To ask how much you pay for beauty services like your nails, hair, etc?

[ChattyChai]

I’m 39, turning 40 at the end of the year.

My husband thinks I’m being ridiculous with what I spend, but we can afford it comfortably and it makes me feel good.

I spend £42 every 3-5 weeks on nails, and every 3 months or so an extra £15 to get my eyebrows waxed and tinted.

i spend £140 every two months on getting my hair extensions moved up, and then every 4 months an extra £77 to get my roots done.

he thinks this is silly money and an extra £110 a month we could be saving, but I work, it’s my only real splurge each month and it makes me feel great. Am I spending too much? How much do you spend?

Yes that seems hugely excessive

Can you not grow your nails and hair instead?

I don't spend anything! Probably partly because I can't afford it but, also, I'm not really bothered about 'grooming'?

I'm 52 and would quite like to get my eyebrows tinted though. Mine are so thin, they're barely visible.
I feel a bit silly though, because I don't know what to ask for? 😳

I absolutely notice if other peoples nails! I notice if they look lovely with bright colours on them and I especially notice if they’ve been chewed and picked to death. The same as I notice teeth.

Im a similar age and very DIY. I have a gel nail kit I bought myself so do my own mani pedi. My bfs sister cuts my hair for free. There’s no need to dye my hair as no greys yet, and I like my natural colour.

I learned to do my own waxing so every month i sit on a towel on my bed, watch and film and rip out every hair I possible can 😂 it’s actually quite satisfying!

I tint my own eyebrows and lashes- the at home kit costs I think £10 but lasts ages as you don’t need much dye. I also do my own tan, especially in the summer. Again this is under a tenner for a massive bottle. I use Colgate whitening strips rarely due to teeth damage potential. They’re literally a few quid.

Shampoo, products and skincare wise I stick to the basics. I think I look pretty good and well put together. I defo don’t feel hard done by.

Honestly I think part of it with me is I really done like being messed about with by a stranger 😂 like I cannot be arsed to go to a hairdresser and have them arse about for hours with my hair.

Ha Ha!

But one’s children may disagree. 😀

Going by your updates it doesn't sound like he cares about what is good for you and how your resources should support your wellbeing. Your resources in his opinion belong to him and are fully for him to decide how they best benefit his objectives. Arsehole.

Marriage is suppose to be about love and mutual respect.

@RachTheAlpaca

eh? What just let them grow and grow? She’d look like a witch 🧙 🤣

Nails and toes every month around £50.
Botox £180 every 3 months.
Fillers around £500 every couple of years.
Hair £60 every 3 months.
I did laser hair removal on my legs years ago when it first came out and they've never grown back so that was a good £3 or £5k spent.
Beauty products like; Retinol, rose hip, Vitamin A - all oils, vitamin supplements, cream, hylauronic acid, perfumes, hair creams, body sprays, 2 types of deodorant - literally priceless.

There is SO MUCH STUFF that there is no room for a man that moans about beauty treatments, if he wanted to marry a man like himself, he shoulda did that.

My ex used to ask me how much I spent on things and then loudly moan about it, but if I ever asked him how much he spent on his Land Rover or personalised plates, he would jokingly say "A fiver!" so that it was never up for discussion.

I will never disclose to anyone ever again unless they are asking to pay for it.

I do my own manicures, don't have lashes or botox etc.
Brow thread £8 every 4-6 weeks
Monthly pedicure £36
Facial/massage as and when, around £50
Hair colour and cut every 2 months anywhere between £60-£140 depending on whether just roots or colour refresh. This might change soon if I can find the right product to colour at home.

Zero.

My Mum cuts my hair, and I don’t have my nails done, brows, any waxing done etc.

My haircut / colour is ridiculously expensive (about 300 quid, do it 3 times a year).
No other treatments at all

I don't spend a penny on anything like this - nail varnish has never stuck to my nails well and I'm not allowed it on at work anyway so no point. My eyebrows I just tweeze and they look nice, and my mum just trims my hair for me (I'm 32) but I'm lucky in that my natural hair looks nice enough without anything needing doing to it (I don't straighten, curl it or anything)

But I spend a LOT of holidays and travel each year because that's what matters to me!

If you can afford it comfortable, I don't see a problem!

