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AIBU to agree with Diane Abbott

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Elephantiner · 17/07/2025 14:18

I cannot stand Diane Abbott, she has a lazy, patronising manner which riles me, but she has said that people visiblybof a different race (e.g. black people) experience a different sort of racism than those who’s race is not visually obvious (travellers, Jewish people etc). She has a point, doesn’t she? Am I missing something here?

Obviously all types of racism are utterly abhorrent.

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Lavenderflower · 20/07/2025 20:13

@ForWittyTealOP Why should I align myself or build solidarity with individuals who deny the existence of racism experienced by Black and Brown communities, simply because many of them live in areas like Hackney? That line of thinking is dismissive and reductive. Do you take me for a fool?

I may not be Black or Brown, but as someone who is visibly mixed race, I face racism based solely on how I look. Are you seriously asking me to centre people who have shown no concern for me or for others who share my experience? Do you genuinely believe your perspective is more important or your life more valuable than mine? The audacity.

I have no interest in aligning with people who discredit my views by labelling them “too flowery” or “too intellectual” just because they don't like your view point. I have no interest in people calling me a racist because I recognise that appearance influences racism. Solidarity isn’t built by making everything about yourself while dismissing other perspective that doesn't align with your world view.

Also have you changed your user name in the thread.

nomas · 20/07/2025 20:13

AuntyHistamine · 20/07/2025 20:10

Perhaps that’s because they don’t get off on trying to censor people.

Interesting that you only picked out black people for criticism.

Humdingerydoo · 20/07/2025 20:18

Lavenderflower · 20/07/2025 19:44

I think you're conflating several issues. I’m being very specific here. I am referencing is about the broader societal and institutional dynamics that determine which forms of racism are prioritised, and which are routinely sidelined or minimised. More precisely, I’m observing how the current Labour leadership is approaching these issues and what that reveals about the hierarchy of racialised experience in British public life.

As someone who is both Black and Jewish (among other ethnic backgrounds), I’ve experienced firsthand how conversations about racism can feel tiered. In my lived reality, anti-black racism is often dismissed, especially when it comes to historical trauma. There’s a repeated message that slavery was a long time ago and that Black people should “move on.

In contrast, the Holocaust has rightly been afforded public recognition, remembrance, and education and until recently, Jewish communities were often given more space to talk openly about their history. I believe part of this stems from the fact that the UK and the US position themselves as liberators during the Holocaust, whereas they were directly complicit in slavery and colonialism. That moral distance may help explain why certain histories receive greater validation than others.

To be absolutely clear: this isn’t about diminishing the Holocaust or antisemitism it’s about acknowledging the unequal treatment of racial trauma in public discourse. That disparity is alienating for many marginalised groups, especially when their own histories are brushed aside. That said, I also think the political and cultural tide is shifting. In light of current events in the Middle East, public sympathy toward Jewish communities is waning and now they are being framed as colonisers. I think antisemitism may grow in both subtle and overt forms as a result. I think history may repeat itself with Jews getting expelled.

At the same time, I find Keir Starmer’s treatment of Diane Abbott to be deeply troubling and hypocritical. His recent language on immigrants echoes rhetoric more commonly associated with Reform UK. Whether intentionally or not, the message being sent is that some forms of racism are politically safer to challenge than others. And right now, it feels as though discussion on antisemitism is the only form of racism that being protected. The comments on the thread, certainly reinforces this feeling.

What issues am I conflating?

You seem to be doubling down on the idea that people only care about anti-Semitism? You seem to be implying that Jewish people have somehow infiltrated government and ensured anti-Semitism is the only form of racism allowed to be talked about? Again, a lot of what you're saying is scarily similar to what an anti-Semite would say.

As a white Jew, I can assure you we are also actively and regularly discriminated against. Both by racists and by "anti-racists" who keep telling us we're imagining things and we're actually not discriminated against. It's all in our heads and we're actually perfectly safe, dontcha know!

nomas · 20/07/2025 20:21

Humdingerydoo · 20/07/2025 20:18

What issues am I conflating?

You seem to be doubling down on the idea that people only care about anti-Semitism? You seem to be implying that Jewish people have somehow infiltrated government and ensured anti-Semitism is the only form of racism allowed to be talked about? Again, a lot of what you're saying is scarily similar to what an anti-Semite would say.

As a white Jew, I can assure you we are also actively and regularly discriminated against. Both by racists and by "anti-racists" who keep telling us we're imagining things and we're actually not discriminated against. It's all in our heads and we're actually perfectly safe, dontcha know!

I think she’s referring to the comments people make about black people and slavery. One poster said black people like playing the victims.

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 20:31

Lavenderflower · 20/07/2025 20:13

@ForWittyTealOP Why should I align myself or build solidarity with individuals who deny the existence of racism experienced by Black and Brown communities, simply because many of them live in areas like Hackney? That line of thinking is dismissive and reductive. Do you take me for a fool?

I may not be Black or Brown, but as someone who is visibly mixed race, I face racism based solely on how I look. Are you seriously asking me to centre people who have shown no concern for me or for others who share my experience? Do you genuinely believe your perspective is more important or your life more valuable than mine? The audacity.

I have no interest in aligning with people who discredit my views by labelling them “too flowery” or “too intellectual” just because they don't like your view point. I have no interest in people calling me a racist because I recognise that appearance influences racism. Solidarity isn’t built by making everything about yourself while dismissing other perspective that doesn't align with your world view.

Also have you changed your user name in the thread.

Oh my issue with you isn't that you're "too intellectual" - far from it. My issue is that you think you can hide the racist pea of your argument under a hundred feather mattresses.

If your version of anti racism involves continuing to make racist statements about people who aren't you, crack on. Nobody's going to take you seriously.

