just had an amazing time together and he said 'I wanted to give you one last nice week together'.

I think back on that week. How he stocked up his fridge with all my favourite things. Also sexually he'd always been very vanilla and not wanting to try new things, but suddenly he said he wanted to do those things that week. Which we did. I keep thinking about those moments and how vulnerable I was and angry that he was plotting the break up the whole time.

I remember we watched a movie where the lead guy is making the break up long and drawn out, and he said 'well maybe it's ok to not say goodbye immediately sometimes.' I remember thinking WTF.

I feel like he treated me like a dog that was about to get down and feel it is almost a sadistic way to behave? Am I wrong?

Sort of similar in that my ex husband promised me 'the best Christmas ever' before breaking up with me.

It's a shame your voice isn't connected to a brain.

Sounds like you both treated each other like dogs - you'd finally trained him to treat you great he was finally ready to let you go

BUT i agree with you, what did he expect "he was always amazing, that last week made me realise how good he was & now I miss him" ???

Narc at it's finest

Jeezo, that is creepy as fuck! You are well rid of that specimen.

Wow what a dick.

No better cold and callous. Much easier to dismiss them. This is so much more creepy.

This wasn't about giving you a lovely week. This was about making himself feel better - 'Ooh, look at how thoughtful and considerate I am. I'm just so decent and generous. I'm so manly and such a catch. You'll look back on losing me, with regret, forever.'

What a cunt. Should have been drowned at birth.

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

What an awful thing to do, especially the sex part, I’d be so angry in your shoes

He sounds nuts. Good riddance!

Well he's got serious problems.then hasn't he. If a person gets blindsided by a shit like that then there's nothing to be done. If a person knows that a man is like this and still.goes out with them then they really need to start doing some serious thinking. Men like that are either very psychologically disturbed or they have an incredibly diminished understanding of people.

I think he’s trying to leave the door open OP. Please don’t go back to this arsehole.

Ugh. What a nasty piece of work. I hope his dick withers and drops off.

Hang in there, OP; it WILL get better, and before long you WILL realise you’re better off without this prick in your life x

He sounds like a creep with a low IQ. You will move past this and be so glad you didn't waste move time on the weirdo

@DisabledDemon yeah he actually said he struggles with 'giving too much to people' as if he's so unbelievably generous. In fact, I was more generous with my love and time than he was always. I was the giver and he the taker, but he thinks its the other way around.

@SoThisIsHowMiddleAgeFeels This is partly what I'm struggling with now - he told me he wanted to be with me into our old age just months before breaking up. He behaved like he loved me when he must have been falling out of love with me.

What was real/what wasn't? Thinking some of the best and most meaningful times of your life were in fact a lie.

I know a guy who took his girlfriend on an amazing holiday as one last trip together when he had already decided to break up upon their return. He had booked it AFTER he'd made the decision! He had a similar logic to your ex. He seemed genuinely baffled that she hadn't seen it coming! Always thought he was a one off, but obviously not!

It's truly rubbish op, sorry he did that.