Nil. Hair cut done by my Mum for free (non professional but she does almost as good a job as the lady the used to do it for £30 every 6 weeks). Hair isn’t dyed as it’s too much upkeep and I’m not keen on all the chemicals. Nails kept clean and filed but polish is too much hassle. I use an epilator on body hair (so also “free” after the initial outlay) and don’t bother with lash tinting/brow tinting or makeup apart from concealer if I get a really bad spot and maybe some tinted fruity lip balm for fun (as I just find it pleasant to apply).

I did bother with all the hair dying, makeup, lash and brow tinting, professional body hair waxing, nails done etc when I was younger. But (and I don’t know how to say it in a nicer way) I feel like I’ve grown up and am over it now? I’m now in my forties with DC and I dread to think about the thousands I probably spent on stuff like that over the years, mostly because everyone else did it and I thought I “enjoyed it” too.

Possibly because now I’m older and have the benefit of more perspective/hindsight, I understand that actually I really don’t like the feel of most cosmetics on my skin and I honestly don’t think most of them (or the treatments) make people look any more attractive - they look just the same but with their hair/colour/nails/brows/makeup done to me. I now embrace the greys and my natural, very average/fairly plain looks (I have a non- professional job so don’t need to look “polished” for it ie. wear makeup 🙄).

BUT you do you. By that I mean it’s your money, your life and if it truly makes you feel happy then it is worth it and imo your husband doesn’t have any right to tell you differently. I don’t see how in principle it’s any different to spending money on any kind of frivolity- and that includes your DH’s golf membership. Plus based on threads like this, I mostly seem to be an oddity on my current views on beauty products/treatments anyway 🤷‍♀️

Never get nails or brows done, haircut once or twice a year £45 ish.

I do treat myself to a massage every now and then but not sure if that counts 🙈😂

My haircut costs £30 every 4 weeks (I have a pixie so needs trimming often). I use box dye at the same which is £8.
I am lucky that my adult child works in the beauty industry and my other child is at college learning beauty therapy. So I can go to the college and get manicures, waxing and facials done for peanuts or for practice.
If I didn't have this opportunity then I wouldn't pay elsewhere; I'd just do it myself at home.

£0. And it shows

Good for you!! Do what makes you happy

90 a month for unlimited eyelashes tints and brow shape

120 -150 on nails Infills every other week and a pedicure once a month

Hair probably 600 a year

Botox 450 a year every 4 months

Hair cut - £20 /£25 every 2 months
Eyebrows - when I can £15
Nails - do my own using a mix of gels/dips/BIAB/ stick ons/stickers - every now and then I have a splurge on new products - £100 a year?

I tend to think Im pretty low maintenance Only get the eyebrows done because I cant see to do them myself now. But I spend a lot more time then money now

£30 haircut every 6 weeks. Nil else.

My hair costs about £50-60 for cut, I always have good intentions of getting it done every 3 months but never get round to it and it's more like 6+ months between cuts these days. I dye my hair myself to cover a few greys.

Have never had nails, lashes or anything else done - it's a whole world I know nothing about to be honest.

If these things make you happy and you can afford the time and money then I don't see the problem. If they are stopping you being able to do things/save money then that's more or an issue.

It sounds like a lot to me (I spend about £40 to get my hair cut every 6 weeks, don't get nails done or anything else) but if you can afford it then why not?

Botox every 5 months £255
Hair every 10-12 weeks £80
I gave up my nails to pay for my botox lol

Your DH is being extremely unreasonable here. Change the childcare bills to come out of the joint account- now. You don't need his permission. He doesn't have your agreement that the golf membership is a joint expense yet he did it anyway.

I think you need to find a way of convincing him that he is looking at this all wrong. Is there a couple you know who split bills proportionally rather than 50/50 who you could use as an example? Is there someone he wpuld listen to on this given clearly he isn't listening to you?

Can you get a higher paid job, will your new one lead to better options?

This thread has been a revelation 😂

Haircut - last done in December. Will go again when the ends seem too damaged (or ideally will find a brave friend to cut ends)
Eyebrows - occasionally pluck them myself.
Hair in general - remove it myself
Nails - nail varnish from supermarket

I used to go for regular arm/leg waxes, but money is a lot tighter these days....

I try not to look at myself in the mirror tbh, except for brief periods to ensure I don't look too stupid/messy