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 20:32

And no. I haven't changed my username but nice attempt to discredit what I actually have to say.

AuntyHistamine · 20/07/2025 20:33

nomas · 20/07/2025 20:13

Interesting that you only picked out black people for criticism.

Interesting that you’re making things up.

Longingdreamer · 20/07/2025 20:34

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AuntyHistamine · 20/07/2025 20:37

nomas · 20/07/2025 20:21

I think she’s referring to the comments people make about black people and slavery. One poster said black people like playing the victims.

I believe the right honourable lady herself once said white people love playing divide and rule. Could that be deemed racism out of interest?

Longingdreamer · 20/07/2025 20:37

Lavenderflower · 20/07/2025 20:13

@ForWittyTealOP Why should I align myself or build solidarity with individuals who deny the existence of racism experienced by Black and Brown communities, simply because many of them live in areas like Hackney? That line of thinking is dismissive and reductive. Do you take me for a fool?

I may not be Black or Brown, but as someone who is visibly mixed race, I face racism based solely on how I look. Are you seriously asking me to centre people who have shown no concern for me or for others who share my experience? Do you genuinely believe your perspective is more important or your life more valuable than mine? The audacity.

I have no interest in aligning with people who discredit my views by labelling them “too flowery” or “too intellectual” just because they don't like your view point. I have no interest in people calling me a racist because I recognise that appearance influences racism. Solidarity isn’t built by making everything about yourself while dismissing other perspective that doesn't align with your world view.

Also have you changed your user name in the thread.

No one here has denied the racism experienced by black or brown people. That's a fabrication of yours.

What we have said is that DA cannot talk for the experiences of other minorities, or diminish their experiences of racism.

Your bizarre language appears to try to conflate what is a very racist undertone. For this reason I wonder if you are a bot. You think you sound clever by using a thesaurus, by you sound like a racist fool.

Dangermoo · 20/07/2025 20:57

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 20:32

And no. I haven't changed my username but nice attempt to discredit what I actually have to say.

Of course you haven't changed your username. This thread has sunk to new levels of deviousness x

Dangermoo · 20/07/2025 20:59

Longingdreamer · 20/07/2025 20:37

No one here has denied the racism experienced by black or brown people. That's a fabrication of yours.

What we have said is that DA cannot talk for the experiences of other minorities, or diminish their experiences of racism.

Your bizarre language appears to try to conflate what is a very racist undertone. For this reason I wonder if you are a bot. You think you sound clever by using a thesaurus, by you sound like a racist fool.

Absolutely.

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:02

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You really thought being patronising and superior is offering an olive branch? Bizarre.

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:03

AuntyHistamine · 20/07/2025 20:37

I believe the right honourable lady herself once said white people love playing divide and rule. Could that be deemed racism out of interest?

Would you say ‘they like playing the victims’ about any other ethnic group?

Dangermoo · 20/07/2025 21:03

AuntyHistamine · 20/07/2025 20:37

I believe the right honourable lady herself once said white people love playing divide and rule. Could that be deemed racism out of interest?

The brass neck!

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:06

Longingdreamer · 20/07/2025 20:37

No one here has denied the racism experienced by black or brown people. That's a fabrication of yours.

What we have said is that DA cannot talk for the experiences of other minorities, or diminish their experiences of racism.

Your bizarre language appears to try to conflate what is a very racist undertone. For this reason I wonder if you are a bot. You think you sound clever by using a thesaurus, by you sound like a racist fool.

If she can’t see any allyship, why can’t she say that? I see no allyship on this thread, by anyone.

And just because she has a different opinion, that doesn’t make her a bot.

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:08

AuntyHistamine · 20/07/2025 20:37

I believe the right honourable lady herself once said white people love playing divide and rule. Could that be deemed racism out of interest?

Divide and rule was a successful colonial strategy. Even the encyclopaedia recognises it.

www.britannica.com/topic/divide-and-rule

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 21:12

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:06

If she can’t see any allyship, why can’t she say that? I see no allyship on this thread, by anyone.

And just because she has a different opinion, that doesn’t make her a bot.

Then you need to look a bit closer.

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:13

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 21:12

Then you need to look a bit closer.

Any examples?

No one objected to black people like being victims.

No one objected to the attack on DA’s son.

No one objected to conflation of Muslims with rapists.

Dangermoo · 20/07/2025 21:20

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 21:12

Then you need to look a bit closer.

The undertones became more obvious after the first few posts. Always ease themselves in gently.

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:21

Dangermoo · 20/07/2025 21:20

The undertones became more obvious after the first few posts. Always ease themselves in gently.

The racism against black people isn’t even an undertone.

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 21:22

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:13

Any examples?

No one objected to black people like being victims.

No one objected to the attack on DA’s son.

No one objected to conflation of Muslims with rapists.

Edited

Someone did object to the comment about Abbott's son (though I concede it could have been you - being an ally doesn't really encompass that though).

I didn't see the other two comments. But I did see people say they'd spent a lifetime going on marches, writing to their MPs and challenging racism. I myself attempted to explain my view of a non-racist, fair society and how I believe Abbott's comments aren't conducive to creating such a society. It's all in there.

Dangermoo · 20/07/2025 21:22

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:21

The racism against black people isn’t even an undertone.

Edited

No I'm not referring to that.

ForWittyTealOP · 20/07/2025 21:23

nomas · 20/07/2025 21:21

The racism against black people isn’t even an undertone.

Edited

Nor is the racism against anyone else! In that sense this is an equal opportunities thread.

SharonEllis · 20/07/2025 21:24

All this talk of allyship is disingenuous. @Lavenderflower said herself 'I would never align myself with or attempt to form an alliance with the Jewish community. I think everyone needs to advocate and fight their own battles.'